31 Reasons You Are Better than You Think

What Happens When You Stop the Self-sabotage

I will allow life’s changes to make me better, not bitter. ~Unknown

Where do we pick up this cycle of constantly beating ourselves up? Here I was evaluating how our company has done in 2013 with my business partner and hubby – our first year of working full-time together – and in reality, it has been a phenomenal year, and I have worked my little behind off like no other time in my life.


Our first traditionally published book, The Healthy Juicer’s Bible, hit the bookstores in March, I wrote and submitted a second book due out in March, I released a major career-transforming product for the struggling corporate employees, I expanded my coaching program, re-opened Smart Exit Blueprint, grew this little blog, learned how to work with my husband as a business partner, traveled the world from Africa to Turkey to Asia to Canada just to count the few highlights, and I deepened my Ashtanga yoga practice.

These accomplishments did not come to me then. Instead, all the should-have-could-have flooded to my head. I sat there, recounting ways I wasted time and wondering what else I could do better, faster and more efficiently. I can only see them now because my husband pointed them out, the undeniably positive spirit that he is.

So guess what? You are doing better – much, much better – than you think.

You have to stop sabotaging your own progress with the negative thoughts that make you wish for another story. You are exactly where you belong at this moment and you have to open your eyes and see it for what it is.

There is always room to grow, to get better, to raise the bar, to accomplish more, but only if you have made the time to realize you are better than you think and you are doing better than you give yourself credit.

31 Reasons You Are Much Better than You Think

I wrote these out in the form of affirmations so you can say them, memorize them and believe them because I may not know you, but I believe in you and know these apply to you.

1. You are smart, resourceful and brilliant.

2. You help anyone that needs you without a second thought.

3. You care about being a good person and living an honest life.

4. You are a kind, compassionate and grateful person.

5. You honor your core values and what’s important to you.

6. You invest in yourself and your own growth and development.

7. You have great hopes for your own future.

8. You are a responsible stand-up citizen of this world and of your country.

9. You are setting a great example for others in everything you do.

10. You believe in the goodness of humanity and have a pure heart.

11. You believe in the beauty of your dreams and plan to pursue them.

12. You have already taken the first step to pursue your dreams.

13. You bring useful and important ideas to life.

14. You put your knowledge and information to good use every day.

15. You affect the lives of those around you even if it seems like in small ways to you.

16. You don’t give up even if things go wrong and life beats you down.

17. You have a creative genius and you let yourself tap into it.

18. You take steps every day towards creating the life of your dreams.

19. You correct your mistakes without shame.

20. You look your fear in the face and don’t let it stop you.

21. You improve yourself with constructive feedback from caring outsiders.

22. You are humble and learn from life’s lesson and let it make you better.


23. You are stronger and harder to break than you think.

24. You are surrounded by friends and family that care about you.

25. You are more generous than you realize.

26. You have worked hard in your life and earned your success.

27. You have not let life’s scars make you cynical or bitter.

28. You have a caring gentle soul and are a gift to so many around you.

29. You are an important asset to your community and your work.

30. You are building a life that will leave a beautiful legacy behind.

31. You are a much better person and the world is a better place because of you.

Stop shaking your head. It’s all true.

You may read some of these and shake your head, but I know that’s only because you are letting the self-sabotage get the best of you. Free yourself of the self-berating, let your true self breathe a little fresh air, and allow yourself to celebrate who you are.

When you do this, you open the doors to true abundance and your life will flood you with love, compassion, understanding, choices, options, and doors of opportunity.

How do I know? Because self-sabotage used to rule my kingdom. Not anymore. It’s time you reclaimed your power, darling! It’s waiting to show you just how brilliant you really and truly are!

Your turn: Do you stand up for yourself? Or do you berate yourself instead? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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  • Melly Deen

    Oh #16 almost made me cry – you don’t give up when life beats you down. THANK YOU for these words. I needed to hear them, Farnoosh!!!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Melly, glad this touched you so. And love having you as a loyal reader.

  • http://alwayswellwithin.com Sandra Pawula


    These are such important words as the tendency to berate ourselves or to look at what isn’t working instead of the beauty of what is runs so deeply. Thanks for catching yourself and thus, by writing this post as a result, help us to catch ourselves. This is a priceless reminder.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Dear Sandra, hello. If we can only learn this stuff quickly but no, it has to take its sweet long while. :) I am so happy you visited and yes indeed it runs ever so deeply BUT not too deep to be uprooted :)!

  • http://www.positivelyaffirm.com Elissa Philgence

    Hi Ms. Farnoosh,
    First I must say thank you for this post and thank you for sharing a bit of your journey with me. It is so easy for ‘me’ us to go from blog to blog thinking ‘wow, how do they accomplish so much—and write great post week after week? I will never do that, I will never get there, and I might as well give up’

    However as you pointed out, sometime we get so busy self-sabotaging ourselves that it takes someone or something on the outside to point out our blessings to us. Thank you for sharing that, I needed to hear that today.

    To answers you question-Do you stand up for yourself? Or do you berate yourself instead? I don’t think I stand up for myself as much as I should. I also think I am my biggest critic.

    My goal for the rest of this year moving into the New Year is to stand firm in what I believe and move forward in faith believing that I am “better – much, much better – than [I] think.”

    Thank you again. Blessings always,

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Elissa, stand up for the beautiful self inside. She deserves that. It’s okay to critique ourselves, but not harshly – we can learn just as well from a calm and loving critique, you know? And your goal for the rest of they year is truly beautiful…. stay the course. Sending you blessings in return.

  • http://intentionalemployee.com Bert Purdy

    What a beautiful list of positive, self-building comments. I believe all 31 of your reasons are valid and I’d like to add number 32…at least for me.

