Prolific Living

Farnoosh Brock

Mindset Check to Bet On Yourself, Not Against Yourself

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Start to Bet on Yourself and Be Your Own Cheerleader.

Start to bet on yourself.

Start to become your own cheerleader.

I want to talk to you about a topic today that when I first learned it in my own coaching experience I was a little surprised. My own coach called me out once when I was convincing her that I was not qualified for a particular client and she said to me “stop disqualifying yourself”.

I was disqualifying myself before the client had even made a decision. This is more common than you can imagine.

Let’s say you’re going for a job that’s bigger than one you’ve ever applied for, one that you may not fully qualify for on paper. Do you hear yourself say “oh they’re not going to pick me, oh there’s no way they’re going to ask me to join”.

Thats you disqualifying yourself well ahead of the process.

In fact you may not even apply because you may feel you’re not qualified.

Same if you’re in business. You may know that there are bigger things you want to do, that there are bigger clients you can serve and yet you are disqualifying yourself. You are making the decisions on their behalf.

Now let me ask you this: do you not know people who are in positions of power, authority, influence, leadership where they may not be fully qualified? Where they may not have all the credentials and all the qualifications to be there and yet there they are sitting in that seat comfortably and doing a reasonably good job?

They didn’t go around disqualifying themselves, they bet on their own success. They were their own cheerleader.

You’re doing all the hard work, I’m sure you are, so in the process make sure that you also act as your own cheerleader. Make sure that you choose to bet on yourself. Make sure that you approach any situation where you’re not sure by taking a curious approach.

You know what…I’m wondering if they might pick me? I bet I would do a really good job. I wonder if they would choose me as a candidate? I wonder if this client would like to work with me because I’m sure I can serve them well? That is not only an attractive approach it will serve you well.

So next time you’re going for something big remember don’t disqualify yourself.

Bet on yourself. Be your own cheerleader.

I’ll talk to you on the next video…bye!

One Question to Ask When You Don’t Know What to Do

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Get Unstuck with this One Question

What to do when you don’t know. You don’t know the next step in a challenge, in a personal or professional struggle? I am going to give you a powerful question that you can ask yourself to get unstuck.

You are an intelligent, resourceful and insightful person. You can solve your own problems.

So let’s give you a scenario. I’m going to be the boss scenario because most of us have bosses at some point or stage in our lives. You don’t know what to do about your boss. You don’t know why she’s acting strange or she’s sending these confusing signals and you are confused.

Here is the question you’re going to ask yourself.

What needs to happen for me to know the next step?

And that gets you thinking about the right scenario, the right environment that you need to create in order to have the answers. For example, you may need some mentoring from somebody in your organization. You may need to consult one of your colleagues because they may have been through the same situation. You may need to feel more confident to go and talk to your boss.

But you don’t see or hear those answers until you ask the question “what needs to happen for me to know what to do next?”.

This is a different answer, a unique situation for all of us and when you ask this question you begin to tap into the answers that you already know.

Remember you are resourceful, you are insightful and you have the answers to your own challenges and problems.

And when you are stuck next time ask yourself what needs to happen for me in this environment in this scenario for me to know the answers that I am looking for.

So next time you’re stuck I hope that this question is going to serve you well. Hope you enjoyed watching this video and I’ll talk to you on the next video…bye!

Stop with the Constant Doing and Fix the Thinking

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The Identity Question: What Do You Think of Yourself?

It’s not so much about doing all the time.

There is more involved in getting to those goals, those dreams, those ambitions, and those aspirations you have for yourself.

There is no question you are a busy person. You are doing doing doing all the time and if you are driven and successful already then you’re very familiar with the “doing” part of the work.

But what about thinking?

If I were to ask you how do you think about your business, how do you think about your career,

How do you see yourself in that realm and in that context what would you say?

Most people most of us me included we get so busy we do not pause to think about the whole perspective we have. For instance, if you are a professional, you offer professional services such as coaching and consulting and you’re so busy setting up your website and creating content and talking to prospects and trying to close them and delivering the coaching…I mean there is an endless list of things you get to do in business. Endless! And it is possible that you haven’t stopped to think what is it that I am really doing here.

How am I serving my clients.

Why am I the coach should come to.

What is the benefit they get from working with me.

What is it that sets me and my brand apart from others.

These questions often just ask you to contemplate to simply sit and think, maybe write, maybe just take a walk and be detached from the doing so that you can get clarity in your mind on how you see yourself.

What it is that you are all about because this is the part that attracts your clients to want to work with you. At the end of the day for a coach or a consultant or a professional person working with people, it isn’t about a fancy website.

