Smart Exit Blueprint Video Week 4

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Video #4 Transcript

Hello and welcome back to our fourth educational video series. My name is Farnoosh Brock and I’m very happy you’re here today.

Today I want to talk to you about mindset – how do you get in the right frame of mind and why is it so important? I want to talk to you about what gets in the way, because I know that you have really good intentions. You want to have a good career, you want to do fulfilling work; you want to be happy with your job but something gets in the way, and I want to talk about that today. I want to address the details of that and help you get in the right frame of mind.

Are you ready?

Over ten years ago, I walked into a chiropractor’s office. I don’t remember much about the experience except one thing: there was a sign on his wall that read, “Ignoring the pain won’t make it go away.” He was of course referring to physical pain and telling us that we need to take care of our bodies but I remember years later that I did the same exact thing in my career. I ignored all the signs, all the pain, all he frustrations and I ignored them because even though I was unhappy where I was, it was familiar and I was afraid to take action.

That is what we are going to talk about, because if you are unhappy and you are going through pain, ignoring it won’t make it go away. You will have to take some action. So let’s talk about what gets in the way of taking action. I believe there are three fears, three top fears, that we have when we think about taking a change in our life and taking action and I want to talk you about these fears.

The first one: fear of uncertainty. Anything that you are not familiar with is uncertain to you. Now if you think about this logically, certainty comes when you have more control over a situation. However, if you are in a job where you work for someone else or you work in a company where you don’t know all the factors involved, you really don’t have that much control and that’s the irony of it. When we have that situation, we don’t have that much control. We know the present time but we don’t know what lies ahead tomorrow or the day after. So the way to take control or to make the situation more certain is by inserting yourself more in the situation.

I’m not saying to go off and start your own business; that’s not for everyone. What are some things that you can do to make the situation more certain so that you don’t have so much fear? For instance, you can have a backup plan just in case things go wrong. You can start to take some action in moving in the right direction in your career. You can start to have a conversation with your partner in case you want to make a change. You can look at your finances and maybe find ways to add residual income to your household. You can think of so many different ways where you actually add real certainty into your situation and that help melts the fear of uncertainty. The fear of uncertainty is really taking what’s holding you back. Taking action is really going to improve the situation every time.

Let’s move on and talk about the second one.

The second one is the fear of failure and everyone feels this. I want to tell you that the fear of failure is a complete waste of time and this is why; failure is imminent. Failure and success go hand in hand and failure is a blessing because failure is the best way to learn. Every successful person has failed at least once if not multiple times on their path to success. Failure itself teaches you things. It helps you grow, it helps you push through the difficult things; learn what you need to know and then pick up and try again. The fear of failure is just a waste of time.

I am here to tell you that the good news or the bad news is that you are going to fail. If you’re going to try something, if you’re going to take a risk, failure is imminent but it’s a good thing because you want to get the failures out of the way and can keep trying and then success is imminent for you.

So, don’t let the fear of failure hold you back – that’s the worse one.

The last one is fear of rejection and that’s two groups of rejection. I think of them as two groups. One of them is the fear of rejection by family, friends, people that you love and care about and the other one is the fear of rejection by maybe associations that you are in, maybe a group of people or by society at large.

Let’s talk about the first one. This is if you make a decision and you move in a different direction in your life and you are afraid that you will be rejected by those that you love but I want to tell you, because I had to face this, that it’s not as bad as you think. The people you care about care about you. They love you but they may not understand what you are doing. Your job is to have compassion for the fact that they don’t understand and then help them understand. They are still going to love you but they don’t have to fully understand your decisions right this minute and be fully supportive. As long as they can slowly come on board you can work on them. I don’t think that that should really hold you back. Certainly, you need to have some mutual understanding with you partner in life, but don’t let the fear of possible rejection of family and friends hold you back.

The other fear is the fear of rejection by people that you have crossed paths with, or different societies and networks and society at large. That fear is not so important because if these people really, really care about you they would actually support you, and if you don’t have their support then maybe it’s time to move on. Maybe those relationships will come to an end or move to a different phase. You will experience changes in your circle of people as you make a different decision and move to a different phase. That’s natural. So don’t expect your coworkers and your bosses and your managers to be all excited when you are about to make a change. You need to just make sure you understand what risks you are taking, what direction you need to move and how to create the right conditions for your own success.

So, those are the top three fears that usually hold us back and as you can see, the reality is really not that bad. In fact, by focusing on these fears you need to understand the cost of this. The cost of this is the cost of not taking action because these fears can paralyze you and when you don’t take action, nothing happens. As the chiropractor’s sign said, “The pain will not go away by ignoring it.”

I want to encourage you with this video to look at your fears; to really try to analyze what’s going on and what’s keeping you from taking action because I know you have good intentions and you want to have a fulfilling career and work that you can love and feel excited about.

I hope this video was helpful and helped you get a little bit in the right frame of mind as you get ready to make changes in your career. I’d love to have you in the Smart Exit Blueprint class if you are interested in working together to put a step by step plan for your exit plan from where you are to where you are meant to be then I would love to work with you.

I’ll see you soon and I’ll talk to you in the next video. Bye!