    “Your spouse loves you more today than when you first got married.”

    My wife is my rock. Without her, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I assume you feel the same way about your husband, Farnoosh. And, he about you. We are lucky to be surrounded (your # 24) by such great people.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Bert, I had to share your comment with my sweet heart. Everything you said about your wife, I feel about my other half, and we are indeed very very lucky to be in such loving relationships. It is a great #32. Thank you for enriching this post.

  • http://cashwithatrueconscience.com/rbblog Ryan Biddulph

    Farnoosh if we can ID our self-sabotage tendencies quickly we can change our vibe. Your list shares so many powerful, vibe-changing affirmations it is quite outstanding! Change your feelings, choose your words and observe when you fall into poor, failing habits.

    Thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Ryan,
      Thank you so much! Well-said … and observe yourself is probably the best tip. Glad to hear you echoing the message….

  • http://findasimplerlife.com Meri

    Thank you for writing this! It’s easy to get discouraged. It’s so refreshing to see a reminder to stay true to your values and appreciate what you have accomplished. Sometimes, I look at my to-do list at the end of the day, and can only see what is still there.

  • http://www.thejoyofsimple.com lyle @ The Joy of Simple

    Wow Farnoosh, it’s like you have been reading my diary :)

    All joking aside, thank you for these 33 positive life ideals to grow and develop upon. I am happy to say that I said yes to most of them…there are still a few where I need work, but all in good time.

    Take care and all the best.


    ps: I have enjoyed listening to you on both Entrpreneur On Fire and the Creative Penn and I thank you for your all-consuming energy :)

  • Tamarra

    I love and can relate to EVERYTHING you wrote and that makes me feel really really good!!! Thank you and just to share something new I do now – I make a point of THANKING MYSELF!!! I seem to remember to do this in the shower for some strange reason but it makes me feel good that I repeat it over and over until I feel so full of love!!!
    Try it – you’ll thank yourself that you did (grin!)….
    I thank Me!
    I thank Me!
    I thank Me!…..

  • http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com Larry Hochman

    Loving that power of suggestion! Fun read, Farnoosh! :)

  • http://googlemail Charlotte

    Thank you so much for this great article!I love everything you mentioned and I feel like I can relate alot to everything you mentioned in this post,It’s like you were speaking directly to me!I always feel energized after reading your articles,I’m healing alot just by reading every post you post every other week,I’m growing to love my self more & deeper and just enjoying the feeling that comes with healing.

    Thank you

  • http://epiclifepursuit.com/ Jason

    Good positive thinking! Must implant all these in my brain so that I won’t be pessimistic. Thanks!

    • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

      Hi Jason, thanks for sharing and yes to positive thinking. It’s a habit so build it one day at a time. It will come!

  • Julie

    Love this Farnoosh! After a year of making some huge mistakes I have learned a lot about myself. I took some big risks that didn’t pan out. I learned the grass isn’t always greener, appreciate what you have, stay humble. Scary situations I have had to overcome but I am a much better person and can go into 2014 with a huge appreciation for the good in my life. You can never cave in and let life consume you – gotta stay positive and never give up. Not easy but I truly believe that you have to control your thoughts and envision good things – don’t go to the dark side! Ask, believe, receive!

  • Yuyette

    Thank you for the empowering article and the words of wisdom, healing and transformation.

  • http://www.midwaymarketplace.com Maxwell Ivey

    hi farnoosh; such a great gift to your readers. and its good to know that you struggle with the issue of self image just as much as the rest of us do. I know a lot of your response to something depends on your mood at the time of hearing and how determined you are to find the positive side of things. but i read through these affirmations and i didn’t find a single one where i thought you were off base. the only one where i could even have a small disagreement with is friends and family who love you and want the best for you. and most of the time i know my family does want my best for me they just don’t always show it. thanks again and have a merry christmas, max

  • http://www.hcgdietdropsdiet.com Mike

    Reading this your post and your list really made me feel better! “You have to stop sabotaging your own progress with the negative thoughts that make you wish for another story. You are exactly where you belong at this moment and you have to open your eyes and see it for what it is.”= good words, really good words!

  • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

    Dear @vironikatugaleva:disqus Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts – why on earth do our minds do that, Vironika? Are we wired that way as babies? Love LOVE your message and can’t wait to delve into your beautiful book, it may just move right up to the front of the queue. Happy new year my dear friend!

  • Sylvia Rytarowska

    Like Julie, I have made mistakes and paid for them. I didn’t quite berate myself but I was bitter.
    Recently I was walking with my dog in the woods and something dawned on me. It was a biting wind on my face: I suddenly enjoyed it, closed my eyes and let it blow.

    In life, I got my butt kicked really hard, but now I’m genuinely happy. Happy when it’s -2 outside, wind blowing the hell out of me. I feel alive.

    • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

      Oh @sylviarytarowska:disqus I love that image of the biting wind in your face. Sometimes I try to go in the cold and tell myself I can love it once I get past the initial pain of it (I don’t like the cold AT ALL) and there are these sparkles of joy that come to the surface out of nowhere. LOVE IT! Stay alive and happy and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      • Sylvia Rytarowska

        I actually hate cold. But my point was that sometimes pain can make you feel alive. It sounds like bull, though.

  • http://www.prolificliving.com/blog Farnoosh

    Cassandra, how nice to see you pop up here! I am so happy you felt that way – And perhaps it is a part of myself that I see in you and my other lovely readers too, which makes it easy to relate and connect, you know? I love the emphasis on accomplishments. So beautiful and true! Thank you for sharing @cassandrahali:disqus

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