It isn’t about how many blog posts you have out there. It isn’t about your fancy marketing strategy. It is about how you see yourself and how you portray that message to those who come to you for your help.

Because the only thing your prospect wants to know is whether you can help them and that is something you will need to communicate. You will need to articulate that through powerful questions and through your own understanding of what they need help with. That doesn’t happen with all the other stuff you are doing.

So take the time to do the right level of thinking. The right level of questions you need to ask yourself so you are clear on what kind of role you play in your business, in your career and your profession.

How you want people to view you and how you need to deliver that message with all of your presence, with your communication and with your actions.

So get a little less busy, do a little more thinking and I hope you enjoyed watching this video I’ll talk to you on the next video…bye.

Your Mind Believes Anything You Tell It

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Learn to Use, not Abuse, the Power of Your Mind.

Your mind believes anything you tell it.

Did you know that and do you know why that is so important?

Let’s talk about that today.

I am so passionate about how we can create the right life for ourselves by first creating the right mindset. So, your mind believes anything you tell it. Is it true? Let’s see.

What is it that you tell yourself all day long? You might be exceptional but most of us walk around saying relatively negative criticisms to ourselves or about ourselves.

Let’s say someone asks you whether you can run a marathon or you can give up cheese for a week usually the response is immediately I can’t. That phrase “I cannot” is part of our everyday dialogue and that is your message to your mind.

I can’t give up cheese.

I can’t run a marathon.

Your mind says “oh ok I can’t do that well we’re not going to bother because I know I can’t do that”. You’ve already woven a story that your mind believes. As you repeat this over time it becomes a fact to you. It becomes the truth whereas it’s really just something you’ve been telling yourself.

I had a personal transformation in my yoga journey recently that I still to this day cannot believe is happening because the story I had been telling myself was so powerful. I think it’s still part of my system.

This is a move where you transition from a complete backbend and you come back onto your feet, you come back to standing without any help. I’ve been doing it now about a hundred fifty times in a row (not in one practice but over the course of a month) and so I know that my body can do this now but the first time that it happened I had to convince my mind that I’m capable of doing this.

You see my body was already there.

My yoga teacher said your body has no limitations on doing this at this point in your journey but my mind had been keeping me from doing so because I have been telling myself the same story.

I was killing myself by trying so hard to come back to standing but to no avail, because my mind didn’t think we can do it.

It wasn’t going to change the outcome.

So what is it that you’re telling yourself all day long that you cannot do, that you don’t know what to do or whatever other negative phrases that you’re using?

Your mind listens and believes you and then uses that as a fact to run your life.

You can send a different message.

You can choose to believe in a different story: a story of being a confident person and saying that to your mind is most likely the true story.

So going forward tell yourself a different story. Change your mind on how you see yourself and see how that will integrate into so many better results in your life.

I hope you enjoyed this video and I’ll talk to you in the next video…bye!

You Need to Believe in Yourself! What Does It Mean?

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What Does It Mean to Believe in You?

You need to believe in yourself.

How many times have you heard this message?

If you have done any personal development work you have probably seen this message a lot and yet if things aren’t happening for you you might be a little bit sick of it.

Of course, you believe in yourself, you tell yourself, and yet things aren’t happening.

So let’s talk about this. This is a topic I am very passionate about because it took me forever to understand it.

So what does it mean to believe in yourself?

Well, first of all, it’s very different from being outwardly ambitious.

You may be outwardly ambitious whether you’re in a rising career or your own business. You might be very much outwardly ambitious and driven. That’s very different than be inwardly confident, truly confident, really and truly believing with all your body and mind that you are capable of doing what you want to do. Of becoming who you want to become.

I talked to a lot of successful people; most of them have accomplished great things and they have hit some kind of a plateau. When I asked them if they really believe they are capable of this next-level leap they say yes of course. Yet over the course of our conversations, I can hear the seeds of doubt in their mind.

It’s very, very hard and yet very important that you get this right.

So as you think about your goals, your impossible goals ideally, do you really believe you can do it?

Do you really believe with your whole body and mind with every part your being that you YOU! are capable of becoming this person or achieving this dream because if you do the rest is detail? You’ve already decided. Your mind has already arrived at the destination.

You are going to cover the rest because your mind is the most powerful tool you have and so this is the inner work and this is the mindset you need to work on. And so if things aren’t quite working, then work on this one element. I’m not saying it is the answer to everything but it is essential on your path to those impossible goals.

I’ll talk to you soon in the next video…bye!