Episode 3: Earning Respect in the Communication

The Daily Interaction PodcastWelcome back to Episode #3 of The Daily Interaction podcast. In this episode, I shine a huge light on respect in our daily interactions, how to show it, expect it and receive it in return. This can be both in person and in our virtual communications.

Respect may seem simple and obvious on the surface but it is a devilishly complex aspect of our daily communications. How do we show respect to everyone? How do we ensure that our good intentions are perceived as such by those with whom we interact in our world and what are some smart ways you can manage those “delicate” situations where respect is concerned?

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Your Weekly Friday Show Notes:

1. My unforgettable lesson in respect form the Irish couple with whom we were good friends while living in Turkey in the 1980s.

2. The truth about listening and how you can get yourself in the mode of true listening in all your conversations.

3. What to do when you are the recipient of disrespect from others and my sour experience at a recent conference with a very popular person. Oh and how to never lose your human touch in case of [extreme] popularity.

4. What to do when someone simply does not reply to your precious email communications and my super tricks on how to make this work in your favor.

5. How to handle disrespect when it is from someone important in your life’s circle, someone in a high-up place with power and authority. How to keep the relationship but set the right expectations and especially demand respect.

6. And a touch on my favorite topic: punctuality. How to handle people who do not respect your time and why punctuality matters, still and to this day in our world. And why you need to watch the Birdcage – yes, it’s relevant.

Your thoughts on the show: If you have thoughts and questions or what topics you want to hear about in the Daily Interaction., email me at tdi[a]prolificliving[dot]com and I will incorporate them in the show.

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  • http://www.kaizenvision.com Aileen | Kaizen Vision

    Such an important topic!

    Far too often most of us aren’t aware that we’re being disrespectful. I know for myself, I don’t intend to be disrespectful, but if I’m unaware then I won’t make important changes. You share a vitally important insight.

    One of my best friends thought I was a horrid snob when we first met because I didn’t look him in the eyes. He felt I was looking past him. Actually I was shy and intimated and tried not to be shy – and it came off as aloof.

    There are so many great suggestions in this podcast . I’ll be replaying this one – I may need put a checklist together!!!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Aileen, thank you so much for being such an avid listener.
      Unintentional disrespect doesn’t count!! :) I am sure your friend totally understood but that does prove my point in terms of perceptions. If your friend were a stranger or a boss or someone who did not care to tell you in the end how your shyness came across, it might have been even harder on you.
      I am so happy the podcast resonated. Selecting topics has been both a no-brainer and a big wonder for me in whether the listeners will agree that this is an important topic. I have to say, your comments are a huge encouragement. Thank you!!

  • http://SourcesOfInsight.com J.D. Meier

    Empathic listening is one of the best skills we can learn in life. It’s listening until others *feel* heard.

    One of my favorite quotes on listening is …

    ““Everything has been said before, but since nobody listens we have to keep going back and beginning all over again.” — Andre Gide

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Oh that is the word I was looking for, J.D.: Empathic listening. Thank you. Feeling heard, as you say, is very important and perhaps one of the greatest human desires. Thank you for the beautiful quote!

  • http://www.YourExtraordinaryFuture.com Sean Cox

    Thanks so much Farnoosh–I love the podcast. Such a crucial topic–as the Queen of Soul says, “R.E.S.P.E.C.T.”

    And yes, yes, yes, no interrupting! But it can be so hard, especially when we have such a brilliant comment, right? Or if we have the killer point to prove the other “wrong”. Ughhh, human nature.

    Listening is a lost skill. I say “skill” instead of “art”, because it must be learned skillfully before it can be expressed artfully.

    And finally, we have TWO ears and ONE mouth–let’s all listen twice as much as we talk!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hello dear Sean, thanks so so much!! It *can* be hard, I know, and I am constantly working on it too. Human nature never learns!!! Sigh.
      It is a skill, you are right – I don’t think I still have it down path but I am really happy with how far I have come. In our conversations, I felt that you were a very good listener. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and it’s so nice to see you here, as always!

  • Mary Jane

    Farnoosh,

    Excellent podcast. We all need to work on truly listening. Another, more concrete and practical way, to describe mindfulness and presence. And walking our talk.

