My motivation is insanely out of control lately. If I don’t calm down soon, this excitement is going to kill my productivity and my focus! That’s how motivated I feel lately.
How about you?
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My energy is to the roof. I simply cannot contain it all in. I wake up after a few hours of sleep and can barely wait to start on my projects. I can’t stand the idea of resting and relaxing for a minute longer than necessary. I cannot keep count of all the ideas running through my head and what’s more, I can smell no fear in pursuing every single one of them.
No fear. Not anymore. Not one ounce. I am done being scared. I am done making decisions with fear. I am finished half-committing to my goals. I am done fooling around with my dreams.
I’ve turned a corner and I am not looking back. It happened when I woke up one day only to realize I have been chasing an empty dream, an illusion of happiness, and a mere shadow of success. Have you turned that corner yet?
I’ve had it dealing with fear of failure. I am weary of thoughts of failure, anticipation of failure, worries of failure – and yet failure itself has done nothing but been good to me in life. In hindsight, of course – I was never that smart whenever it first knocked me off my feet.
Failure taught me whom to trust. Failure has shown me the true colors of my friends. Failure has whispered to me the things I am not willing to give up for a job or a promotion or a raise. Failure brought my values to light. Failure opened doors which always led to better success.
So you see, failure has been good to me. Fear of failure on the other hand has been nothing but a waste of precious time.
So you fail. Great. You tried something. You learned something. You risked something. In fact, who are you not to fail? Whoever achieved greatness without it? Fail. Fail again. Fail often. Fail shamelessly and proudly. Fail until you get it out of the way so you make room for nothing but success. Success on your terms, in your words, by your definition.
But that’s not all. There is another fear lurking around. Another one you rarely hear about. The fear of massive success, of the incredible realization of your wildest ideas and your greatest desires.
You may madly crave success and yet do you not foster any fear from realizing your truest and greatest potential? Do you never fear the idea of influencing people well beyond your inner circle, of touching the lives of hundreds or thousands of other human beings, of being a leader, a role model, an example and an idol?
Success is as a scary beast as failure – and both of these fears, you must conquer before you can step out of your mediocre achievements and do something really great with your life.
That’s where motivation comes in. Tap into yours. You have it, you just need to find it! It comes from within, this seemingly infinite well of motivation which rises from the pit of your belly and refuses to leave until you have taken notice of it. Have you never felt it before?
If not, then you are not listening to yourself, and you are not following the rhythms of your heart. But guess what, it’s never too late. Not until it’s too late!
You can start right here, right now. I will start all over with you too. First the thoughts, then the actions.
1 ~ Be vigilant.
2 ~ Be awake at the wheel of your life.
3 ~ Fight complacence. Fight it hard.
4 ~ Reject boredom at the door. Never let it in. Not for a second.
5 ~ Be madly in love with your life.
6 ~ Be madly in love with you. That’s right. Let them call it vanity or selfishness. I call it the first rule of true happiness.
7 ~ Find your purpose. Your real true purpose.
Oh fine, if you can’t find it right away, please for heaven’s sake, don’t give up. It took me over two decades to find mine.
8 ~ Find some ounce of meaning in what you do during the day. Please find a way to make this happen for you.
9 ~ Stop sacrificing for others so much. Giving is fine. Sacrificing no!
10 ~ Do something – anything – just for yourself. It takes knowing yourself to do something for yourself. Maybe do that first.
11 ~ Remember to value the person you see in the mirror. It is the one person who stays with you through thick and thin, in loneliness and in the crowds, in darkness and in light. Hear me again: the only person!
12 ~ Make friends with yourself. Find solitude, not emptiness, in your own company.
13 ~ Stop abusing your body with alcohol and drugs and smoking. Are you not intoxicated enough on your raw health, on your life, on your freedom to living on your terms? Do you think you are invincible against the disasters awaiting you from abuse?
14 ~ Stop blaming the industries, your parents, your children, your teachers, or the circumstances or the culture for your troubles. They don’t care and they shouldn’t. You should. Your life is in your own hands. It always has been.
15 ~ Listen to no one who dares tell you what you can or cannot do. Turn a deaf ear to naysayers. Who are they to set limits for you and judge your potential? Who are they to judge your capacity for success or your tolerance for failure?
16 ~ Choose to see only the radically positive light in your life.
17 ~ Take a risk. Don’t be stupid or try childish nonsense. Be responsible and smart but take risks to find out where your limits and boundaries lie.
Then up the ante. Every day.
18 ~ Step out of the boxes of society. In fact, crush the box altogether and rebuild it. Build your own box. In your own shape. Your own dimensions. Make it your art. Let it be your brand and your identity.
19 ~ Live your motto. Live your values — and only yours.
Let others’ values be just that – their values.
And let their limitations be theirs too.
20 ~ Stop being a copycat. Try authenticity. Try originality. Try being exactly who you are meant to be. What worked for the massively successful individuals may not work for you.
21 ~ Be different but essentially, be yourself, in fact, be the best version of you.
22 ~ Be radically uncommon – but be smart, responsible, kind, sincere and genuine at the same time. Yes, it is possible to be all of that and massively successful to boot.
Today is the day that I drop the heavy weight of doubt and fear, bury it deep under the ground and take the rest of the journey without them. Today is the day that I take my dreams seriously (but myself not so much!). It is the day that I make no exceptions to my values but plenty of room for failure, should it wish to show up. Today is the day that I refuse to touch any endeavor unless it is with my absolute best effort. Tomorrow, I will raise that bar higher. That is the essence of my motivation today. And I feel it is here to stay.
Have you felt this motivated lately?
If you like what you read, you can read more about motivation on my Kindle book, The 8 Pillars of Motivation.