8 Lies that Sabotage Your Success Every Single Time

Do you believe in luck for success?

The question came through Twitter from Darren Rowse, a big Australian blogger who has been a true inspiration.

No, I said in response. I do not believe in luck. .


You create our own “luck” with life’s circumstances by setting intention, making decisions and creating action. You bring about opportunities and get yourself poised for success of your own will and accord.

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

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You get into a good situation and work your way out of a bad one with accountability and willingness to work through the good and the bad.

That’s how successful people get what we want. They do not call on luck to help them out. They create their own luck.

I have yet to meet a successful person who summons luck every time she sets a new goal for herself. It just doesn’t work that way, sweet love.

It’s your life and so you can define success however you like. Maybe success for you is a large sum of money, a peaceful home and family or a life of service and giving. Or a beautiful combination.

But there is no defining “luck” because it doesn’t exist. Good things happen at the meeting of opportunity and hard work, but you control both of those. So let go of your false beliefs.

8 Lies to Stop Telling Yourself Now

So the first lie is simple: You need luck to be successful.
Um. Sorry but you don’t.

Now go create your success but only after you have read below the other lies that sabotage your success every time.

Lie #1. You need luck on your side in order to be successful.

No, you don’t. There is no such thing as luck. You need intention and willingness. You need preparation and opportunity. All of this, you can create and achieve for yourself without the illusion of luck.

Lie #2. You need to be young to pursue your dreams.

There is no age limit for pursuing your dreams. The wisdom you gain over the years helps you pursue your dreams better, faster and smarter. Youth is overrated and the value of experience way under-rated.

Lie #3. You need others to help you because you can’t do it on your own.

There is a lot to learn and gain from supporters and mentors. And it pays to hang out with the right influencers and enjoy the right circle of friends. But you can absolutely do anything you set your mind to, with and sometimes without the support of others.

Lie #4. You need to sacrifice your whole life to achieve your goals.

That’s not true. You need to work hard at the beginning of every new pursuit but then it gets easier and better, and you get better at it too. Successful people have a life, hobbies, fun as well as a life of pursuits and accomplishments.

Lie #5. You need to compromise on your values to get where you want to go.

There is no need for this, and if you feel you need to do this, you are not seeing the whole picture. There is always a way to get to where you want to go with integrity and honesty. Never compromise on your core values.

Lie #6. You need a lot of money to create success and wealth in your life.

Pure rubbish. The best and brightest heroes of our time past and present rise from dirt and ashes. There is no pride in being poor, as J.K. Rowling says, but there’s also no need to be well-off in order to create success (the last part: my commentary).

Lie #7. You need to go the safe and known route to ensure you make it.

The safe route is one option in life, but it is not without its cost. You pay dearly by giving up on how much bigger and better it could have been and you take less risk and therefore find out less about you. There are other paths to success than those already walked by others. Dare to create your own.

Lie #8. You need to be realistic about the goals you set so you don’t get disappointed.

You create your own reality, honey, and so realistic for you could be obnoxiously ambitious for your best friend. So Be It. Don’t judge what others are doing with their lives and reserve the right not to let them judge you.

Think big.

Set big goals.

Create a big vision. Then wake up every day and go after it one single step after another.

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So learn to listen for these lies and notice where they show up. Then stand up to them by not believing a word. It’s all a lie, anyway. Nothing should come between you and your desires, if you want to pursue them in this one life.

So do you ever hear these lies in your head? Do you hear someone else casually whisper them in your ear or even imply them in conversation? Tell me your thoughts and any other lies I may have left out in the comments below.

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  • Sudhir Suvarna

    Instead of referring it as a lie, maybe you could have referred it as myth .
    I agree with all points though.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Sudhir, I see them as lies but it is a myth that we believe in them :)! Thank you for dropping by.

  • http://www.selfstairway.com/40-things-i-wish-i-knew-sooner/ Vincent

    Adding onto #7–and I know this may get a lot of debate–but a college degree should be looked upon with a critical eye as well. It’s not the only path to success nor is it a guarantee, but people who think like this are criticized.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Oh So True, Vincent. And in my case, not one but two college degrees – tell me about it, my friend. I’m so happy you brought that up.

  • http://gettingcomfy.com Barbara

    I made a major career change in my late 30’s, a few years later a coworker pointed out with some malice how lucky I had been to have progressed so quickly. I responded that it wasn’t luck it was hard work, taking a risk by putting my hand up to do the tough project that no one else wanted, the extra study I did at night, the people skills I brought with me from my previous job. That was the moment I truly realised that I wasn’t lucky I had planned and worked for it and that there is no luck. This is a great list.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Barbara, Good For You! I know the kind of person you reference – the voice of jealousy and the “well you were lucky” nonsense. Good for you to respond the way that you did. Thanks SO much for sharing your story! Please share the post if it might help someone else too ….

  • http://marinazet.wordpress.com/2013/05/08/excellent-day-recipe/ Marina

    excellent article!
    The best preparation for success in the first place is a good state of mind.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Marina, well-said.

  • http://kidcorona.com Kid Corona

    Love the list. The media especially only focuses on the high-lites of success without ever pointing out what it actually took to get there. This type of celebration sometimes sends the wrong message. I would like to add that thick skin is another trait you must have to battle against all the nay sayers and those who will try their hardest to bring you down. Even that “lucky kid” who made it big with one youtube video had to practice everyday to the best of his ability for that “lucky moment” to take place

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Kid, very well said about the naysayers. You are completely right. And very good example to describe your point too! :) thanks for stopping by.

  • http://www.youremotionalfreedom.com Ben

    I’ve told myself all of these, the interesting thing with these and self-doubt in general is all the excuses sound so logical and rational.. they ‘make sense’ and most people would agree if you said them.

    But it’s only when you can get past them and do the work anyway that things will start going better.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Ben, Thanks for sharing your insights. You are right, it’s when you put them to work – that’s true for everything in life. Everything. It’s not about rationalizing it – it’s more about internalizing things. I hope this helps.

  • http://www.twonontechies.com Jesicka

    Beautiful post. So true, especially the one that says “you can’t do it alone.” sometimes you just have to- and the one about “being realistic” with your goals. Seriously, I have a group of friends who would totally understand my goals (like-minded entrepreneurs) and some other acquaintances and friends who would just call me “crazy” and a “dreamer.” What do I care what they think! What’s realistic to me is what matters.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hello Jesicka, doing things alone is perfectly fine too.Your approach is refreshing and you are right to surround yourself with the right people :)!

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  • http://www.workingmystic.com Nneka, Working Mystic

    I get you on number 3, but it’s great to have support and cohorts. I’m a DIY’er. I’ve been independent all my life. I go it alone. I’ve found it to be a much easier road when I request and remain open to help. I’ve hurt myself a lot by not asking for and/or not being open to help.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Nneka, lovely seeing you again. Independence is an attractive feature, Nneka, and sadly, we hurt ourselves with our own expectations – it’s no good. I’ve learned to adjust my expectations …. I hope you continue to get the support you need and none of the unintended ‘hurt’!

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  • Melly Deen

    Farnoosh, thanks for Lie #4 because I really don’t want to sacrifice my whole life to pursue my big dream….. that gives me so much peace of mind! Thank you!!!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Lie #4 is a big one – you need to work hard that’s for sure but sacrifice everything – no way. Start that dream fast, Melly! No more waiting, dear!

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