Everyone starts on the path of growth and self-development with excitement.
I mean, isn’t it exciting to talk and plan how you will change your life for the better, how you will be good at something you care about, happier with yourself, less stressed and more financially secure.
Maybe in the process, you dare dream of even going so far as making a big scary change, like turning something you love into a profitable sustainable business.
Now the talking is the fun and easy part.
Millions of people have the desire to change. Just count how many times you hear “Oh I want to write a book!” or “Oh I want to do yoga!” or “Oh I really want to lose this weight!” or “Oh I want to quit my job and start my business.” and then watch how many people actually take any actionable measurable step toward their desires.
It’s easy enough to have the desire. That, sadly, doesn’t get you points.
I talk to a lot of people who come to me for coaching. They pick a 10 on a scale of 1-10 when I ask about the level of importance and urgency toward their goals. They swear it’s something they “can’t live without any more”, and then right as we are talking about commitment and decisive action, they drift off into the land of excuses and false stories.
Many people never get past the having-the-desire phase. Most never venture to the doing phase. Their dreams are too big and scary for their mind. So they stay in the “I want” stage indefinitely.
You Don’t Have to be one of them.
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What gets in the way, you wonder?
What is it that kills fragile dreams and desires in most of us before it even has a chance to take flight?
And how is it that a precious few go unaffected by this killer, this monster?
Meet the enemy, the monster, the killer of dreams.
Meet Resistance, the monster that shows up unbidden whenever you so much as take a tiny step toward change and growth and bettering yourself. It is quiet, unseen, and most dangerous. It is seductive, judgemental (in your favor!) and acts like your best friend. It may even be sensible like the voice of “Come on, you really don’t have to pursue this goal!” in your head.
Resistance can make you pack up your dreams and run out of the place faster than any other ACTUAL obstacle you may face on the road to materializing your dreams.
Resistance feeds on your fears. If you are afraid, you are inviting resistance in and asking it to stay.
Resistance is the monster you need to learn how to fight if – and only if – you are serious about creating a big change in your life.
Resistance is the enemy that Steven Pressfield so masterfully describes in his book, Do the Work.
How do you fight it? How do you win over resistance?
Now meet your ally, your best friend, your saving grace
Repetition is your absolute best friend and ally whenever you set out to improve your life in any way.
Repetition beats Resistance every single time IF you give it enough fuel.
You want to become a best-selling writer?
You want to get flexible and strong with yoga?
You want to get good at coaching others?
First define the necessary skills you need. Then develop a habit around it. Let the repetition of the habit help you become the writer, the business person, the yogi, the coach and repeat it over and over and over and over.
Listen, you gotta own up to what you say you want because nobody is going to hand you a silver spoon and feed your dreams to you. You have to go after them yourself. With Repetition!
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If you want it, you can have it. Just do this over and over.
Repetition. You repeat the process, the habit, the routine, the task long enough for it to take hold. For it to become natural.
You write daily until you can’t go to bed without the daily dose of writing out of your system.
You do yoga daily until your body opens in the poses, your muscles relax and give, and a new you emerges.
You coach others who can use your help over and over until you master the craft and become the go-to person who helps and listens and knows just what to ask and what to say.
You become the thing you want through the process of Repetition, and with it, you give Resistance zero chance to survive.
But repetition is hard, hard work.
Repetition is not a sexy shortcut to your dreams. Nothing is.
Repetition is the path to higher consciousness and achievement.
Repetition is the fuel that unfolds your true progress toward goals.
Repetition works slowly. It works behind the scenes. You can’t see the progress immediately. You can’t feel it, and sometimes, you may feel the opposite, but that’s okay. Listen, it takes time to bring your dreams into reality,
If you keep repeating it, you will master it. And it can be anything, anything at all.
I went from a corporate junkie where the most interesting thing I ever wrote was a technical paper on Voice over IP technology – yawwwwwwn!!! – to writing creative fun best-selling books on juicing and smoothies and motivation and travel and leadership. How? By being determined to learn how to do this – the writing, the creative process, the business around it. Repetition, I promise you, has been my secret.
Because unless you are one of the precious few born with natural genius and an IQ higher than Einstein where you can master stuff overnight, you will need a better plan to get there.
And get there you will but repeat it you must, over and over and over, until the thing you love so much becomes your craft, a habit attuned to your muscles and body, a ritual, a task so effortlessly performed that you stun yourself if you only stopped long enough to think.
If you’re not convinced this will work, hit me up for a chat. Let’s explore how to get you out of the Desire state into the Doing and Making it Happen stage.