Welcome back to Episode #35 of The Daily Interaction podcast. Today’s topic is on 10 Phrases to Ban from Your Vocabulary. I talk to you about the negative, opposing, yet seemingly innocent thoughts and phrases that we use without even knowing or thinking about them and their underlying impact every single time. I want to challenge you to ban these self-limiting thoughts and phrases from your vocabulary and don’t be surprised if it drastically enhances your life.
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Peter James Sinclair, the fresh voice for this episode, runs a fabulous blog called Motivational Memo. He is a great entrepreneur who has also turned his children into budding entrepreneurs. I find that completely unique about him and something to model in your life if applicable. You can find him at Motivational Memo. In fact, on March 23rd, I have a guest post up on Motivational Memo: Motivation is Not Out There: Start Looking Within. Thank you, Peter!
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Let’s get on with our 10 phrases, shall we? Just as you eliminate things and thoughts to get clarity, focus and renewed perspective on life, you should eliminate words and phrases that do nothing but harm you in the short and long term.
1. “I am not good enough.” – Why do you even make this decision before you even give yourself a chance? Or else why punish yourself indefinitely for something that may have happened in the past?
Instead, I want you to say: “I may not know who to do this, but I can figure it out, I can learn, I can find the answers, I CAN do it.” Or simply: “Yes, I am enough.”
2. “I don’t have a choice” – Yes you do. You always have a choice. Except the very rare circumstances, there is always a decision to be made and you make that, even by declaring that you don’t have a choice, you are still making a decision, albeit a poor one. When you say this, you strip yourself of all power and control over your life and play the victim. Don’t do it. Ban the phrase.
Instead, I want you to say: “I have a choice and I made this one.”
3. “I can’t do that – I don’t have any willpower.” – When you say that, you assign status to yourself and you have no idea, by the way, how long and far your will power can go. Willpower is a state of mind. Don’t let your own mind to get in your own way.
Instead, I want you to say: “I am going to do this.” “I will give it my best shot.” Or my other suggestions.
4. “It’s their fault – they are to blame.” – This is only momentarily making you “feel good” while at the same time, you are completely disarming yourself from all control and responsibility and accountability for your own life. Don’t try to put other people down in order to feel better. These feelings will never serve you well in getting you what you want.
Instead, I want you to say: “I am responsible for my own life.”
5. “I wish I could do that.” – Why don’t you then? What is stopping you from doing that? Saying this takes away all your chances of actually doing the thing in question. You play the weak victim of circumstance instead of working on how you can actually do that yourself.
Instead, I want you to say: “I plan on doing that.” “I might just do that – that sounds interesting.”
6. “They just got lucky.” – That is not the explanation for other people’s success and wealth. You do not possibly have enough information to make that statement. When you say that about others, you show your jealousy and also make the success all about these outside factors that you cannot control, and therefore, sadly, they cannot happen to you.
Instead, I want you to be happy for the other people’s success: “I am very happy for them.”
7. “Everyone would …” – How do you know how “everyone” would react? That’s a lot of people. You have no idea how the whole world will react to your decisions or your actions. Most likely, few care as much as you. It also brings such a heavy weight on your shoulders and you don’t need to carry this weight. Be less judgmental and more embracing of the world around you.
Instead, I want you to say “It’s possible most – or some – people would react this way.”
8. “I am busy – I don’t have time.” – Everyone but everyone is busy but we still choose what to do with our own time. I just don’t like how I seem when I am seriously busy and rushed, but the truth is, we always make time for the things that matter to us, even when we are madly busy. So in fact, you just don’t want to make time for that particular activity in question.
Instead, I want you to say: “I am just over-committed right now.” “I am not able to make time right now.”
9. “I will get to it someday.” – Someday doesn’t exist on the calendar and when you don’t put a time frame around your wishes and dreams, then it’s far less likely to happen. Even if it’s a year out, it still gives you something to look forward to with a definite date.
Instead, I want you to say: “I’ll get to it in June or next year around summer time….”
10. “If only …” – This regretful, nostalgic way of looking at your life, and especially the past and all the people who affected our lives. If only phrase robs you of any power of the present and probably the future, and you go back into this blame mode instead of accepting things for what they are and not being in a wishful-thinking state.
Instead, I want you to say: “This is what happened – this is where I am now. And we can’t change what happened but we can change what’s happening right now.”
