Prolific Living http://www.prolificliving.com Smart Habits for Rich Living Mon, 29 Jun 2015 12:07:54 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.2 Smart Habits for Rich Living Prolific Living no Smart Habits for Rich Living Prolific Living http://www.prolificliving.com/wp-content/plugins/powerpress/rss_default.jpg http://www.prolificliving.com Get To Know Yourself: 29 Questions to Discover the Real You http://www.prolificliving.com/get-to-know-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/get-to-know-yourself/#comments Tue, 26 May 2015 02:25:17 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41792 At the core of our desires is living a life of purpose and meaning. At the core of a life of purpose and meaning is being of service to others. At the core of being of service to others is finding peace and happiness. At the core of finding peace and happiness, we discover who […]

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At the core of our desires is living a life of purpose and meaning.

At the core of a life of purpose and meaning is being of service to others.

At the core of being of service to others is finding peace and happiness.

At the core of finding peace and happiness, we discover who we are.

And to do that, we must get over a little irony, that most of us hardly know – much less, know well – the single person we have spent every second of our existence with, our own selves.

Think you’re the exception? Let me ask you then: how well do you know yourself?

We are not talking about taking a personality test or learning about your family history. Neither are we talking about your favorite colors, your best childhood friend or your high school prom experience (thank goodness about the last one ;)).

We are talking about something much greater and of higher consequence. We are talking about who you are at your core, what most matters to you, what makes you come alive, what feeds your soul and what drains your spirit, and how to know the difference so you choose well as you move forward in life.

If you don’t know yourself all that well, you may still live a life in alignment with who you are but only by accident or some sheer stroke of luck.

And that, my darling, is too big a risk to take, so shall we eliminate the risk altogether?

Make it a certainty that you live in alignment with who you are not by accident or luck, but rather on purpose, by intention, by design.

How? By getting to know yourself really really well. One way to do that is to learn your values, passions and goals. Another is to ask the right questions.

Reminder: You can still grab The Positive Affirmations for Life program with more than 4 hours of audio affirmations for 7 life situations that impact your happiness and success the most.

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How to Get to Know Yourself: 29 Questions to Self-Discovery

Here are just 29 questions that open the door to having a real conversation with yourself. I want to ask you to answer these questions honestly for yourself.

When you are ready to do this, copy these questions into a text document, quiet all outside distractions, take a few deep relaxing breaths, make a great cuppa tea, clear your mind of noise and clutter and dive in.

Know that there are no right or wrong answers. There is only you uncovering the process of building a closer relationship with the person within.

  1. What activity in your life lights you up with joy?
  2. What is something you always love doing, even when you are tired or rushed? Why?
  3. If a relationship or job makes you unhappy, do you choose to stay and leave?
  4. What do you fear about leaving a bad job or a bad relationship?
  5. What do you believe is possible for you?
  6. What have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
  7. What is the thing that you are second most proud of?
  8. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
  9. How does your being here in the universe change humanity for the better?
  10. If you could have one single wish granted, what would it be?
  11. How comfortable are you with your own mortality?
  12. What is your highest core value?
  13. To your best knowledge, how do other people perceive you?
  14. How would you like others to perceive you?
  15. How confident are you in your abilities to make decisions for yourself?
  16. What is your biggest self-limiting belief?
  17. Who is the most important person in your life?
  18. Who is your greatest role model?
  19. Who is a person that you don’t like yet you spend time with?
  20. What is something that is true for you no matter what?
  21. What is your moral compass in making difficult decisions?
  22. What is one failure that you have turned into your greatest lesson?
  23. What role does gratitude play in your life?
  24. How do you feel about your parents?
  25. How is your relationship with money?
  26. How do you feel about growing old someday?
  27. What role has formal education played in your life and how do you feel about it?
  28. Do you believe your destiny is pre-determined or in your hands to shape however you wish?
  29. What do you believe is the meaning of your life?

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What If You Don’t Like the Questions Above?

I know. These questions are not meant to be easy or comfortable, but they are important to ask and to know. As you ask yourself questions, the process of self-inquiry begins, and at first, it is uncomfortable and unfamiliar – especially if you have never done it – yet in time, it becomes easier. Even fun.

Because here’s what you may not know. Or be afraid to believe.

You are a unique child of this world. You are brilliant, smart and wise. You are deep and fascinating. You are gifted and talented. You are beyond capable to do what you dream. You are loved, loving and lovable.

You are not too old or too fat or too poor. You are not too slow or too boring. You are simply none of the terrible things you tell yourself. You’re quite the opposite.

You are more than enough.

So while it’s up to you to decide if this self-discovery process is worthwhile, I would say trust me on this. Getting to know yourself IS worthwhile. Just do it!

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One Reason Women Sabotage Their Success (And What to Do About It) http://www.prolificliving.com/women-sabotage-success/ http://www.prolificliving.com/women-sabotage-success/#comments Mon, 11 May 2015 23:42:00 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41755 The Love Affair with Being Right It is ultimately wrongness not rightness that can teach us who we are. ~Kathryn Schulz I am astonished by how many bright, amazing, talented, skillful and beautiful women just flat out sabotage their own success. Simply astonished! In just the last nine months of observing my female coaching clients, […]

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The Love Affair with Being Right

It is ultimately wrongness not rightness that can teach us who we are. ~Kathryn Schulz

I am astonished by how many bright, amazing, talented, skillful and beautiful women just flat out sabotage their own success. Simply astonished!

In just the last nine months of observing my female coaching clients, I have seen a pattern that I find a little disturbing. This is not exclusive to all men – I have had male clients who also sabotage their own success but the pattern points more to women, and that’s what we’re going to talk about here.

Confession: This is important to me because I can relate to it. Big Time!

I used to have a certain way of interacting with my world, and that way of approaching life, career, and relationships was not always inducive to happiness or success. In hindsight, the object of the game used to be the pursuit of being right rather than being happy or creating success or leading a peaceful life.

The pursuit of being right is one of my initial grave mistakes (and there are others, I assure you).

The pursuit of being right meant that I would press disagreements, discussions, and arguments – both professional and personal – until I had been “proven” right. Never mind that in the process, I ruined relationships, opportunities and further damaged my career at times, at least, I was right. Or led to believe so.

And I see a similar destructive pattern in women whom I have the greatest pleasure to work with and a few that I chose not work with, and it’s not because they don’t know how to be happy or successful.

It’s because they would rather be right all the time.

Reminder: You can still grab The Positive Affirmations for Life program with more than 4 hours of audio affirmations for 7 life situations that impact your happiness and success the most.

10 Ridiculous Things Women Want to be Right About

What, you ask, do they want to be so right about?

Well, about everything that is wrong in their world. Allow me to share a few examples.

  1. They want to be right that they are a victim.
  2. They want to be right that they have been wronged.
  3. They want to be right that there is no chance for them to turn it around.
  4. They want to be right that they are alone and helpless.
  5. They want to be right about the scarcity of opportunity.
  6. They want to be right about the lack of money and abundance.
  7. They want to be right about how ungrateful their children turned out.
  8. They want to be right about their horrid bosses and their hopeless careers.
  9. They want to be right that they are at a disadvantage and everyone else is “lucky” or “different”.
  10. They want to be right about how their life partners doesn’t understand them. For that matter, they don’t mind being right about how nobody understands them.

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Without even recognizing it, they desperately want to be right about how large and looming their obstacles actually are and how hopeless and powerless they are in the face of it, and, well, how they simply can’t change. Rather, the world around them has to change in order to please them.

What On Earth? This insanity, this ridiculous act of self-righteousness is killing your success and happiness in one big fell swoop. Is it really that important to be right?

How to Trade One Bad Habit for One Great Life

Erring is not only a moral problem it is also a moral solution – an opportunity To rethink our relationship to ourselves, others and to the world. ~Kathryn Schulz

So here’s what I want to say to that bright, amazing, talented, skillful and beautiful woman who feels this way.

This obsession you feel about being right about all the things that are wrong in your life is one bad habit. It’s worse than smoking, drinking and physically abusing yourself combined.

Because this single bad habit alone can wreak your life, it can rob you of all joy and happiness present and future, and it can singlehandedly ruin your chances of success, modest or grand.

Is it really that important to be right?

Is it really worth letting your ego decide the course of your life?

When has your ego ever served you well that you are gambling your success and happiness on it?

I’m betting never, but I could be wrong, and that’s okay (do you see what I did?).

My ego has never served me well. And that’s a toughie to admit, but we’re friends here. And as your friend, I am going to tell it to you straight up:

Give it up. Stop the lust for being right all the time. Drop your ego. Shed your skin. Become unconcerned about being right and give yourself a real chance to success and happiness in life.

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Let’s Have a Conversation about This.

It is a silly pleasure but we secretly love shouting out: “Ha! I told you so! I was RIGHT and you were WRONG!” but if that’s your goal in life, how happy and successful can you really be?

Would you rather not know how to be happy and successful instead?

If you said yes, then you have to learn how to improve your relationship with ‘wrongness’. You have to learn to embrace being wrong about things small and large, and you have to mean it.

When you learn how to do this, you will drive self-sabotage away. You will take hold of your mental faculties, you will be in charge of your life and you will stay there until yo have reached every single goal and dream you set for yourself. Ready to take some action?

If you nodded yes, but you don’t know how to go about it, why don’t we talk? I have ideas and insights to share. If you want to schedule a phone call with me, fill out this questionnaire and let’s do a deep dive on how much you sabotage your own success and how you can reverse the process to open the flood gates of abundance and opportunity pour in!

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9 Lies that Happy People Refuse to Believe http://www.prolificliving.com/lies-you-tell-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/lies-you-tell-yourself/#comments Mon, 30 Mar 2015 15:59:27 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41691 Growing up is hard enough. Why make it harder on purpose? I remember being 11-years old and getting plucked from one country to another – Iran to Turkey to be exact – only to be plucked again at 14 from Turkey to America. Try adjusting as a normal kid in an American high school as […]

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Growing up is hard enough. Why make it harder on purpose?

I remember being 11-years old and getting plucked from one country to another – Iran to Turkey to be exact – only to be plucked again at 14 from Turkey to America. Try adjusting as a normal kid in an American high school as a kid from the middle east. Yeah. That was not fun.

I’m sure your childhood was hard in its own way. Your family doesn’t have to move across countries and oceans and introduce you to double culture shocks for childhood to be hard. A stupid kid bullying you is enough to give you self-esteem issues for years. A rejection from your first attempt at dating can be traumatic enough to make you doubt yourself for years.

So if you had a hard time growing up to be confident, independent, and accepting of yourself, then you are not alone, darling, and thankfully, neither am I.

But one day, you wake up as an adult – and even if you don’t feel like an adult, you still get to be the dreadful age you never EVER imagined you would be, 20 something, 30 something or gasp, 40 something and beyond – and it turns out that those assumptions you made about life, people, and most importantly, about your own amazing self, turn out to be false. Untrue. Lies even. Awful, terrible and harmful lies.

What now? You need a new game plan, that’s what.

Reminder: You can still grab The Positive Affirmations for Life program with more than 4 hours of audio affirmations for 7 life situations that impact your happiness and success the most.

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What actually happens when you feed the lies?

Do you know what happens when you believe something that is not true? It destroys the purity of your spirit. It takes away the richness of life and gives you dull colors and grey skies in exchange. It robs of your joy, your genius, your worthiness and you allow it to keep happening because you don’t even know the depth of damage.

How terrible is this? Whilst you wouldn’t admit it loudly, you held on to a “fact” for years – even decades – because some fat bully from middle school called you a name and everyone – or rather, three junior bullies around him or her – laughed at you. When you went home, you told nobody about what happened, and you called them dummies and idiots but a sliver of doubt began to form inside you and a part of you wondered if they were right.

Newsflash: They weren’t. They were just too dumb to know any better.

Those stupid bullies had their own issues. Perhaps their parents did not know how to love them and raise them to be compassionate adults. Perhaps their parents had awful upbringings of their own and the cycle just continued, but know this: they were wrong and what they said was anything but true.

Maybe you can find it in your heart to forgive them and then to forgive yourself for believing the falsehood, and for betraying yourself all these years.

Maybe you can begin the healing right now, because false assumptions are not your fault, these are lies that your mind loves to tell you.

But here’s the kicker: the healing part is entirely in your hands. You don’t have to live an unhappy life now because of what happened then. You can either begin to heal those wounds, or to continue hurting.

If you want to heal, and stop being so unsatisfied with your life, keep reading the 9 lies you tell yourself, lies that hold you back in life, lies that no happy person would believe in their right mind.

