Which Life Are You Living?
You either do what you want in life and deal with all the stuff that gets in your way. Or you live with a regret in your heart. I want to highly encourage you to go for the first one. That’s the right track!
See. There are two lives you could live.
One is the life of doing what you are already doing, what you have been told and taught to do, and also dreading it, wanting to escape it and wondering if there is more (there is) to your life and your purpose.
You feel almost nothing as you go through your normal routines except perhaps boredom, fatigue, mild resentment and a little growing sarcasm about life in general.
And then there is the life of going for what you want, all else be damned.
Deep down, maybe you weren’t meant to be an employee (first you need to exit that job) – maybe you were meant to be a writer, or a lifeguard, or a quiet encourager for a youth group, or on a mission to save Mountain Gorillas from going into extinction.
Deep down, you have a beautiful purpose – that’s a fact – and one day, you stand up and decide to honor the darn thing, come what may.
And guess what? You then open yourself to a whole new world you never knew before.
You experience emotions you didn’t even know you had. Terror. Exhilaration. Grappling with uncertainty. Insecurity. Questioning your self-worth and self-confidence. And most of all, entertaining the thoughts of doubt and fear.
I know. I’ve felt them all and I still feel them frequently. The emotions do not go away – how I wish. What happens is you become stronger and readier to handle them. They are still there but they lose their hold over you. Ha! You win!
And just in case you are feeling scared and insecure right now, I wanted to remind you the things you already know but may need to hear again.
12 Reasons to Keep Going When You Feel Scared and Insecure
1. You’re on the right track:
When you are scared, it’s a sign you are doing the right thing by being outside your comfort zone. Of course that scares you! You and everyone else, darling. But it also means you are on the right track, you are meant to go down this road, even if you arrived here after a lot of wrong turns.
2. You’re going to regret it if you quit:
If you’ve never regretted something, it’s like the bitter taste of ash in your mouth, and a sulky heavy feeling in your heart. Both come with no cure. Best to avoid that whole mess and not discover at the end of your life that you didn’t really live and fulfill these desires for a little fear and insecurity. Right? Don’t give your power away to regret.
3. You’ll never find a better time than right now:
This now, this present moment is all you can be certain that you have. Our tomorrows are a promise, not a fact. You hope to live a long life, so do I, sure, but the truth is there’s no better time than right now to do what you want to do. Delay at your own risk!
4. You know deep down this is what you want:
If you are scared while doing someone else’s bidding, quit by all means! But if you are pursuing what you want, deep down, then keep going because you deserve to give yourself your all. And I’ll tell you a secret, doing what you and you alone want is a sweet path to instant happiness.
5. Your inner voice will nag you indefinitely if you quit:
So get this, if you quit, you may not be scared or insecure but you won’t have true peace. Your inner voice will nag you and whisper long sad what-if questions in your ear and fill your heart with sorrow. Lift that heart by putting one foot in front of the other, no matter how scared or insecure you feel. You’ll be fine.
6. You are about to change your life:
Even though I don’t know exactly what you are going through, whatever it is, when you push past fear and insecurities, and find your inner strength, you transform. You emerge as a new person, better, stronger, and happier too. This is life-changing.
7. You are discovering too much about yourself to give up:
The journey to happiness and inner peace, Rumi tells us, happens by going inward. And whenever something scares you and makes you question your self-worth, it’s an opportunity to learn and to grow. You learn so much about yourself.
8. You learn about vulnerability and courage:
And that’s a good thing. A lot of people live long but boring lives, and they never once come face to face with the gift of vulnerability and the act of courage. When you are scared, you will be able to shine a light here and look in the mirror and say, “I am vulnerable but I have courage too.”
9. You have supporters that you don’t know about:
So your family doesn’t get it? Your best friend doesn’t support you? You feel alone? Then go out there and find the people who get it – I bet you anything you haven’t met them yet! Tell me your story in the comments, let me be the first one to support you. Find other freedom seekers and ask them what they think of your choices. Get the support you need. Then keep going!
10. You are too close to success to give up:
The real fear and insecurity settle when you are onto something big. You are in all likelihood too close to success, and to a breakthrough. Do you really want to give up right before that? Is that not, like, painful and disturbing? Keep going darling!
11. You will miss out on all the sweet rewards:
There are rewards sweeter than you can imagine when you fulfill the desires of your heart. If you’ve never done it, then there’s no feeling like it. Kinda like parenthood – you either get it by going through experience or you just can’t relate. So yeah, the choice is yours but I say keep going.
12. You forget that you can do this – Yes You Can!
You forget the basic rule that any human heart can achieve anything as long as it goes after it with heart and soul and a tenacity to not give up. You forget you can do this thing. It’s hard. It’s ugly. It’s scary, maybe even terrifying. But deep down, if this is what you want, you can have it honey. You really can.
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