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Farnoosh, I can relate to all parts of this podcast! I use to say every one of the 10 phrases…and I say “use to” because I am making it my goal to not use any of them anymore.
You spoke the absolute truth with everything you said about how each and every one of these phrases harms, hinders, and holds us (and our success) back each time we use them. I loved listening to the podcast (just as I have with all the others)! You are incredibly insightful when you speak about things, and have a way of catching our attention and focusing it on things that are in our lives every single day that we never even really pay attention to. Thank you for your words & the great presence you bring to all of your episodes! 
Hi dear Cassandra, thank you for your beautiful words …. remember, you must tell me what topic you want me to talk about and I will dedicate a whole podcast to you – you’ve been one of the biggest fans as of late and I want to thank you in more than just words. Big hugs to you!
Hello again sweet Farnoosh! You are very welcome!…you are a great person, as well as an inspiration, and you deserve every positive, uplifting comment you get from any of your readers! We are lucky to have you here for us to listen to and read from.
Aw, thank you!! That would be an amazing honor for you to do an entire podcast with me in mind!! 
I will absolutely let you know of an idea…very soon!
Dearest Cassandra, thank you so much my dear. And yes, let me know what you might wanna hear. I adore my listeners, and am so happy you are enjoying the podcasts.
Thanks for highlighting these, at times we don’t even notice that we use such words, while talking to clients, friends and family, which can give out negative vibes.
BTW – another great pic :p
take care
Dear Wasim, how nice to see you – Oh I am so glad you agree, and that I’m not the only one hearing or sometimes, (less often
), saying some of these terrible phrases. 
Thank you – my hubby took that photo mid-conversation so I thought it was appropriate!
Excellent advice!!! Those phrases were commonplace in my everyday conversations. Once I’ve erased them (for the most part) big things are happening. Talk about a simple, life-changing move! Thanks bringing such a positive message into our world! Nice to meet you!
Hello dear Jennifer….. I know, they are SO common and it’s at first such a struggle but then we stop hearing them or saying them. Nice to meet you in return, thanks for stopping over.
Hi Farnoosh…I agree with that we can’t change what has already happened but we can change what are the things that are happening right now…I can relate to this…
Hi Shirlley, thank you for your thoughts – and it may not be easy but it is the best way to turn our life around, right?
I really liked your post! I’ll be pinning it on my pinterest!
Thank you Michael. Welcome here.
my peeve is “i don’t have a choice” for a so long – i didn’t have a choice so I had to keep going to work, working the hours, earning the money
actually i DO have a choice
finally made that choice
now I just need to keep that vocab out of my dictionary
Noch Noch
Dearest Noch-Noch, always a delight to see you. I *can’t stand* that one either. Everyone of us has a choice as you and I have well proven with making difficult choices from the obvious ones. Thanks for the nod of understanding, dearest, and for your note.
Excellent episode Farnoosh.
It was filled with a lot of things that I really needed to hear today, and it definitely helped me to unload a few things of which I was guilty, and to move on to enjoy a successful and productive day.
After doing a little soul searching I felt compelled to confess that most of my “I wishes”, are promptly followed up with “if onlys”. The saddest part is that it’s a lot easier to say “I wish” instead of “I will”, because with the latter you may be setting yourself up for failure by actually committing to a goal. Oh horrors of horrors! But, hey I’m as guilty as anyone else here of saying “I wish” when what I really mean is “I will”. I’m going to work on that.
The only part of the episode that I disagreed with is when you suggested your hypothetical listener should put off working out until next summer for lack of time. Let us not forget what the Earl of Derby said, “Those who think they have not time for bodily exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness.”
Your podcast is a wonderful escape during work.
Kindest regards,
-Matt
Dear Matt, hello hello
!
Last thing first; THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts – I am so grateful for feedback from my readers…. especially the ones who do disagree, it takes courage to do that, thank you – and my goodness, I actually didn’t mean for it to send *that* message, interesting. What I mean was around not forcing yourself but still setting a time in the calendar and my example with fitness was obviously not a good one
Noted. Thank you.
As for your initial comments, thank you for sharing. Thank you so much. You are *not* alone – we are ALL a work in progress. SO so glad you like the podcast and tell your friends about it. I am working hard to increase the reach, and I am about to hop over and read your juice fast post. Did you know I am launching a juicing program in April?
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