9 Lies Your Mind Loves to Tell You

1. She/he can do that because ______ but I can’t do that.

Nonsense. Complete and utter nonsense. What is it others can do that you can’t do? Run a marathon? Be flexible? Get straight As? Look glamorous? Make a lot of money? All of the above? Be careful what your mind tells you because that’s where your future is shaped, right there in between your own ears. Decide to believe you can do whatever the hell you desire, and nothing can stop you.

2. I need ______ in order to do _____.

Do you, really? This “I need something to happen before something else can happen”, is it true? I need money to be happy. I need a job and a raise before I can find friends. I need furniture before I can throw a party. I need friends to be loved. I need a house/car/nice clothes to be successful. Total rubbish. You need only inner peace, a determined mind and an open heart to go for anything. The rest is detail.

3. I don’t feel like it.

This is not a fact, this is a transitory mood, and you are a powerful human being and can decide to be in any mood you wish. That’s right. Your own mood is within your own power. But only yours, not anyone else’s so stick to you. Here’s the cure to the “I don’t feel like it” syndrome.

4. I am too old / too broke / too ______ to change.

More nonsense. Age is a state of mind, and most of us are too young to even know the meaning of this phrase. But our thinking makes us old, it ages us faster, and it robs our energy and productivity. So next time you hear this lie, re-phrase it: I am the perfect age, the perfect financial stage, the perfect time and place in my life to make this change.

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5. It’s easy for you to say.

What does that even mean? Of course things are easy to say. They are easier to say than to do, because doing takes effort. Do you want to just snap your fingers like a little genie to get everything you want? Is anything less disappointing and unacceptable? Then perhaps you landed in the wrong universe. Stop saying this useless rubbish phrase. Replace it with it’s possible for me. It’s entirely possible for me. Then go for it.

6. I should or should not ______

Should is a funny word, it makes us feel all important and self-disciplined, and I used to “should” all over the place but I see just how much this sneaky word limited me. When you hear your mind go here, ask why? Explore. Go deeper. What is the assumption that makes you say that? And perhaps, we just abuse the poor word so here’s a good use: You should indeed do whatever it is you desire. No?

7. That’s not fair. Life isn’t fair.

And who defines fair? Arguing with reality is a lose-lose game, as Byron Katie so beautifully points out in The Work. Ask yourself instead: Is it absolutely true that it’s not fair, and find at least one thing that is purely and utterly and sweetly fair in your life, and that breaks down the lie for you right there.

8. Nobody understands me. I am all alone

Impossible. You mean in the billions of people populating this universe, nobody understands you. Or do you mean just of the 15 people in your immediate surrounding? That’s not everyone. Everyone is a big number, and you can explore to the end of time and not get finished getting to them all. Instead, why not say, those I hang out with regularly don’t seem to understand me, perhaps I should surround myself with those who do. Then do just that.

Example: If you want to be an entrepreneur, stop hanging out with corporate types. Join the right communities, like this one.

9. It’s not my fault. It’s theirs.

Do you secretly blame your parents, teachers, boss, spouse/partner or kids? You can keep doing it, just know that there is no way to escape lifelong bitterness and unhappiness if you do. There is no blaming in the journey to happiness and inner peace. There is acceptance and taking absolute responsibility for your own happiness.

You do want to be happy, don’t you?

Your turn? What’s the worst lie you believe?

So leave a comment below to tell me your thoughts. This was a bit of tough love but someone has to tell you about the lies you tell yourself or you’d go on believing life to be anything less than extraordinary.

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How to Accept Yourself: One Simple Rule You Must Know http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-accept-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-accept-yourself/#comments Thu, 19 Mar 2015 07:20:29 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41666 How to Accept Yourself: Start Here Repeat after me: I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it. Did you do it? How do you feel? Maybe a tad bit lighter and happier? Or maybe not. I hope you don’t fall into this category but I […]

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How to Accept Yourself: Start Here

Repeat after me: I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it.

Did you do it? How do you feel? Maybe a tad bit lighter and happier?

Or maybe not. I hope you don’t fall into this category but I know some of my readers do. You may be so deeply rooted into self-criticism that you have grown a thick layer of cynicism, one that you may mistakenly think of as self-protection. How do I know this? Well, experience, of course. A few years ago, I was as negative, cynical and pessimistic as they come – and what’s funny, I didn’t even see myself that way. I saw myself as “realistic”!!

I used to think to myself, “I’m protecting myself against all the new-age positive hoopla that is going around, because everyone knows that’s not real, the reality is that life is hard, and I need to be harsh on myself to get ahead, to improve, and to show the world what I have.”

I was constantly busy proving myself, getting approval from parents, bosses, colleagues, professors, teachers, friends, and strangers before I ever gave myself any approval – and even at the height of praise and approval, I would find a hundred faults with myself.

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My friend Jen Gresham would call me an overachiever, but I thought of myself as an underachiever who would have liked to be an overachiever, like those people to whom I compared myself day and night. Well, I was disillusioned beyond belief – but not beyond hope.

Before we go on, again, repeat after me: I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it.

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This new belief system, simple as it seems, once it took form, saved me. It saved me from deep unhappiness and the pit of depression. It saved me from obsession with comparing myself to others – strangers who didn’t even know I existed. It saved me from loneliness and hopelessness.

Because I learned to accept myself, to love myself and to forgive myself. And you can too.

At first, I was just saying the words, just to see if this “actually works”. It was when I had first come into contact with the work of Louise Hay and positive affirmations – and fast forward to today, affirmations are the foundation of my happiness and success.

And the first affirmation that I still remember vividly from the teachings of Louise Hay is this:

I love and approve of myself.

The first time I read that out loud, it sounded foreign. I had never said those words to myself. Ever. The powerful simplicity of this phrase baffled me because it had an enormous impact on me.

Why Is It So Hard to Accept Yourself?

The easiest answer I can think of is that we confuse approving of ourselves with never changing, never improving and never getting better or getting what we want in life. That’s just preposterous. What do they have to do with each other? Nothing.

Repeat and see for yourself: I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it.

So I began to experiment with a different approach to life: One that comes from a place of love and approval for myself first. One that does not allow for pessimism, criticism, negative thinking and toxic relationships. One that opens me to possibilities and expands the horizon instead of closing in the curtains and blocking the abundance.

The One Simple Rule You Must Know to Learn to Accept Yourself

The rule to self-acceptance is simple. No matter what you need to do to accomplish your goals, achieve your dreams, or heck, just get through the day, you do it by approving of yourself first and last. Easy? I don’t know about you but it was one of the hardest shifts in mindset that I have had to cultivate. And oh so worth it.

So you start and end your phrases with “I accept myself” or “I approve of myself” – in effect, you sandwich your thoughts, whatever they may be, in between two powerful phrases that begin to train your mind to think differently about yourself – perhaps with more compassion and even, dare we say, love?

Remember that you are not taking away the hard work, the overcoming of difficulties, the realities of your life, and even the fact that you can improve and get better and grow stronger and wiser and happier, you are simply supporting it all with the power of self-approval and self-acceptance, instead of self-criticism.

Positive Affirmations for Self-Acceptance

Here are some examples of positive affirmations that incorporate self-approval and self-acceptance. You are free to replace “I approve of myself” with “I accept myself” – whichever comes more naturally to you:

  • I approve of myself, I work hard every day to achieve my goals – I approve of myself.
  • I accept myself, I create opportunities for growth in my business – I accept myself.
  • I approve of myself, I have made mistakes that cost me money and time – I approve of myself.
  • I accept myself, I improve by learning and self-educating myself – I accept myself.
  • I approve of myself, I have a challenge that needs my complete focus and attention and I approve of myself.
  • I accept myself, I ask for help and guidance because I don’t know the answers and I accept myself.
  • I accept myself, I face disagreement and criticism from the outside world and I approve of myself.

In essence, whatever is happening in your day, as you talk to yourself, start and end it with the phrase “I approve of myself.” Or if you like, “I accept myself.”

Decide Now: Do You or Do You Not Believe in Affirmations?

Before you start this experiment, you have to decide whether you believe in positive thinking, whether positive affirmations even work. You will find no shortage of attack on affirmations, and some do it just to get attention and others go through unnecessary trouble to “prove” that affirmations don’t work – well, you could totally join that camp.

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So long as you are combining the power of positive affirmations with the necessary actions to achieve your goals, they work miracles.

But that’s for you to decide.

If you happen to decide to believe in them, then I’m thrilled for the possibilities that are in front of you.

And if you want to play, your challenge is this: do the exercise above for just seven days and come back and tell me if you don’t feel better.

Between us, you will begin to feel better after the first day once you realize just how often you criticize and blame and degrade yourself, but let’s just say a week for good measure.

Now go! Go do this right now, go change that negative toxic self-talk in your head and learn one of the most powerful lessons that they should’ve taught us in kindergarten:

Love yourself.
Approve of yourself.
Accept yourself.

But they didn’t. So let us learn it now. Shall we?

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How to Pack Light for a Long Trip as a Woman http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-pack-light/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-pack-light/#respond Sun, 15 Mar 2015 09:46:56 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41641 Come Travel with Me: How to Pack Light for a Long Trip If you want to see my pack for traveling to Europe from North America for 5 weeks without checking in luggage, then check out my first packing video. Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel if you found this video useful! Welcome to […]

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Come Travel with Me: How to Pack Light for a Long Trip

If you want to see my pack for traveling to Europe from North America for 5 weeks without checking in luggage, then check out my first packing video.

Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel if you found this video useful!

Welcome to my 2nd packing video for traveling to Japan for 3 weeks.

I show you how to pack light as a woman and still look plenty stylish and yet not check in any luggage when you are traveling internationally. Are you ready?

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I share my very best packing tips and tricks to look great with your essentials and still have plenty of room for souvenirs!

Travel brings power and love back into your life. ~ Rumi

Hello from Kyoto Train Station below:
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My Favorite Brands When I Pack for Long Trips

Here are the references made in the video – I LOVE these brands, I have chosen them for their great functionality, quality, versatility and durability, all of which comes in very handy when you are traveling long distance and want to go light:

1. eBags TLS Mother Mini 21″ Wheeled Duffel and eBags packing cubes.
2. Patagonia Messenger laptop bag.
3. Patagonia stretchy travel pants.
4. Kathmandu warm fleece women top.
5. Ecco excellent, extremely comfortable walking leather shoes.
6. KEEN slip-on shoes.
7. UniQlo durable, affordable neutral color tops.
9. Express skinny jeans.
10. Be Present yoga pants.
11. Columbia women top.
12. Yoga clothes by Zella.
13. Mod Lusive cardigan.
14. Gorilla Pod tripod.
15. UniQlo rain jacket and hoodie jacket.
16. Baggallini for rain-proof, expandable purse and jewelry organizing bags.
17. PURE yoga mat.
18. Toss & Travel skincare.
19. doTERRA Essential oils.

Check out my earlier packing light blog post where I go to Europe for 5 weeks and mention my favorite tips and tricks.

Below, hi from Japan. I’m publishing this post from my trip, and I’ve just bought the jacket that I mentioned I’d be buying when I get here. Come visit Japan. It’s a beautiful country!

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Become a Pro Light Packer

Packing light and traveling like a pro is a skill that you can learn, not something you’re born with.

I’ve had to learn this from years of traveling the world and from doing it wrong a lot before getting it down to a mini science. My one big conclusion is that it’s best not to check in luggage whenever you can help it.

So in this video, I show you the following in a step-by-step process:

1. How to think about your packing and your travel needs.
2. How to set aside everything you need beforehand.
3. How to decide on your airplane and travel clothes first.
4. How to choose the best luggage for best travel experience.
5. How to roll your clothes instead of folding them for maximum space usage.
6. How to use packing cubes to organize your packing even further.
7. How to organize all of your essentials in a clean and hygienic way.
8. How to take all of your makeup and toiletries without going overboard.
9. How to feel good and confident about not checking in luggage.

Travel where Your Heart Takes You

Travel far enough, you meet yourself. ~ David Mitchell

If you want to learn more about traveling the world, going to your dream destination spots, and making it a reality in your life, then grab my comprehensive travel guide complete with instructions on packing like a pro, traveling in style and check-list before you leave the house and get on the road.

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Encourage Others: Why Criticism Fails Every Single Time http://www.prolificliving.com/encourage-others/ http://www.prolificliving.com/encourage-others/#comments Fri, 06 Mar 2015 13:16:54 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41612 You can’t criticize your way to what you want. You can’t criticize your way to what you want. Not for yourself and not for anyone else. It turns out that criticism doesn’t work. Like, not at all. Not ever. Not even one little bit. Not even a minuscule amount. Repeat after me: Criticism Does Not […]

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You can’t criticize your way to what you want.

You can’t criticize your way to what you want. Not for yourself and not for anyone else.

It turns out that criticism doesn’t work. Like, not at all. Not ever. Not even one little bit. Not even a minuscule amount.

