Your addiction, your choice.
Why do people get addicted to smoking, drugs, violence or junk food? Why do they turn to habits that slowly but surely kill them?
Is it possible that they lose control of their senses and that outside factors such as peer pressure – which is driven largely by morons of society – is in charge of their actions?
Is it remotely possible that a smoking or drug abuse or junk food addiction is not through a fault of your own and that some inexplicable force from the universe twisted your arm to smoke that joint or to get hooked on junk food or drink yourself to a wretched existence?
Of course not.
You have control of your senses and you are responsible for your actions, but that’s neither sexy nor cool now is it? Somehow, somewhere, stupid – ridiculous, disgusting, dumb, foolish, idiotic, ignorant, boneheaded – became the new sexy and cool, and smart got ousted for being dull and boring.
I hope you didn’t fall into that sad trap.
But if you did, you can turn things around.
This is not a statement to inspire you. This is a fact.
You want proof?
We see countless examples of ordinary people everyday who transform themselves from the depths of horrible addictions (that they got themselves into) and turn things completely around. They start fresh. They forgive their past. They move on clean and ready to live life free of addiction.
If they can, so can you. If that’s what you want.
But first, do you want to be free of pain?
Falling into an addiction is a terrible thing, but if you are in it already, you have got to give up your addictions if you want to be free of pain. There is no other way to escape the pain.
But do you want to be free of pain? That is the first question you should ask yourself.
Some people, it turns out, enjoy to be in pain. They get to complain about it and have an excuse to ooze sympathy from friends and family all day long. They get to be a victim, full of drama and need for attention.
They also get to waste their entire lives.
So do you want to be in pain or are you ready to be free of pain? It is but a choice. Your Choice. All you have to do is say it.
“I am ready to be free of pain.”
Not once but a hundred times. Say it until you can’t say or think the opposite.
Listen, falling into an addiction is sad, but it is the consequences of deliberate actions that a willing human being takes. For your addictions, that human being is you and for mine, it’s me.
By the same token, the reverse actions can be taken to a better pain-free place.
You can tell yourself all day long: “I’m weak! I can’t quit [the-addiction]. I’m not as strong as those other people!” but that is a broken record, darling and a lie and an excuse, and even you probably don’t believe it as much as you’d like.
Addictions are an escape into a fantasy world, and you can choose brilliantly wonderful addictions that can give you that escape and better without harming your body, without killing yourself slowly and without hurting your family to pieces because they will feel sorry and they will blame themselves for your failings.
How to Be Free of Pain? 10 Addictions to Give Up
Here are 10 addictions that plague your mind, your body, and your soul to a darkness that it does not need or deserve. Addictions that harm you in more ways you can count the longer you continue them. Addictions that rip your heart and your family and your career apart. Addictions that in the end can kill you. You want to know how to be free of pain? Give them up and claim your life back.
I’ve divided these addictions into 2 categories. The first set affects the physical body and brain and the second set affects the heart and the mind:
5 addictions that harm the physical body and brain:
4. Junk food
5 addictions that harm the heart and the mind:
1. Resorting to negative self-talk, self-sabotage and self-hatred.
2. Blaming the world for your problems.
3. Complaining about everything to everyone.
4. Berating and belittling others, strangers or loved-ones.
5. Holding on to the victim mindset.
Asking for Help is a Sign of Courage
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. That’s your addiction talking, and it is never ever the sound of truth.
Asking for help when you need it is a true sign of courage, and it’s the very first step. You don’t have to know the next 27 steps in the process. You just need to take one step forward now.
So simplify your goals. Complexity always robs you of taking any action. Simplify by taking one single tiny step in the right direction but take that step with conviction. Don’t be wishy-washy about it. Ask for help and mean it. Ask for help and show your gratitude by doing what it is that the helper suggests.
Ask for help and watch your world fill with love and support and compassion from people that you thought have abandoned you. They haven’t. It’s YOU that abandoned them through your addiction, and it’s you that has to decide to come back.
So come back already. The rest of your life is waiting to happen, and you can make it the very best of your life.