    We all pull our pants on one leg at a time. Good for you for walking away. I heard someone famous once say that he observes how the people around him “treat those from who they want nothing”, as he evaluates whether their motivation for being with him is genuine.

    I thought about introducing myself to you at a conference, but I was too shy :-). I should have come over and said “Hi”.

    I like your advice on handling the “lost” emails. And the disrespect from a higher up.

    I have a situation where I found blood dripping on my shoes, and it took me awhile to figure out who planted the knife. Totally unacceptable, and the individual was not open to respectful resolution. Now that I know, I am disengaging and leaving, in spite of the very big inconvenience. Because, if we don’t respect ourselves, we don’t truly respect others. Just as love and compassion begin with ourselves–and radiate out to the world.

    Am really loving your blog.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Mary Jane, so so glad you think so on the podcast. Gosh, your experience at the end really scared me. What happened? Are you alright?
      I am happy you resonated also with the topic of respect. And which conference were you in and why would you not say hello? I like to think I am very, very approachable but goodness, I hope I did not give the impression of anything otherwise.
      Thanks so much for sharing all of these thoughts – and you never know what I may pick up and quote on the next podcasts form all the awesome comments I receive :)!!

  • http://the100percentyou.com/ John Sherry

    Respect – awesome choice Farnoosh. The finer aspects of life are fast being eroded – respect, good manners, politeness, proper language, thanks and appreciation, giving others a few minutes of your time – and being lost from everyday experience. Anyone who reminds us not to let them disappear gets my full support! I think these Daily Interactions are quite simply marvellous -thank you for taking time to craft them.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      John, it’s so so good to know these topics are not dead but alive and well and yes, there is a lot to be said on all of them. I will see if I can talk about good manners. My hubby thinks mine need improvement, ha ha ha ;)! But this is an awesome show of support – don’t be surprised if your name comes into mention in The Daily Interactions podcast in the near future. Thank you for stopping and sharing. Made my day!

  • http://www.markgoulstonmd.com Christy

    I consider respect as one of the most essential values. Thank you for choosing respect as a topic.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi again Christy, thank you and so glad to get another vote of confidence for respect.

      • http://www.markgoulstonmd.com Christy

        No problem with that, I love reading good posts like this blog.

  • http://betweenthetemples.com Chris Harris

    Hi Farnoosh,

    While I listened to this podcast, I can’t help but think what a colossal mistake it was to let etiquette training fall to the way side in this country.

    The loss of common courtesy and etiquette has greatly contributed to the coarsening of society- especially in areas of conversation and respect.

    When I am in conversations, I try to remember Epictetus’ words, “Silence is safer than speech.”

  • Negar

    Great topic, Farnoosh! I, too remember learning how valuable respect is. When I was in the 2nd grade, my mom, sister and I went to an open house at our elementary school. My mother was talking to Neda’s teacher when I noticed that in her classroom, there was a photo of me on the wall instead of Neda. I guess my mother had accidently given Neda a photo of me for a class project instead of Neda (hehe!). In the midst of my teacher and my mother’s conversation, I quickly interrupted them and told them that that picture was of me and not Neda. I remember my mom looking embarrassed, partly because she had given the wrong photo and partly because I was very rude in the way I blurted it out. Afterwards, my mom talked to me and taught me two important lessons. 1) I should never interrupt people while they are speaking and 2) I should never point out someone’s fault in front of others. Faults should only be addressed one-on-one as not to embarrass the person you are speaking with. Funny enough, this 2nd grade teacher lives in our neighborhood and I see her once in a while at subdivision pool / out walking. I’m glad I have a chance to redeem myself and show her that I have some etiquette now! ;)

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Negar, I am a sucker for stories – ESPECIALLY family stories. So thank you so so much for sharing! I will always remember it and I know exactly how you feel about these lessons. I’ve had plenty and yes, everyone has forgotten and forgiven you by now so worry not, my dear! I just know not to ever mix up you and Neda’s photo, that’s all ;)!
      Glad you are enjoying the podcasts. If ever you think of things I can do better, you must promise to tell me. Big hugs!