Repeat after me: Criticism Does Not Work!

I would tattoo this on my forehead if I could get back the hours and days of life that I wasted trying to make it work. But I can’t, those times are lost to the winds of time and yours may be too if you keep on criticizing your way out of unwanted situations.

They should’ve inserted this giant truth in the parenting manuals. Or in the education programs. But wait. That’s where they actually show us how it’s done. Parents and teachers rely on criticism to get their points across, and to discipline children into better adults.

No wonder that I picked criticism up as a handy little tool of life. No wonder that I returned to criticism over and over, using it in my work, my relationships and especially in my marriage. And no wonder that it brought me so much suffering. Because It Doesn’t Work.

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Repeat after me: Criticism just doesn’t work.

Wen I was younger – and more foolish in my case – and didn’t know this little truth, I used criticism freely. I was proud of dishing it out. It made me feel important. It made others feel inferior, and because I didn’t know any better, I continued my sad little ways.

When my husband didn’t respond to my criticisms, I would criticize him further, because, I’d tell myself: he’s not a good listener, he doesn’t care about me, he is not attentive enough, etc etc.

Lies, all of them. Ugly damn lies. Are you telling yourself similar lies too?

When you do not know better, you act out of what you do know, and it takes inner wisdom to pull you out into the light, and that inner wisdom can only find you if you are receptive – receptive to challenging your way of thinking and your old beliefs. Receptive to letting go of toxic feelings that drive your actions and allowing your heart to fill with grace and gratitude. Receptive to the differences of others and accepting of it too.

For years, I lost fight after fight, argument after argument, not because I wasn’t good at it – I am actually brilliant at arguing – but because criticism, my darling, does not work. At All.

The only certainty you can count on with criticism is that it turns you into a most unhappy person.

So I opened my heart and dropped all the reasons that drove me to criticism.

Enough already! I didn’t care if I “lost” every argument and there is really no such thing, because being right doesn’t matter in relationships. It is being kind that matters.

Encourage others. It works every single time.

Now I encourage my husband. I encourage myself. I encourage the unwilling body. I encourage my parents. I encourage my siblings. I encourage my friends. I encourage my clients. I encourage my readers. I encourage strangers.

I encourage and encourage and encourage some more. I encourage others because the world has more than enough critics. I used to be one of them. Not anymore.

So tomorrow when something doesn’t go your way, and harsh words of criticism are about to pour out of your mouth like thunder on a bright sunny day, pause. Take a deep breath. Do some guided meditation (aff). Say nothing and do nothing for one whole minute.

Then search your beautiful mind for one single word of encouragement. And open your mouth and offer it. Do this repeatedly until it becomes your true nature. Because your true nature is GOOD.

Oh and do it because: You’ve just made the world a better place!

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41 Easy Ways to Be Unhappy http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-be-unhappy/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-be-unhappy/#comments Sun, 01 Mar 2015 17:32:29 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41588 Are You Happy? One of my most favorite shows in American TV history is Fraser. Ever watch it? There is an episode where Fraser and his brother Niles are talking about life’s meaning and the question: “Are you happy?”. When Niles threw the question at Fraser’s face, he went speechless, which rarely happened to Fraser. […]

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Are You Happy?

One of my most favorite shows in American TV history is Fraser. Ever watch it? There is an episode where Fraser and his brother Niles are talking about life’s meaning and the question: “Are you happy?”. When Niles threw the question at Fraser’s face, he went speechless, which rarely happened to Fraser. After several minutes, he said, “Well, that’s a very complicated question!”

So is “Are you happy?” a complicated question?

To me, (and only after years of working on myself!), it’s quite simple. As simple as “Are you pregnant?”, “Are you a woman?”, “Are your eyes blue?”

But complicate happiness, we do.

In fact, I had the pleasure of working with an amazing client in my coaching program last year and she was very good at this. One of her giant struggles in life was to be happy. Just to Be Happy. She was a huge success by all standards, in her profession, in a happy marriage and living extremely comfortably but she was constantly looking for an escape from the life she had created, one that had become more of a prison and less of a sanctuary.

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It was not only difficult for her to be happy, it was unclear what exactly made her happy, which was part of our work together, a journey toward getting to know yourself and discovering the simplicity of happiness. She only knew how to be unhappy.

Some of the sources of her chosen unhappiness were: Undue stress, constant worry, harboring the past, fearing the future, ignoring the present, comparison to everyone who seems “better, smarter, thinner, richer”, blame, anger, grudge, fear.

PS. I’m thrilled to say that my client has a renewed sense of happiness and gratitude now and for that, I’m overjoyed for her, but back to this business of unhappiness now.

The Attraction to Unhappiness and Misery

When you feel so bound inside the walls of your own unhappiness, you can hardly hear anyone else. You would not know it if someone even handed you the keys to your freedom.

Why? Because you are too engrossed in your own misery to care. You are far more interested to wallow in self-pity than to walk out into the sunlight. You are not ready to hear others tell you how to be happy – even if the message is simple.

When you are ready to greet happiness, to allow yourself to feel it and to be it, then we can talk about happiness, and joy and inner peace (aff) but for now, let’s talk about unhappiness, misery, stress and worry. Let’s talk about the way you are feeling and how you can make absolutely 100% certain that you can continue feeling that way if you so choose to do so, and that’s what this post is about.

I mean, in all fairness, unhappiness doesn’t get any of the spotlight. I figured it might be fun to explore the root causes of all things that make us unhappy. Well, all things may be ambitious – perhaps the essential pillars of unhappiness is more accurate. Here goes.

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How to Be Unhappy: 41 Ways

1. Talk to yourself in a negative words.
2. Be judgmental of your past decisions.
3. Blame your parents, siblings or anyone else for your circumstances.
4. Harbor hatred toward anyone.
5. Hold on to grudges, big or small.
6. Stay in toxic relationships for irrational reasons.
7. Overprotect your loved ones and freak out when they neglect your advice.
8. Blame your money problems on economy or “the rich”.
9. Compare your life with others and feel small and insignificant.
10. Think you are too old to be happy.
11. Feel jealous and envious when you hear about the success of others.
12. Let the actions of other people decide how you feel at any moment.
13. Neglect your body, your health, and/or your mental well-being.
14. Sacrifice your body, health and mental well-being for others.
15. Harbor the past and glamorize ‘the way things were when .. ‘.
16. Ignore the present moment.
17. Forget to practice daily gratitude.
18. Fear the future and constantly live in fear and worry.
19. Read and watch the news.
20. Speak words of negativity and spread your negative thoughts.
21. Surround yourself with negative toxic people.
22. Judge the actions of others: friends and strangers alike.
23. Claim to know the circumstances of someone else.
24. Mistreat your body by smoking cigarettes, weed, other toxic stuff.
25. Consume processed sugar.
26. Succumb to peer pressure when you don’t want to do something.
27. Hate yourself. Some or all of yourself. Some of the time or all the time.
28. Let others make important life decisions for you.
29. Neglect your intuition and inner wisdom.
30. Read and consume content that does not serve you.
31. Stay in a miserable job.
32. Continue a miserable career because you started it.
33. Chase the money – and only the money – when you’re building your business.
34. Feel too proud or scared to ask for help when you need it.
35. Close yourself to the world instead of seeking company of good warm loving souls.
36. Believe that you are completely alone.
37. Have no faith in your own abilities to make the right changes.
38. Focus on all the people who have “wronged” you in life.
39. Never forgive yourself for anything you do.
40. Blame yourself for everything you didn’t know when you were younger.
41. Glorify your misery and feel unworthy and unable to experience happiness.

So Are You Going to Let Unhappiness Win?

Warning, I am going to wrap with some tough love: If you are unhappy, you need help and asking for it is not a sign of weakness. You can apply to my coaching program and find out how life coaching can transform your life, or you can get help from someone else who can show you the light because your life is too beautiful to choose to live it out in darkness.

Or you can do nothing and continue the way you have, in which case you can be certain to stay unhappy. By choice. So which is it going to be, darling?

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25 Money Affirmations to Attract Wealth and Abundance http://www.prolificliving.com/money-affirmations/ http://www.prolificliving.com/money-affirmations/#comments Tue, 24 Feb 2015 00:56:45 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41481 Just a Few Obvious Questions about Money Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts that is something on which to pride yourself but poverty itself is romanticized only by fools.” – J. K. Rowling, Author of The Harry Potter books. Do you want to make more money? Would you like to get rich? Do […]

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Just a Few Obvious Questions about Money

Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts that is something on which to pride yourself but poverty itself is romanticized only by fools.” – J. K. Rowling, Author of The Harry Potter books.

Do you want to make more money? Would you like to get rich? Do you want to create wealth and abundance in your life?

If you ask Google these money questions, you will get a bajillion hits (Okay, let me be exact, 2.3 Trillion Hits!).

No shortage of websites waiting to take your hard-earned money to show you how to make more money. In fact, “Make more money” is one of top searched terms by all humanity online, because like it or not, money brings security, comfort, and ease and ability to live a sweet life.

We can argue the happiness part but you can’t argue the other stuff.

So why do you suppose you are not making more money right now in your life?

This question used to boggle my mind early in my corporate career when I struggled with making more money at my corporate job … until the day that I had my paradigm shift.

And the shift is this: You cannot make more money – or attract wealth and abundance into your life – if you suffer from this one little syndrome:

You don’t believe you deserve it.

That’s right. You don’t make more money because you don’t believe you deserve it. All this money, that is.

You may say you do. You may swear you do. But until you have separated your true self from your ego self, you will fail.

This “I don’t deserve it”, or “I’m not worthy of it” premise about money is the foundation of self-limiting beliefs that keeps you hostage to your financial situation, and it’s not the only one. I have coached several clients through these self-limiting beliefs, and you know the most shocking part? They don’t have the awareness to recognize how their thoughts ruin their finances and destroy their chances of making a lot of money.

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Here are some other self-limiting beliefs that prevent you from making your own millions right now:

  • You don’t want to – you’re perfectly happy with your state of finances.
  • You don’t think you deserve it even though you’d never admit this.
  • You don’t think it’s possible given your life’s situation.
  • You think rich is evil and poverty is noble.
  • You think money will make you do bad things.
  • You believe you will lose your friends who also believe # 1,2, 3 above.
  • You feel torn, guilty and conflicted about your desire to be wealthy and prosperous.
  • You blame your parents for not having enough money and not teaching you better.
  • You believe riches are bestowed upon a lucky few.
  • You think you will be unhappy because money isn’t supposed to buy happiness.
  • You think the only way to be wealthy is if you married into wealth or came of wealth.
  • You have none of these self-limiting beliefs, you just have no idea how to make more money yet you won’t seek expert advice.

If you don’t have any of these self-limiting beliefs at all, and still struggle with your finances, leave me a comment below and explain your situation.

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Blame the Ego. Then Fix Your Money Problem.

The good news is that the self-limiting beliefs stem from your ego, not you.

This was a huge distinction for me and one that led me to huge corporate success and later to business success so please let me explain as I’d hate for you to dismiss it too soon.

Your ego is angry you’re not making more money, because the jokers who are don’t “deserve it” and you with all your hard work do.

Your ego wants to yell and complain and show you how to stand up for yourself. Your ego wants justice and payback and entitlement.

Your ego wants you to be the victim and feel bad about your situation and tell everyone you meet about it in great detail.

Your ego worries you’ll never ever make more money. Your ego is angry, worried, stressed and abysmal about your future prospects.

The good news is that you are NOT your ego. Your ego is a deranged and judgmental part of you that you must learn to carefully and successfully ignore if you want happiness, inner peace (aff), abundance and wealth, that is.

I have always loved money. I’ve never understood this guilt complex around money and yet I struggled in making things happen earlier in my life.

The paradigm shift for me happened the moment I decided that I was worthy of more and that meant saying no to everything that did not meet that bar. I mean: everything.

That meant being fearless enough to take chances, to risk failure and to handle success – all of which have been terrifying, and oh so worth it.

This paradigm shift meant that not only am I worthy of the wealth I picture, I am also capable of creating it, and doing so while staying true to my core values because those are nonnegotiable.

This process could only take place after I had identified the voice of the ego and silenced it, so that I could hear the voice of my own heart. Of my true self.

Create Your Paradigm Shift Around Money Now

How did I create this paradigm shift around money?

I changed my inner dialogue with the help of positive affirmations. One word at a time. One sentence at a time. One story at a time.

When your beliefs stem from your truth, not from your anger or your rage or frustrations or disappointments but from your best authentic self, you know you’ve set aside the ego and have moved past the first huge block in your progress.

Before we get to the top 25 money affirmations, I want to share what Jim Carrey told Oprah after describing his powerful wealth visualization techniques when he was a nobody.

