How do you know when you are living your dream?
How do you know when you are in the right job?
How do you know if you are in the right business?
I get these questions frequently during TV and radio interviews as well as when working with my amazing coaching clients.
The answers are simple but not easy, simple but not popular, simple but not for all.
First, let me share a recent Facebook update that inspired me to write this post and incidentally, it’ll give the answers to the questions above:
Speaking events. International travels. Exclusive clients. Successful products. Freedom lifestyle. Doing What I LOVE every day. My lowest hardest most wretched days in 4 years of entrepreneurship far far FAAAAAAAAR outweigh my best brightest most epic times in my 11-year Cisco corporate career. Hands down. That’s how I know I am living my purpose and fulfilling my destiny. That is how you know you are doing what your soul, your core being, your heart and your spirit were meant to do, this is how you find and stick to your purpose. This Feeling. There is no mistaking this feeling when you find it. So if something doesn’t feel this way in your life, there’s something much much MUCH better. Do NOT settle for mediocre, or average, or blah in your work or in your relationships or in your friendships. You can have EXQUISITE delicious fantastic unbelievably amazing … if (and only if) you decide you want it. You do have to decide!
How to Never Put Yourself in a Box
Did you know that nobody puts you in a box? You do that for yourself just fine.
You put yourself in a career box, a relationship box, a lifestyle box, a family box and a belief system box, and you can choose to get out of those boxes anytime you wish.
No one is holding you hostage. No one is locking you up. Nobody said it has to be this way. Except YOU. You did that to yourself and you can undo it just as well as you did it.
You are free to go. You are free to explore. You are free to abandon a bad relationship, a wretched job (this I can show you how to do), and a lousy friend. You are also free to stick around and continue the cycle of abuse and pain and harm and sabotage.
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Living courageously and fearlessly is not a choice everyone will take. Everyone has the choice, but very few take it. Most people choose to succumb to the lousy “I don’t feel like it” syndrome for the majority of their lives.
Very few souls can tune out the noisy world long enough to listen to the rhythm of their own hearts, and to connect with what matters the most and then take the right steps in their lives to align to that inner voice, to that wisdom and guidance that comes from within you.
Most people will dismiss “living courageously and fearlessly” as a new age movement of the new generation who doesn’t know any better. Most would rather tune in to their endless array of excuses and barrage of complaints.
Most would rather sit on the couch and stew rather than walk a real mile in your shoes.
Those same people would sooner call you “lucky” and miss the whole entire point of your life’s message than listen to a word of what you have to say.
They will never hear the truth that they too have a choice, the choice is the big fat elephant in the room staring them in the face and they – through their ego-covered glasses – cannot for the life of them see it, much less take advantage of it.
So you can stay a victim, in a cage when the door is wide open before you and you can choose to traverse to any paradise of your heart’s calling. Or choose to stay by the side of your fears and frustrations.
On Transforming Yourself out of the Box
My hope for you is that you can see – before it’s too late – that you are a rare beautiful soul that has awakened to what matters in your life, and is ready to live life, not merely exist among the living.
My hope for you is that you have already transformed yourself out of every box ….
You’ve drowned your excuses. You’ve murdered your complaints. You’ve killed the victim mindset and put the winner mindset in charge of you.
You’ve decided that you want to learn how to live fearlessly. You’ve declared it is time to be motivated. You’ve decided it is worth it and you are worth it.
Because perhaps you’ve grown so sick and tired of living a mediocre life that you don’t care what it takes to get out of it, you are never going to let anyone put you in a box and tell you how to live your life. Never, ever again.
You are ready for a fearless and courageous life!
So welcome. Make yourself at home. I’ve got a wee bit more to say.
But Wait: Is the Fearless Life Even “practical” or “realistic”?
Throw out those questions and replace it with this: Is the fearless life RIGHT for you? Is the courageous life TRUE to who you are?
If the answer is no, then go live your truth whatever it may be, go do what’s right for you. If you stick to that, you will have peace and happiness. It’s when we divert from our truth and what’s right for us that we get into trouble. Stop diverting already!
And if fearless is right and courageous feels true, then go be just that.
Approve of yourself, since criticizing and judging hasn’t worked so well.
Support your own goals instead of sabotaging them.
Love yourself instead of anything less.
Be on your own side, root for you, cheer yourself on, have a little more faith in yourself and a lot less faith in the lousy opinion of anyone who doesn’t believe in you.
Let yourself unfold. Let your magic begin. Let creativity and abundance take over. Let fears run and hide from you. Let insecurities vaporize.
Let yourself believe that you are worthy, you are ready, you are capable. Let love find you and fill you up and show you how to come home.
Do this and you’ll wake up to a new you tomorrow. And if you need help getting there, talk to me.