 You can’t do the visualization and then go eat a sandwich. You have to do the work. ~Jim Carrey

So that much is implied. There’s no free lunch. But your mind has got to be in the right place before you can get to work. So first, the visualization. Or in our case, the money affirmations.

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25 Money Affirmations to Attract Wealth and Abundance

  1. I am a magnet for money. Prosperity is drawn to me.
  2. Money comes to me in expected and unexpected ways.
  3. I move from poverty thinking to abundance thinking.
  4. I am worthy of making more money.
  5. I am open and receptive to all the wealth life offers me.
  6. I embrace new avenues of income.
  7. I welcome an unlimited source of income and wealth in my life.
  8. I release all negative energy over money.
  9. Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
  10. I use money to better my life and the lives of others.
  11. Wealth constantly flows into my life.
  12. My actions create constant prosperity.
  13. I am aligned with the energy of abundance.
  14. I constantly attract opportunities that create more money.
  15. My finances improve beyond my dreams.
  16. Money is the root of joy and comfort.
  17. Money and spirituality can co-exist in harmony.
  18. Money and love can be friends.
  19. Money is my servant.
  20. I am the master of my wealth.
  21. I am able to handle large sums of money.
  22. I am at peace with having a lot of money.
  23. I can handle massive success with grace.
  24. Money expands my life’s opportunities and experiences.
  25. Money creates positive impact in my life.

Positive Affirmations: Money Series

MoneySeries 2You are worthy of having more money. You are allowed to enjoy financial abundance.

Do you want to discover how easy it is to turn your life from a constant state of financial struggle into a state of peaceful prosperity?

Do you want to build a healthy relationship with money and never again feel guilty about attracting wealth and abundance into your life?

Then hurry because we just launched audio program: Positive Affirmations for Life: Money Series and it is on a super sweet special for the first 72 hours. Grab it and start your path to prosperity now. I’ll see you there!

Speak Your Mind about Money

So now it’s your turn. Leave a comment telling us whether you have self-limiting beliefs and if you will be doing the money affirmations with me to attract wealth and abundance into your life.

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How to Live Fearlessly: Never Put Yourself in a Box http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-live-fearlessly/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-live-fearlessly/#comments Fri, 13 Feb 2015 01:57:22 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41441 How do you know when you are living your dream? How do you know when you are in the right job? How do you know if you are in the right business? I get these questions frequently during TV and radio interviews as well as when working with my amazing coaching clients. The answers are simple […]

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How do you know when you are living your dream?
How do you know when you are in the right job?
How do you know if you are in the right business?

I get these questions frequently during TV and radio interviews as well as when working with my amazing coaching clients.

The answers are simple but not easy, simple but not popular, simple but not for all.

First, let me share a recent Facebook update that inspired me to write this post and incidentally, it’ll give the answers to the questions above:

Speaking events. International travels. Exclusive clients. Successful products. Freedom lifestyle. Doing What I LOVE every day. My lowest hardest most wretched days in 4 years of entrepreneurship far far FAAAAAAAAR outweigh my best brightest most epic times in my 11-year Cisco corporate career. Hands down. That’s how I know I am living my purpose and fulfilling my destiny. That is how you know you are doing what your soul, your core being, your heart and your spirit were meant to do, this is how you find and stick to your purpose. This Feeling. There is no mistaking this feeling when you find it. So if something doesn’t feel this way in your life, there’s something much much MUCH better. Do NOT settle for mediocre, or average, or blah in your work or in your relationships or in your friendships. You can have EXQUISITE delicious fantastic unbelievably amazing … if (and only if) you decide you want it. You do have to decide!

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How to Never Put Yourself in a Box

Did you know that nobody puts you in a box? You do that for yourself just fine.

You put yourself in a career box, a relationship box, a lifestyle box, a family box and a belief system box, and you can choose to get out of those boxes anytime you wish.

No one is holding you hostage. No one is locking you up. Nobody said it has to be this way. Except YOU. You did that to yourself and you can undo it just as well as you did it.

You are free to go. You are free to explore. You are free to abandon a bad relationship, a wretched job (this I can show you how to do), and a lousy friend. You are also free to stick around and continue the cycle of abuse and pain and harm and sabotage.

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Living courageously and fearlessly is not a choice everyone will take. Everyone has the choice, but very few take it. Most people choose to succumb to the lousy “I don’t feel like it” syndrome for the majority of their lives.

Very few souls can tune out the noisy world long enough to listen to the rhythm of their own hearts, and to connect with what matters the most and then take the right steps in their lives to align to that inner voice, to that wisdom and guidance that comes from within you.

Most people will dismiss “living courageously and fearlessly” as a new age movement of the new generation who doesn’t know any better. Most would rather tune in to their endless array of excuses and barrage of complaints.

Most would rather sit on the couch and stew rather than walk a real mile in your shoes.

Those same people would sooner call you “lucky” and miss the whole entire point of your life’s message than listen to a word of what you have to say.

They will never hear the truth that they too have a choice, the choice is the big fat elephant in the room staring them in the face and they – through their ego-covered glasses – cannot for the life of them see it, much less take advantage of it.

So you can stay a victim, in a cage when the door is wide open before you and you can choose to traverse to any paradise of your heart’s calling. Or choose to stay by the side of your fears and frustrations.

On Transforming Yourself out of the Box

My hope for you is that you can see – before it’s too late – that you are a rare beautiful soul that has awakened to what matters in your life, and is ready to live life, not merely exist among the living.

My hope for you is that you have already transformed yourself out of every box ….

You’ve drowned your excuses. You’ve murdered your complaints. You’ve killed the victim mindset and put the winner mindset in charge of you.

You’ve decided that you want to learn how to live fearlessly. You’ve declared it is time to be motivated. You’ve decided it is worth it and you are worth it.

Because perhaps you’ve grown so sick and tired of living a mediocre life that you don’t care what it takes to get out of it, you are never going to let anyone put you in a box and tell you how to live your life. Never, ever again.

You are ready for a fearless and courageous life!

So welcome. Make yourself at home. I’ve got a wee bit more to say.

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But Wait: Is the Fearless Life Even “practical” or “realistic”?

Throw out those questions and replace it with this: Is the fearless life RIGHT for you? Is the courageous life TRUE to who you are?

If the answer is no, then go live your truth whatever it may be, go do what’s right for you. If you stick to that, you will have peace and happiness. It’s when we divert from our truth and what’s right for us that we get into trouble. Stop diverting already!

And if fearless is right and courageous feels true, then go be just that.

Approve of yourself, since criticizing and judging hasn’t worked so well.

Support your own goals instead of sabotaging them.

Love yourself instead of anything less.

Be on your own side, root for you, cheer yourself on, have a little more faith in yourself and a lot less faith in the lousy opinion of anyone who doesn’t believe in you.

Let yourself unfold. Let your magic begin. Let creativity and abundance take over. Let fears run and hide from you. Let insecurities vaporize.

Let yourself believe that you are worthy, you are ready, you are capable. Let love find you and fill you up and show you how to come home.

Do this and you’ll wake up to a new you tomorrow. And if you need help getting there, talk to me.

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4 Steps to End Your “I Don’t Feel Like It” Syndrome Forever http://www.prolificliving.com/i-dont-feel-like-it-syndrome/ http://www.prolificliving.com/i-dont-feel-like-it-syndrome/#comments Mon, 26 Jan 2015 06:24:15 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41371 The Ambitious Mind versus the Perceived Reality The alarm goes off at 5am. You are awakened from a state of deep sleep and rush over to the bathroom to turn off the sound. (Please tell me I’m not the only one who puts her alarm in the bathroom and not on the nightstand?) Then you […]

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The Ambitious Mind versus the Perceived Reality

The alarm goes off at 5am. You are awakened from a state of deep sleep and rush over to the bathroom to turn off the sound. (Please tell me I’m not the only one who puts her alarm in the bathroom and not on the nightstand?) Then you stand there just stupefied, wondering why you got up again?

Dreams are still hovering about in your head, and if you went back to bed right now, you may just be able to follow along on where they were taking you. But you got up at this unGodly hour for a good reason – which you need to pause and remember … and then you do remember. You stand there, wondering why you made such a foolish decision without consulting your morning mood.

And then it comes, the onslaught of excuses. Like water gushing out of a fire hydrant, your mind fills with excuses faster than you can blink. The theme of these excuses is always the same: “I Don’t Feel Like It!”

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Here’s a snapshot of what goes on in my head when the 4:45am alarm goes off for an early yoga practice, which often includes a drive 30 minutes to the other side of town:

It’s too early. I am sleepy. I can do it later at home on my own. I need my sleep. I shouldn’t leave my husband alone. I am getting old for this. My body is not made for this. I am feeling stiff, what if I break a bone or injure myself? It’s raining. It’s cold. It’s still dark outside. I’m hungry. I doubt my body will even stretch today. Am I dizzy this morning? My period is coming – I’m on my period – my period just finished and I need to regain my strength. When the bloody hell is my period again?

All of which says one thing, “Oh God, I just don’t feel like it!” And I tell you my unfiltered thoughts so you would know that I struggle with this too, and we need to first be vulnerable enough to realize our problems before we can fix them.

Speaking of problems, here’s a big one:

I. Don’t. Feel. Like. It.

How many times have you said that to yourself?

More importantly: How many times have you listened? How many times did you let “I don’t feel like it” decide the course of your actions? How many times were you glad that you made such a decision?

The Universal Human Condition that Silently Kills Dreams

I Don’t Feel Like It is a feeling so universal, so well-known to the human condition that we even have a specific term for it in my mother tongue, Farsi.

It is common because we can ‘afford’ it especially in the modern age when we have choices, when we have options to take breaks, to sleep in, to take the evenings off, to not do something and still watch life go on as normal.

There is no need for a sense of urgency in today’s lifestyle.

You don’t have to run from tigers and hunt for your food, you are safe and clothed, you have a roof over your head, clothes to wear, money to spend and a life that is grand, luxurious and out of this world amazing compared to any average life a century ago.

You have choices and that’s not always a good thing because you can resort to the path of least resistance, to the path of least effort and that would be the “I don’t feel like it” path.

It’s the excuse my husband gives me when I ask why he hasn’t done what we agreed he would do.

It’s the excuse your child gives you when you ask why he didn’t do his chores.

It’s the excuse your friends give you when you ask why they didn’t show up on your yoga class date.

It’s the excuse that we accept in return, one that we find completely natural because we can relate to it. We relate because it happens to us too.

We know too well about this pesky annoying mood that comes over us when we too don’t feel like it, it being anything that you know you want to do. Maybe it’s your writing, your running, your stretching, your clean green eating, your business work or anything else in between.

The feeling is not just a passing mood. If you show no resistance, if you go through your hours passively and go with the flow – which sounds like a good thing in most cases except this – it envelopes you in its mystic powers.

This feeling sucks the life force out of you. It distinguishes your inner peace, and gives you boredom and anxiety and stress in return.

It convinces you that it’s okay to let your projects slide, it’s okay to postpone the business building and stay in your miserable job, it’s okay to forget about your dreams and desires because you are too busy anyway, it’s okay – this pesky annoying feeling says to you – to let your workout slide, to let your yoga practice go, and to just take it easy and watch some more TV and live life as if you’ll live forever, as if time will never run out, as if the hourglass of your life will last for all eternity.

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You Have Got to Learn to Trust Yourself.

The “I Don’t Feel Like It” emotion is one that can wreak havoc to your life, it can destroy your fragile dreams if you do not take steps to eradicate it.

So … are you ready to take back your time and your life? It starts with your intention to live life on your terms, not on random erratic terms that your moods dictate.

The first thing you have to understand is that while you may not control your emotions, you may actually control your reactions.

And you can develop your desired reactions to a particular situation with enough self-discipline and practice. Over time, with enough repetition, you will lean naturally towards the intentional reaction rather than those quick impulses.

Get Me Out of Here Now: No More “I Don’t Feel Like It”

Okay enough theory. Let’s get down to the practical steps. Next time you hear the “I Don’t Feel Like It” in your head, follow my quick get-me-out-of-here approach below:

1. Check your energy level: MOVE

If you are low on energy, MOVE. Try my 10 Minute Invigorator Program. Motivation starts with movement. So take an energizing walk around the block, go up and down the stairs, or do a few handstands (my go-to quick boost!).

2. Check your hydration level: HYDRATE

Are you thirsty? If you feel even slightly thirsty, you have waited too long to hydrate your body, and dehydration is the quickest way to lose focus, energy and attention span. Drink room-temperature filtered water.

3. Check your mental level: MEDITATE

Are you focused on a project or scattered? Are you aware of what you need to be doing right now? If not, take time to ground and re-group yourself. Check in with your priority – or goal – list. Whatever system you use – and I hope you have one or hit me up so we can develop one for you.

4. Check your emotional level: ACCEPT

Are you feeling particularly sad, angry, frustrated, unhappy or any particular negative emotions? It’s okay to feel that way so give yourself permission instead of denying the reality of your feelings. Then when you have identified the emotion, sit with it, take time to understand it.

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One method that works for me and my clients is to meditate, to take 10 to 20 minutes and meditate on the feeling. Why am I feeling this way? How can I move through it and feel better? Trust in the meditation and let it do the work for you.

This is the quick 4-step process to get you out of that “I Don’t Feel Like It” mood and move you towards your next goal, next project, next task, whatever it may be, because you know what?

That hour-glass of your life is not stopping for you or for any of your moods, and if these moods are taking you further and further away from the desires of your heart, well, is it not worthy investigating and eradicating them so you – my darling – get back in charge of your life?

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In Search of Inner Peace and Bliss? Develop Your Spiritual Practice http://www.prolificliving.com/spiritual-practice/ http://www.prolificliving.com/spiritual-practice/#comments Mon, 12 Jan 2015 15:44:22 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41341 The Question Oprah Asks in Every Interview Oprah Winfrey once mentioned a question she insists on asking in her interviews, a question that throws off the poor interviewee every single time. The question is this: So tell me, what is your spiritual practice? She described the general reaction as such: the interviewee would first stare […]

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The Question Oprah Asks in Every Interview

Oprah Winfrey once mentioned a question she insists on asking in her interviews, a question that throws off the poor interviewee every single time. The question is this:

So tell me, what is your spiritual practice?

She described the general reaction as such: the interviewee would first stare at her, trying to come up with a polite response, searching for words, then they’d shift uncomfortably in the chair, smile awkwardly and settle on a casual but often self-justifying response.

To the most common response of “Well I’m not religious, Miss Oprah!”, she would gently say: “I didn’t ask you what your religion was. I asked you what your spiritual practice is. What do you do to ground yourself everyday?”

And that’s where she had me hooked by highlighting the importance of your spiritual practice for building a healthy, happy and massively successful life.

What Do You Do to Ground Yourself Daily?

What do you do to ground yourself, to find that center, to feel balanced, so that you can go through the day guided by tremendous love and power, the source of which comes from nowhere but within you?

A spiritual practice can be the practice of your religion – or not. It can be prayers and psalms, prophets and pilgrimages. It can also be the poetry of Rumi, the heavenly sound of a musical instrument, a quiet meditative walk in nature, or a daily writing habit. It can be your time alone reading and studying that which adds to your inner wisdom.

Your spiritual practice is whatever routine that helps you shut out the outside world to dwell on the inner world. It is the practice that gets you closer to the true self because therein lie all the answers to your life’s questions.

Your spiritual practice is whatever zen habits that grounds you in your own truth and helps you get to know your real self. Who you are. Why you are here. What your purpose is. Where your path lies. Where your service to humanity comes to life. Where you celebrate your existence.

Your spiritual practice gives you access to your inner sanctum, where your most powerful gifts lie quiet, awaiting your bidding. Your spiritual practice opens the door and lets you walk through. Your spiritual practice brings you home so you never feel lost, confused, overwhelmed or abandoned ever again.

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You Are a Celebration of Life, not a Burden to It!

You are more powerful, more beautiful, more magnificent than your mind has the capacity to imagine, and this is not to boost the ego which then sets off to abuse these gifts for its own end goal. You are all this with the responsibility to use these assets you’ve been endowed with for the higher good.

You are a celebration of life, so do not be a burden to others no matter what your life has been like, instead, rise up to be a gift to everyone who crosses your path. If you are having a hard time doing this, grounding yourself through a spiritual practice can be your answer.

Grounding yourself daily allows you to be present in the moment and connect to your core desires, your creative genius and your true self. Because whoever you are, you carry those gifts inside – core desires, creative genius and true self. You may be completely oblivious to them, or knowingly neglect them or worse, believe that God or the universe forgot to endow you with anything special at all.

None of that changes the truth: You have core desires that are worthy of pursuing, of believing and of achieving. You have a genius that you can cultivate and put to service of humanity. And that your true self will guide you to inner peace(aff), joy and happiness. You must only be attuned to it in order to benefit from it.

How Deep Are Your Roots?

To access these innate gifts, you must be balanced, you must be centered, you must be grounded in who you are and what you are about as strongly as a 3000-year old oak tree that withstands windstorms, hurricanes and massive downpours from the sky above.

The tree withstands it all because it is deeply rooted in the ground. It knows where it belongs, and it has no intention of letting anything steal his gifts. It stands tall and yet remembers its roots. You must remember your roots.

To be deeply rooted like the oak tree, you must learn how to ground yourself. You must know that all power resides inside of you, in your core, in your very center, you have an abundance of peace, faith, love, joy, resilience, determination, desire, and power to do anything – anything at all.

When Your Life is Out of Balance …

When your life is out of balance, when nothing is going as you had planned or hoped, when you feel as if you’re just reacting to your world, instead of moving through it with intention and purpose, then you’ve lost touch with that core – with your most treasured part.

You have disconnected. You have turned off the lights, walked out of your home, and are sitting in a dark, dank and desolate place by the side of the road, hoping against hope that someone – anyone – will show you how to get back to your own home.

The worst part, the absolute worst part of this is that you are doing all of this by choice. Your choice!

How can anyone help you find your way home, when you are the one that left home by choice and you are the only one that knows how to find your way back?

It is for this reason that, whoever you may be, whatever your religion, your theology, your organized – or unorganized – belief system, you need a spiritual practice, one that can meet and respond to your needs.

Feel grounded as the oak tree, strong against the winds of life, balanced in chaos, and flexible when you need to bend and re-adjust your position.

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Develop Your Spiritual Practice: 3 Questions to Ask

Spirituality is simply a connection with your highest self, with your true purpose in life, with finding the path that brings you peace, joy, happiness so that you can then spread the fruits to those who cross your path in life.

Since you are unique, your practice needs to be unique to you. A spiritual practice can come in a thousand shapes and colors. There are no boundaries, no rule-books, and no right or wrong way to do it.

The purpose of a spiritual practice is 3-fold: It leaves you feeling grounded, balanced and flexible.

If you are just now learning how to start your own spiritual practice, start with these 3 questions:

  1. When I feel at complete peace with my life, what am I doing?
  2. When I am out of sorts, what calms me down and makes it right again?
  3. Where is my sacred “happy place”? Describe it.

Your answers above are a great start of getting to know yourself and what you need and how you can build daily habits of a spiritual practice. And don’t be surprised if your spiritual practice takes over the inner demons that make you miserable, and begins to envelop you in peace, joy and utter happiness.

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Feeling Low? 28 Ways to Motivate Yourself Now http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-motivate-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-motivate-yourself/#comments Fri, 02 Jan 2015 23:33:28 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41296 A New Year Alone Does Not Bring Motivation One of my coaching clients asked me this the other day: How do you and all successful people keep their motivation going, at a steady pace? I love it when my clients challenge me. If I’m not growing in my work, if I am comfortable where I […]

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A New Year Alone Does Not Bring Motivation

One of my coaching clients asked me this the other day:

How do you and all successful people keep their motivation going, at a steady pace?

I love it when my clients challenge me. If I’m not growing in my work, if I am comfortable where I am, then what’s the point? I might as well be back at my stupid corporate job, doing mundane tasks and just getting through the day.

So I started thinking hard about what it is that I do to stay motivated not just for a day or week at a time but over the course of months and seasons and especially years.

I started to think of all the seemingly unrelated, silly and unconventional ways that I keep motivation alive so that like food, it can sustain me as I evolve and grow myself, my relationships, and my business. Because without good nourishment of your mind, heart and soul, you will feel like a robot going through the motions of life, and you are not meant to be a robot, my dear.

You can be tough as a Marine corps pilot – Hey, I’m reading the Great Santini by Pat Conroy and Bull Meecham is on my mind! – but you’re still a human being and you have got to feed the heart, mind and soul if you want to sustain yourself for decades to come.

Feed yourself with a daily dose of motivation.

So here’s a confession: I am NOT motivated all the time. Not by any stretch of imagination.

I have down days way more frequently than I’d like to admit. I have days when I feel unmoved to write a single word and that makes my daily writing challenge a wee bit challenging. I have days when I feel totally uninspired by myself, when I feel as if I have nothing to add to the universe, nothing to give to anyone, nothing worthy of sharing and spreading.

I have days when I feel empty, hollow and void of all creative energy. And you know what? It’s OKAY to have those days!

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Remember: Just because you feel unmotivated at times does not make you an unmotivated person.

It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you don’t stop. ~Confucius

Steer Clear of Speculation and Focus on Facts

When motivation takes a leave of absence, become aware. Even tell yourself “You know, I don’t feel motivated right now. Let me do something about that.”

Recognize that you are just feeling unmotivated and get some perspective. This has the immediate effect of putting you into action-taking mode, instead of letting you wander into the negativity zone with all the things that are “wrong” with you. (Which is all of nothing!)

What helps ground me is when I ask myself what do I know for a fact? For instance, I know for a fact that I absolutely LOVE what I do, that I have a crystal clear WHY I do it and that there is nothing else I’d rather do at the moment than grow this platform, this message, this endeavor that I so believe in.

So I have no doubt that the direction I am heading and the path that I am following is right for me. That knowledge relaxes me. It may not motivate me into action but it relaxes me. I feel grounded versus lost and confused. I feel my fingers tightening around a pillar of support so I don’t fall into the bottomless pit of negativity, worry and stress.

Then comes the work of actual motivation and you have to decide what to do to make that happen.

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The good news is that there is more than one way to motivate yourself. There are in fact countless ways you can motivate yourself.

So your first task is to get to know yourself so well that you know how you respond to each method of self-motivation. What works well for me may not work half as well for you, and that’s why this is a process of both self-discovery and constant experimentation.

They say motivation is like a shower. You need one every day to stay nice and motivated.

True as that may be, we can’t always run to a ready shower stall to get our daily dose of motivation using soap and running water.

The same thing that motivated you yesterday or last week may not work as well in this moment or tomorrow. So you need to tune in to yourself, to start a journey of self-discovery as you learn not one but many, many, ways to motivate yourself to get the things that you want in life.

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28 Ways to Motivate Yourself Now

Remember, the irony of self-motivation is that you may not feel like motivating yourself one single bit. Do not listen to that voice for a minute!

If you give in to that voice, you’ve lost. Instead, get up right now, stretch, shake your body, move and learn how to motivate yourself with these 28 ways:

Note this list is not in any particular order. I recommend reading it through once and then picking out the top 5 that speak to you and start with applying those.

1. Get up and get moving. Movement motivates even if you’re walking around your house while stagnation disenchants.
2. Drink more water. Dehydration can cause more problems than germs! Hydrate that body with pure filtered water often.
3. Go for a brisk walk. Shut the laptop, put away the papers, close the office door and go for a walk. A brisk one.
4. Play with your pet. Or any pet. Time with animals has been shown to improve morale, happiness and yes, even motivation.
5. Change up your workplace. Change the environment where you work. Go work in a cafe or in another room or a co-working space.
6. Listen to a motivational audio. Find 5-10 minute motivational talk from someone who speaks to you and listen when you need it.
Audio books are great but a long book can be time-consuming.
7. Call an inspiring person. When you surround yourself with people who inspire you, you will stay motivated. Inspiration moves you to action.
8. Motivate someone else. When you feel discouraged or let down, focus on helping someone else and you will immediately feel the same effect.
9. Catch up on your rest. Are you sleep-deprived? Are you pulling in long days and choosing not to rest and recuperate properly? Fatigue kills motivation instantly.
10. Sleep. If you are so tired you can barely keep your eyes open, as I’m feeling when typing this right now in the mid-afternoon light, then take a power nap. Power naps are 20-30 minutes and they are rejuvenating.
11. Do something unexpected for yourself. If you’ve been neglecting yourself and your needs, it’s hard to stay motivated to do anything – especially if it concerns others. Focus on rewarding yourself.
12. Simplify and declutter. If you’re feeling the weight of clutter in your house or your office, you’ll need to simplify. Fast. This affects your motivation directly.
13. Develop a mantra. A mantra is a phrase that is your true essence. Mine is “I am doing work that makes a difference.” Come up with yours, write it up on your board and read it out loud every time you feel low.
14. Release your grip on the past. If you’re trying to stay motivated on what affects your future, but feel weighed down by the past, you will not move forward. Let go of the past. You don’t need it to build your dream future.
15. Collect quotes that speak to you. Memorize the top 10 inspirational and motivational quotes that speak to your heart. Create a repository of your own motivation “drawer” – digital or physical – and collect whatever gives you goosebumps. Refer to it when you need it.
16. Know your why. Get crystal clear as to why you are doing this project? If not, spend some time to figure out your why. The best reason to stay motivated is to be clear on why you are taking this path in life.
17. Stretch your body with yoga. Your body needs to be stretched daily. I’m not saying you must do 2 hours of yoga – which will put you in a state of complete bliss – but do stretch daily. Be religious about it like you are about brushing your teeth.
18. Brush your teeth. Yes, clean hygiene in your mouth makes you more inclined to do everything else. Go figure!
19. Floss your teeth. After every meal, floss your teeth and watch the difference in how it makes you feel.
20. Talk to your biggest fan. Mine happens to be my life and business partner, Andy Brock. Who is yours? It’s even possible you haven’t yet met your biggest fan but you have one out there. Be open to meeting this person.
21. Make a cup of fine tea. Whatever your favorite drink may be, there is a magical quality to a hot freshly brewed cup of fine tea. I believe in the magic of Dragonwell, Jasmine, Tie Guan Yin, and Sencha tea. It can shift my entire mood to one of positivity and hope.
22. Shut off your media consumption: Over-consumption can and will dull our senses and reduce your creativity juices to the point that you can feel completely unmotivated. Be especially wary of the adverse effects of consuming the news. Remember your motivation and your creativity are closely related. Nourish both. Turn it all off.
23. Meditate. Go inwards and inquire within if you want answers that are true – even if you may not like them. Meditation has the magic of grounding and centering you, and reminding you what’s important in life. It gives rise to motivation.
24. Read or listen to books. Develop a habit of reading one book a month, then one book a week and be very selective in how you choose your books. Choose your books with a purpose. Mine is to educate, inspire, expand my horizons, and become a better writer. Reading books also makes you smart!
25. Wikipedia someone you admire. Look up someone you admire and you’ll find that their life has been full of hardship. Let that inspire you. Your role models went through dark times but it was their devotion to the manifestation of their dreams that pushed them forward and quite likely made them into the people that now you admire.
26. Write with a pen in a real notebook. In fact, get a nice leather-bound notebook and write in it daily. The act of writing is both therapeutic and stimulating and it can provide you with the escape from noise and distractions and help you tap into what really matters to you.
27. Do a handstand. Or five. If you don’t have a yoga practice, then at the very least, learn a simple inversion that you can do safely against a wall. When you invert your body, you reverse the flow of blood and you will feel a surge of energy and inspiration both.
28. Remember you are a remarkable, unique and brilliant. If nothing works, if it’s one of those days when your senses have taken a leave of absence and you can’t motivate yourself, that’s okay too. Just know that you are a remarkable, unique and brilliant human being. Repeat that to yourself over and over and over again. It might just do the trick.

There you have it! Do you have anything to add for the 29th way to motivate yourself? Share it in the comments. Stay inspired. Stay motivated because you are worthy of your dreams!

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Writer’s Block: The Myth, the Truth and the Solution http://www.prolificliving.com/writers-block/ http://www.prolificliving.com/writers-block/#comments Mon, 22 Dec 2014 00:55:57 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41258 When the Words Stop Flowing … What do you do when the writing just doesn’t come, when the words don’t flow out of you like all easy rivers flow to the sea, and when a blank screen stays blank minutes and hours on end? What do you do when you can’t seem to tell your […]

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When the Words Stop Flowing …

What do you do when the writing just doesn’t come, when the words don’t flow out of you like all easy rivers flow to the sea, and when a blank screen stays blank minutes and hours on end?

What do you do when you can’t seem to tell your story?

It’s not for lack of trying, that much you know for certain.

You’ve done everything right. You’ve tried to set your distractions aside, made time and space in your life, created a quiet haven in your home or wherever you have settled down to write, and you even have the perfect music playing.

But nothing. Nothing Is Happening.

Or perhaps, what’s happening is so abhorrent to you that you delete and toss it before it sees the light of day. And then you stare at your refreshed blank screen, deflated from all the earlier mishaps with the day’s writing, and feeling empty and frustrated for having nothing to show for the last 3 hours.

The muse is not visiting today or ever it seems. The creative force that was with you in the shower or in the car is nowhere, nowhere at all.

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You’re not naive. You knew this wasn’t going to be easy.

You accepted that there would be bad days of writing and good days of writing, but you didn’t expect oh so many bad days in a row, and so little inspiration for such a long stretch of time. You expected a fair balance at play from the Writing Universe. Or at least a little break.

You’ve seen the signs and you know what this is. You were warned after all. You’re ready to declare defeat because you have indeed caught “writer’s block”. It’s not good news but at least every writer – or aspiring writer – out there can sympathize with you even if they can’t solve your problem.

“I don’t believe in writer’s block. Writer’s block is when you’re running down an ally and all of a sudden you’re trapped by a brick wall. You can’t go under, over, or through it. You’re stuck. But the problem isn’t that you can’t pass the brick wall. You see, the problem is that you went down the wrong ally.”
― Barry Lyga

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Beware: Writer’s Block is a Myth.

Writer’s block is a myth. It does not exist.

Your writing cannot possibly be blocked. You are not a road. They can’t block you with boulders and cars!

You are a genius human being with the vast expanse of the entire universe in your imagination!

Even though you are a physical being, your writing comes from beyond the physical realm and therefore, it cannot be blocked, stopped or taken away. Not unless you allow it.

Some of the greatest books in our history were written in the most dire circumstances known to man and woman. On typewriters. On paper. Sometimes on even less satisfying tools. They were written in prison cells, in hiding places during the war, in ghettos, in small laundry rooms and cold basements, in cars, in motel rooms, and worse much worse places.

Those writers didn’t have writer’s block – or if they did, it did not matter one bit – did it – because their life’s work depended on the written word and by God, they were going to write every single word if it cost them their lives or other high prices.

When you think about those writers and their circumstances – lacking in almost all of life’s simple comforts not just for their day-to-day living but for doing their work, their writing, how do you feel about your own declaration of “writer’s block”?

Does it even make sense that you would allow yourself to succumb to such a shallow excuse and let it delay your life’s work? Does it seem fair that an outside force that you can’t even understand would put a stop to your writing projects for an indefinite period of time?

Even If It Were ‘Real’, You Can’t Afford It

If you tell yourself you are going to be at your desk tomorrow, you are by that declaration asking your unconscious to prepare the material. You are, in effect, contracting to pick up such valuables at a given time. Count on me, you are saying to a few forces below: I will be there to write.” — Norman Mailer in The Spooky Art: Some Thoughts on Writing

Is writer’s block for real? What does it even mean? Does it mean lack of inspiration, lack of desire, lack of discipline, lack of story inside of you or lack of something else entirely?

Whether you believe writer’s block is real or a myth, if you want to have a career as a writer, you just can’t afford it. It is too high a price to pay with your time and energy and resources.

In fact, you will be risking your future as a successful writer by the simple fact of believing in writer’s block. Because you have neither the time nor the energy to entertain any periods of break from your writing, darling! None whatsoever!

If you want to be a writer in your heart of hearts, then you must write every single day.

You must write when you don’t feel like it, when you can’t stand the idea of sitting down and typing, and when you have every brilliant excuse to do something else.

A writer writes. A writer writes whether it’s raining or sunny, whether he’s in a good or bad mood, whether she’s had a great or rotten day, whether he’s sick or well, whether she’s inspired or not.

A writer writes every single day without the promise that the writing will always be great or even good but simply with the self-assurance that he or she takes the responsibility of daily writing most seriously, and this process itself will cultivate the seasoned writer, one that knows no such thing as “writer’s block”.

You, your muse and heeding the signs.

If you ask me, writer’s block is more rubbish than real. I’m not saying you won’t have periods of absolute stagnation in your writing. Or that there won’t be periods when you won’t feel like writing a single sentence or producing anything worthy of being read. Or that on occasion you won’t be terrified of writing and being read.

I’m just saying writer’s block is not real. Writing is just hard work. And the periods when the writing is not flowing are simply subtle sign for a little help.

I imagine the sign carrying a message from your muse that says something like this:

“Look here now, boss! I’ve been helping you out and flowing like the Amazon river for the past year or decade or week (whatever the case may be with your writing history), but I’ve just about had it. You need to go back to the mountain cabin and start with me at 6am NOT 3:30pm when you feel like a nap OR you need to tell the kids to leave you alone and that means no knocking on the door when we are trying to write that scene together for the 18th time OR you can’t expect me to show up if you’re still noodling over the spat you had with your honey. So make up your mind. Commit. Show up and I will too.”

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So ‘writer’s block’ – if you insist on calling it that – is just a sign for a little help that you need to heed and fix before the writing can flow again.

If you want your muse to show up daily, be gentle and inviting. Open the door and make it enticing for it to waltz in and sit next to you. Be original, creative, natural, and prolific in your writing.

Show up every day and have the highest intention to do the sacred work of writing. Aim to inspire, entertain and inform the reader and be willing to do it tirelessly and effortlessly. Do this and your muse has no choice but to show up.

Treat your muse with gentle compassion, with quiet peace and understanding, with patience and love, and it will show up again and again.

What I try to do is write. I may write for two weeks ‘the cat sat on the mat, that is that, not a rat.’ And it might be just the most boring and awful stuff. But I try. When I’m writing, I write. And then it’s as if the muse is convinced that I’m serious and says, ‘Okay. Okay. I’ll come.’ — Maya Angelou

I don’t believe in writer’s block, but I certainly believe in writer’s muse. What about you? Tell me in the comments.

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How to Believe In Yourself Again after Failure http://www.prolificliving.com/believe-in-yourself-after-failure/ http://www.prolificliving.com/believe-in-yourself-after-failure/#comments Fri, 12 Dec 2014 16:07:43 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41219 Guess What? Failure is Not Bad. At All. Here’s the problem. And this is a big problem that if you don’t wrap your brain around and totally get it now, it is going to delay your happiness and success for a very long time. Are you ready? Here goes: Failure Is Not Bad. I know […]

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Guess What? Failure is Not Bad. At All.

Here’s the problem. And this is a big problem that if you don’t wrap your brain around and totally get it now, it is going to delay your happiness and success for a very long time. Are you ready? Here goes:

Failure Is Not Bad.

I know you’ve heard this before but you haven’t believed it yet, have you? Because until you do, it’s no good knowing it.

Reminder: You can still grab The Positive Affirmations for Life program with more than 4 hours of audio affirmations for 7 life situations that impact your happiness and success the most.

If you want to stop reading now, just don’t ever again forget this little fact I just shared with you because it can save your dreams from drowning in your soul. Yep, just this little one tiny factoid. I’ll say it again:

Failure is not bad.

Get over it already! So what if you failed?

At least you tried something. Stop tying your identity, your past and your entire future to a failure – small or ginormous.

You are not your failure. You are so much more than that that it can hurt your head if you could fully picture it. You are powerful beyond measure.

It’s hard to believe in yourself again after failure if you put your faith in failure. Well, that’s the problem. Put your faith in YOURSELF but learn from your failures. Do you see the distinction? That’s how you never lose faith in yourself – and no matter what the failure, you don’t ever stop believing in yourself. Now that can be a powerful way to live.

Failures are not bad.

Where did we get this stupid ridiculous idea that failure is bad? Why, everywhere in our lives of course. From the minute we are able to understand anything, we are told right from wrong, good from bad and soon after, failure from success.

We learn to see them as two separate things. Success is over here way on the bright and sunny side of the spectrum and failure is at the pit, on the far left corner, in a little dark damp cave.

No wonder we find it so hard to believe that success is actually made up of a whole bunch of failures, but it’s true. Success and failure are so intertwined that you cannot have one without the other. The sunny bright side would not be possible without walking through the dark damp cave first. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to treat both of them the same.

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
From the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling

5 Reasons Every Successful Person Knows Why Failure is Good For You

First, you need to understand why success starts with failure. Sure, there are other factors that impact success such as a bit of luck, timing, opportunity, and the right circumstances that help success come about but they are small compared to the power of failure.

So failure is not bad. Which makes it – you got it – good. In fact, very very good. But what makes failure oh so good.

Here are a few quick thoughts that come to mind:

  1. You went for it instead of just sitting around envying others or having a pity party.
  2. You proved that you have characteristic traits like courage, determination, patience, willingness, initiative and a bunch more.
  3. You made yourself vulnerable, which later will make you powerful. Just watch!
  4. You completed something – because you can’t fail until you get to a certain point where you determine if you have won or lost. So you have completed something but the results were not in your favor. Still, you get points for completion.
  5. You decided that it was worth trying something and failing instead of not trying at all. This is huge.

This is just a tiny snippet of what it means to have experienced failure but as you can see, it is good. Everything outlined above can serve you to reach your higher self and get closer to your deep true purpose in life. Doesn’t that make you want to give your failures a hug now instead of condemning them to hell every time they happen?

Stop Associating Irrelevant Crap with Failure

It’s not the fault of failure if you are associating completely irrelevant outcomes to it. Is it?

Outcomes such as feeling defeated, tired, angry, frustrated, like a loser, ready to quit, unhappy, cheated out of something, confused, overwhelmed and bitter.

It is NOT the fault of failure that you choose to have this response to what happened. It is the fault of – well, to be quite blunt – you, my darling.

You are to blame for feeling this way because you happen to have every means to stop how you react to everything in life.

In fact, that’s your one true strength so make it your ally: How you react to the things that happen to you.

Now wouldn’t you want to capitalize on the one thing you control rather than to throw up your hands in the air and say “I give up this control, I give away my power!” – because that’s what you are doing.

Do not be reduced by the circumstances or the outcome of something just because it’s not in your favor at this moment. You have to believe, believe in your dream to the point of delusion, to the point of complete unreason, to even borderline insanity if you must, but then you have to go out there and do whatever it takes to make it happen.

Failure is your friend in this process and it is going to show up now and again, but over time, if you’re doing it right, if you’re moving forward, taking action, learning from your mistakes, growing from your failures and still going after that dream with enthusiasm – not bitterness or grudges – then you will be truly successful.

Besides, if it weren’t for failure, do you think success would taste so good? You cannot appreciate light without darkness, and both are necessary to keep our world turning.

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
From the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling

Just Because You Failed Doesn’t Guarantee You Will Succeed

Wait. What? I just finished telling you how great failure is and how success is made up of a bunch of failures …

Let me explain more clearly that failure itself is no guarantee of success without commitment, devotion, persistence, and constant action. Just because you failed does not mean you “paid your dues”. Next time you go for it, you may succeed – or not.

Failure doesn’t promise success next time. Failure is only a path to success, and every time you fail, you get closer to success, that’s the only certainty.

The timing of your success depends on how hard you push, how prepared you are, how good your intentions are, how much you learn from your failures and move forward without repeating what didn’t work.

Some of us have to fail a lot before we taste sweet success. Some of us get there faster and it makes the rest of us wonder why them and not us. Stop comparing yourself.

The only thing you should concern yourself with if you want to be happy and reach amazing sweet heights of success is to follow your own path, to adjust your course by learning from your failures, to work hard and smart, and to believe in yourself.

If it sounds too simple, it’s because it is. Stop complicating it and start doing it.

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
From the poem IF by Rudyard Kipling

Failure is not bad.

It is the reaction that you have to failure that makes it not so great. And that, you can change. So start now. Change your reaction. And you will begin to change your life.

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Do You Know How Powerful You Are? http://www.prolificliving.com/you-are-powerful/ http://www.prolificliving.com/you-are-powerful/#comments Fri, 28 Nov 2014 14:00:25 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41179 Stand still inside yourself and know who you are. You are God’s child and in God, you move and breathe and have your being. ~ Maya Angelou Do you know how powerful you are? Do you know how strong and deep your faith becomes if only you choose to believe? Do you know that you […]

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Stand still inside yourself and know who you are. You are God’s child and in God, you move and breathe and have your being. ~ Maya Angelou

Do you know how powerful you are?

Do you know how strong and deep your faith becomes if only you choose to believe? Do you know that you cannot be broken unless you allow it? Do you know that life is neither “fair” or “unfair” – life just is – and you are the one assigning those labels where none are needed?

Do you know that your mind can be the weakest or strongest vessel and that you alone are the captain of that ship ? Do you know that you are not born a certain way – you are not born “gifted” or “talented” or “lucky” – you are simply born and what you make of this gift is up to you.

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Do you know how powerful you are?

Beware the masses of bitter, angry, pessimistic souls who are convinced that life is a bitter pill and are forever inviting you to join their dark world and live in their fear.

Beware of the dirty feet that would gladly walk all over your pure clean sanctuary because they have already turned their own place into a muddy murky swamp of desolation.

Beware of the force of negativity around you for it can be strong, tempting, and destructive. And protect your thoughts as you would protect your body, your loved ones and your home.

Do you know how powerful you are?

What you decide happens so decide carefully what you want in this life. What you tolerate stays so choose your sorrows and battles well. What you believe comes to be so have a little more faith and trust in yourself . What you focus on grows and what you practice consistently turns into perfection.

What you persist on doing becomes your craft, your art, your creative genius. And what you envy in others will eat away at you and make all your blessings seem small and insignificant. So release the envy and the jealousy and focus on your own life’s work. It matters. YOU matter.

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Do you know how powerful you are?

When you overcome the enemy within, the enemy without loses its power. And you overcome the enemy within by following your inner compass, your inner truth, your inner voice. You overcome the force of self-sabotage and victimhood by focusing laser-sharp on the higher truth within yourself, and no matter who you are, you have a purpose, you are here for a reason bigger than yourself, and you have GOT to figure out what that is.

Because if you don’t know your own truth, you will miss out on the entire essence of your life.

You will exist without truly living. You will function without believing. You will go through the motions of life without understanding what it’s all about. You will experience the ultimate failure as a human being and that is an awful awful thing to live through.

When you know better, you do better. ~ Maya Angelou

Do you know how powerful you are?

You are a gift to the universe. You are a creative genius, a beauty, a kind loving soul and a fountain of youth and possibility.

You are here on earth for a brief time but you can make that time unforgettable. You may be one person but it is individuals that start the chain reactions of advancement, betterment and achievement. It is individuals like you that inspire dozens, hundreds and millions of people. And it is individuals that start movements.

Change starts with one person so be the spark for change, not the excuse for why you cannot change.

If you can serve and be of service, if you can make a difference in just one human being’s life, and if you can do the work that makes your heart sing, your life will have been worth the living. You are here for a brief time but if you have the power to leave a legacy, and through that, you will go on living for a very long time.

Your legacy is every person you touched. Your legacy how you lived, what you did and what you said every day. ~Maya Angelou

Do you know how powerful you are?

The story that has been playing in your mind can empower you or cripple you. The principles that you believe about who you are and what you are worth can make you a winner or a loser in your life, regardless of your circumstances or your place in life or your upbringing or anything else. What do you choose to be – a winner or a loser? You can only choose one and only YOU can choose for you, not anyone else.

Create your reality and sustain it with a foundational belief system that supports – not negates – your dreams and your goals. You can get all the support and love and guidance that you need to see this journey through but first, you have to remember your own power. Your journey begins with you or it doesn’t begin at all.

So I ask you again – because I already know the answer, darling – do you know how powerful you are?

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The Easiest Cure to Stop Arguing with Your Significant Other http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-stop-arguing/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-stop-arguing/#comments Thu, 20 Nov 2014 15:07:32 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41118 Why some couples never argue while the rest of us … well … do? Some couples never ever argue. Some couples are in-tuned to each other’s temperaments At All Times. They escape the usual disagreements and misunderstandings that plague the rest of us. They float in a space of complete zen and bliss. They are […]

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Why some couples never argue while the rest of us … well … do?

Some couples never ever argue.

Some couples are in-tuned to each other’s temperaments At All Times. They escape the usual disagreements and misunderstandings that plague the rest of us. They float in a space of complete zen and bliss.

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They are patient with each other even as their emotions fluctuate or as their opinions clash.

They are kind and collected even as they move on wildly different planes of opinion and thought. They listen to one another with their whole hearts and they never, ever raise their voices.

They are not a fairy tale couple – they do exist – even though they perfectly match the Prince and Princess profiles of a Disney movie.

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Is it good to never argue? The old me used to think that couples who never argue are not really communicating or opening up to each other. And once in a while, a perfectly calm relationship may be due to lack of real communication, but after paying a lot more attention, I believe the opposite is true:

Peaceful relationships are the result of true communication, true listening, and true love that rises above all else between two people.

But how on earth do you actually do it?

How do two unique people, each equipped with their own authentic personality, preferences, opinions, and likes & dislikes go through a lifetime commitment such as marriage without arguing some of the time and without at least some of it being downright desperate and heart-wrenching?

How is it even possible to create and maintain a strong healthy long-term relationship without hitting those bumps?

Well, it is possible and not just for the Disney couple either. The distinction is this: You will hit bumps. You will have disagreements. You will have differences of opinion, thought and approach. But you can do it all WITHOUT arguing.

After years of being a victim of my own self-inflicted endless debates and painful fights, after trying several approaches to having “healthy rational discussions” – none of which worked for me by the way – I discovered a ridiculously simple solution to a peaceful argument-free relationships that has finally freed me from my own prison.

Are you going to stay in your own prison or free yourself?

Do you want to free yourself from the prison of unhappiness and desperation brought on by arguments, provided you have a good partner and a good thing going together? Because no mistake about it: It IS a prison that YOU create yourself. And it takes a conscious choice to step out of it.

Now if you are in an abusive or wrong relationship, then you need to end it fast and recover from the experience. This post does not apply to you.

The good news? No matter who you are, you can learn how to stop arguing with your sweetie. If I’ve done it, there’s hope for the most hopeless out there, trust me.

Imagine for a moment what it would feel like to never argue, never have to raise your voice and defend yourself, never have to scream why you are right and never blame the other person.

Imagine if you could get rid of all the toxic, cancerous, humiliating feelings that follow an argument and embrace healthy, peaceful loving conversations even if you disagree with one another.

Imagine if you did all this not by submitting to the other person nor by giving up, but rather by maintaining your position, by communicating your authentic thoughts and by feeling heard, validated and understood every single time.

So decide right now to free yourself from the prison, so I can proceed to tell you just HOW!

The slight problem with being both lovable and stubborn

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For the first time in 12 years of my marriage, I feel certain in my heart that this peaceful loving atmosphere that my discovery has created is here to stay. The joy is palpable.

You see, I’ve not exactly been the most easy person to get along with.

I’ve always been opinionated (on just about everything), strong-willed, stubborn beyond hope, determined, and adamant about my way of doing things. I was impossible to deal with when I was younger. Over the years, I’ve mellowed and learned to see the wisdom of an outside perspective – specifically my husband – and come to even love it but still, even that doesn’t melt away the possibility of arguments just yet.

Complication factor: Did I mention that my hubby and I became full-time entrepreneurs after we escaped the corporate life – which I show YOU how to do in Smart Exit Blueprint course – and that we live together, work together on our businesses, travel together and play together? It gets interesting but the goal of a relationship is not to be interesting. The goal is to be peaceful, loving, joyful and happy. If that sounds like a corny cliche, I frankly don’t give a damn, because I want it and the truth is, I want it more than I want to be right.

Have you noticed how the desire to be right often ruins all hope for peace and serenity? And who cares anyway if you are right 100% of the time in your arguments when in the end, you have done nothing but made yourself completely miserable?

For me, it’s never been easy to let things be just as they are. It’s never been easy to let something go without beating it to death or proving myself right or proving him wrong. Even though, I feel endless love for my husband, I’ve always struggled with this letting go and letting be.

So naturally, it attracted countless arguments into our marriage for over a decade …. until recently.

Recently, I hit a very – read VERY – low point, and in that moment, I saw all the answers to my flawed approach and exactly what I need to do to heal our relationship and to be happy together forever – exactly as the song goes.

Ever since that point, it has been easy as a summer breeze to maintain peace – sweet loving peace – with my husband and it doesn’t matter if all is peachy or if we have strongly divergent opinions on a topic, the peace remains as we work through the issues.

Want to Create an Argument-Free Relationship for Life? Here’s How.

If you really – I mean really! – want a peaceful, loving, joyful and happy relationship as a couple, if you want to learn how to stop arguing for good, then the first step is to admit this desire loud and clear to yourself and to your significant other. That’s the easy step.

The next step is the game changer and the cure to ending arguments: You have got to KILL OFF your ego.

That’s it. That’s the big cure that works every single time. You cannot take your giant ego into a peaceful loving relationship. It Simply Doesn’t Work.

Either the ego goes or any chance of happy peaceful loving relationship goes. The choice, sweet darling, is yours and yours alone.

The sooner you get this, the quicker your glorious life will begin to unfold before you. And you want that, don’t you? Don’t You? I know you do …

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Your ego wants the opposite of what makes you happy.

Here’s everything that is wrong with your ego and everything that begins to happen when you KILL OFF your ego in your relationship and tune into your heart and soul:

1. Your ego wants to be right. You want to be happy.

2. Your ego wants to blame someone. You want to get rid of blame and replace it with compassion.

3. Your ego wants to “show the other person”. You want to show the other person love and kindness.

4. Your ego wants to make you feel more important in a relationship. You want to make the other person feel important.

5. Your ego wants to make you stand on a podium and preach. You want to sit at a table next to your significant other.

6. Your ego wants loud justification. You want peace (aff), love and serenity.

7. Your ego mocks happiness as a “fluffy” pursuit. You take your happiness and that of your significant other pretty darn seriously.

8. Your ego does not care about your heart. You want to follow and listen to your heart.

9. Your ego wants to rule the relationship. You want to be an equal partner in the relationship.

10. Your ego cares only about yourself. You care about the other person as much as about yourself.

11. Your ego wants to be right. You want to be happy. (Yes I do realize I am repeating this last line from the first line but it’s that important to remember!!!)

So next time you feel your muscles tensing up, your beautiful smile fading away, and your anger resurfacing, remember that it’s not the real you because you are a perfectly lovable and loving soul, it is your ego that has come back to ruin the peace. The only question is this; Are you going to let it?

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5 Things You Must Know If You Want to Live a Happy Life Now http://www.prolificliving.com/live-a-happy-life-now/ http://www.prolificliving.com/live-a-happy-life-now/#comments Mon, 10 Nov 2014 13:40:04 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=41049 We are too complex, too smart, and too analytical for our own good. We make life way too difficult, we kill our bliss and joy too often, and we sabotage perfect opportunities too frequently. No wonder that for most of us, happiness is a phenomena, rather than a daily achievable reality, an easy state of […]

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Sufi-sayingWe are too complex, too smart, and too analytical for our own good. We make life way too difficult, we kill our bliss and joy too often, and we sabotage perfect opportunities too frequently.

No wonder that for most of us, happiness is a phenomena, rather than a daily achievable reality, an easy state of being.

No wonder we feel confused, inadequate, and morose on perfectly sunny days and find “problems” when we hardly have any real problems.

No wonder inner peace is a state of being we associate with monk buddhists or enlightened yogis, rather than ordinary human beings such as you and me.

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But just because this is the norm in our society today does not mean it has to be that way.

Happiness is easy. Happiness is the opposite of complex, the opposite of logic, the opposite of analysis, the opposite of planning and achieving.

Happiness just is. You can refuse and resist happiness all day long, just as you can refuse and resist medication for your illness. Doing so does not make happiness itself any less effective, powerful or accessible than your much needed medication. It is YOU that gets in the way.

Oh my reader reader, and lest you assume I walk around with a big grin on my face every day and night, let me just say that happiness has always been hard for me.

Yet I know that happiness eludes me because I resist and complicate it. So I’ve decide to stop the mood swings between happiness and misery, and really examine the state of happiness and how to bask in it.

Here’s what I found that definitely works every single time if you want to know how to live a happy life. In fact, you might even find it surprising as I did. And a friendly alert: these discoveries will make you feel uncomfortable, icky and embarrassed at first. But it’s totally worth it.

If You Want a Happy Life, It Starts With …

1- If you want a happy life, it starts with your words.

You can’t be happy with yourself when you have just uttered unkind words to either a loved one or  a stranger. You can’t be happy if you’ve conjured up awful mean thoughts to someone who cut you off in the grocery queue or at the library.

You can’t force happiness into a guilty conscience.

The only way to win this battle is to slow down and take stock of why exactly you rush to judge, to feel bad, or to declare a sour mood on a perfectly sunny day.

Why do you feel that you should have a say as to how things were supposed to go in the first place?

Is it really true that the way you want something to turn out is always the best way for them to turn out?

Or is there perhaps a bigger mystery at work here that even you and I may not comprehend?

What to do instead: Chew your words and run them through 3 gates in your mind before you say anything. Start right now. The first gate asks if the words are kind. The second gate asks if the words are necessary. And the last gate asks if the words are true. If all your answer are a yes, then say the words. If one answer is a no, then hold your tongue.

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2- If you want a happy life, it starts with your character.

You can’t be happy if you are judging the circumstances in your life constantly instead of accepting them. Accepting does not mean that you don’t care, or that you are uninterested in improving it. Don’t confuse the two.

Accepting means that you are clear about what’s real, what’s happening – instead of arguing with reality. When you come to grips with what is, you can then decide if you want to go along with it or if you want to create a new circumstance in your life.

What to do instead: When you catch yourself judging and analyzing everything – why your ride is late, why your boss skipped you for the promotion, why your parents lied to you about Santa, whatever it may be, quickly pause and find one reason why the way things turned out is marvelous, terrific, and just plain perfect. Write that reason down. Remind yourself about it next time you jump to judgements and worst case scenarios about life’s little hiccups.

3- If you want a happy life, it starts with your beliefs.

What you believe, you manifest. What you believe comes to be. If you believe yourself to have power and will, you shall have it. If you believe yourself worthy of achieving your dreams and then go work for them, you will achieve them.

Likewise, if you think yourself unworthy of a home, good health, lots of money or happy relationships, you will then manifest poverty, illness and cancerous relationships in your life.

What to do instead: If your belief system is the foundation for the kind of life you want to build, why not make it a good one? Did you know that you can choose your beliefs and – here’s the really good news – you can discard the beliefs that are not true. Use Byron Katie’s amazing questions in The Work and create a new belief system, then watch it create a new life for you.

4- If you want a happy life, it starts with your humility.

You can’t be happy if you are full of expectations. What your husband or wife must do to live up to your expectation. What your children and pets should do to fulfill your expectations. What your company and boss and management should do to satisfy your expectations.

Ask yourself: Why should anyone live up to you and your big list of expectations? Your expectations are ego-driven and your ego will lead you astray in life. Watch out!

Nobody owes you anything and when you make them feel obligated by listing all your grand expectations – not to mention a list of past disappointments as a result of them not meeting those expectations in the past, you are only creating a web of unhappiness, a perpetuation of disappointment in your life.

You can never have inner peace as long as you are living in your cloud of expectations. So stop expecting and embrace humility.

What to do instead: First, drop all your expectations, past or present, personal or professional and when you do, feel the heavy weight lift off your back. Stand up tall and confident. Then start entering into agreements. Get yourself and the other person to agree to something that works for both of you. Get them to give you their word and you give them theirs.

No more superiority of expectation from you imposed to them. Instead, two intelligent people enter into a mutually beneficial agreement, and that is the most effective way to get what you want in life and thus be happy.

5- If you want a happy life, it starts with your reality.

And you can’t be happy if you are getting mad at every little or not-so-little thing that happens to you or for you.

Getting worked up sucks out the life force and the beautiful energy that you could put to use to a much better, calmer, happier state of being.

And there is no doubt about the regrets that always follow when you lose your temper, but even if you know it not to be good for you, you do it.

You continue to self-sabotage the good life you have because you confuse actual reality with the way you think that they ought to be.

What to do instead: You can argue with reality until you are blue in the face but in the end, you’ll lose. So skip the argument and start winning from the start. Take a deep breath and go for a walk when you feel your temper rising. Remind yourself to stay in your own business and not another person’s when you feel like meddling, and use positive affirmations to shine a light on this beautiful reality that is YOUR LIFE.

PositiveAffirmationfL_glogoThe only question I have for you is: Do you want to know how to live a happy life? Do you really want to be happy? Or do you have more important, more urgent, more serious matters to tend to while happiness awaits?

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Lost and Confused? 48 Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Clear Now http://www.prolificliving.com/life-questions-to-ask/ http://www.prolificliving.com/life-questions-to-ask/#comments Mon, 03 Nov 2014 14:18:07 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=40996 Are you asking yourself the right questions as you go through life? Years ago, I was sitting in a coffee shop in a city I don’t even remember, minding my own business, looking as preoccupied as ever, when the man and woman at the next table started having a heated discussion … and interrupting my […]

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Are you asking yourself the right questions as you go through life?

Years ago, I was sitting in a coffee shop in a city I don’t even remember, minding my own business, looking as preoccupied as ever, when the man and woman at the next table started having a heated discussion … and interrupting my perfect little zen space.

I was just about to get up and move to a quieter corner of the shop when I heard the woman say: “What’s worse – Failing or never trying, never knowing?”

Wow. What a powerful question. It brought me out of my own world and into reality like a bucket of ice water!

I remember that I had already stood up from my chair by the time she uttered the question but I kept standing there, frozen. It felt awkward but I really, really, wanted to hear the rest of that conversation.

The Power of Asking Yourself the Right Question

Questions carry power. Asking yourself the right question can literally awaken a voice inside you that can start the process of changing your life. This is a fact, not an exaggeration. The day that I asked myself this question was the beginning of my life-changing decision to quit my cushy corporate job:

Why not me? Why can’t I start my own business, quit my job and change my life?

So if you are feeling lost and confused, if you have lost your way temporarily, if you can’t get a good grip on life, relax. Be gentle with yourself. You are doing your best and you will find your way again by asking the right powerful questions.

Here’s 48 life questions to ask yourself – not all at once – to get clear again.

These questions have no right or wrong answer. Ask them over and over and listen. Just listen to yourself. Let your inner voice bring you clarity, peace of mind, and open you to the path of discovery. Discovery of who you are, what you truly want in life and why you are here.

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48 Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Clear about Your Life

1. How can I bring more joy and happiness into my life today?
2. What is the story I am telling myself about me?
3. What expectation do I have of [my spouse, partner, lover] and why?
4. What is in the way of my happiness today?
5. How can I love myself more today?
6. What can I be grateful for right now?
7. What is the price I am willing to pay for giving up my dream?
8. What is the price I am willing to pay for realizing my dream?
9. How can I live the highest, truest expression of myself every day?
10. What can I do to be of service to humanity every day?
11. Does my career align to my core values?
12. Does what I do in my job make a positive difference in the world?
13. How can I be a better person today?
14. What act of kindness can I show a stranger today?
15. How can I simplify my life?
16. What do I hold on to that I would be better off letting go?
17. What gets in my way of feeling joy and peace?
18. Do I stay in my business or meddle in the business of others?
19. How do I feel about my work?
20. How doI feel about my relationships?
21. How do I feel about myself?
22. What is my spiritual practice?
23. How do I stay grounded and confident, regardless of circumstance?
24. How can I nurture my body better?
25. Do I pay attention to my life?
26. Do I hear my inner voice and listen to my intuition?
27. Do I act in a way that makes me proud?
28. Do I like the person I am?
29. How can I create my dream future by taking the right steps today?
30. How do I take excellent care of my body?
31. Do I treat myself and others with respect?
32. Do I tolerate anything that hurts, abuses, or sabotages me in any form?
33. Do I live in the present moment?
34. Do I give my loved ones the true love and attention they deserve?
35. Do I ask for what I need?
36. What do I do – consciously or sub-consciously – that sabotages my ultimate success?
37. What is my life’s purpose here?
38. How do I create a legacy of my life’s work?
39. Do I bring positive energy into people’s lives?
40. What part of myself do I want to improve the most?
41. Do I do something that is fun and play every day?
42. Do I ask for help without feeling guilty?
43. Do I feel that I am good enough in every way?
44. What is my deep desire and drive in life?
45. How do I live with more intention in my actions?
46. Who can I forgive today?
47. Who can I thank today?
48. Who can I learn from today?

Got a few minutes to spare? Start asking away.

Take 10 minutes or an hour – whatever you feel is right for you – to ask yourself a powerful question every day. You can ask more than one, or you can ponder the same question. You can write down your answer, type it away on your favorite digital device or just walk with it, sit with it and be with it.

Just remember to stay with the same question until the answer comes to you from within.

You will find true success and happiness if you have only one goal, there really is only one, and that is this: to fulfill the highest most truthful expression of yourself as a human being. ~Oprah Winfrey

Your turn: Do you have a question that brings you out of confusion and into clarity when life gets tough? Share it in the comments below, and do share this post with a friend who needs the love and guidance.

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Why Indecision is Killing Your Business Dreams and How to Stop It Now http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-stop-indecision/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-stop-indecision/#comments Wed, 29 Oct 2014 17:32:26 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=40929 Don’t be too smart for your own good! You want to make an impact on the world. You want to start a business. You want to be part of a cause, a mission, something much larger than yourself. You are hungry for it, you’ve been thinking about it nonstop, and you can’t relax until you […]

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Don’t be too smart for your own good!

You want to make an impact on the world. You want to start a business. You want to be part of a cause, a mission, something much larger than yourself. You are hungry for it, you’ve been thinking about it nonstop, and you can’t relax until you figure it out.

Also, you secretly know you’re the exception to the rule. Most others are happy to just exist, but you want to live an extraordinary life.

Achieving this could be the greatest decision of your life, and it could fill the gaping hole of what’s been missing. You can’t wait to get started, to get going, to make progress …

You’re even already thinking of yourself as a budding entrepreneur.

That’s when the monster shows up again. It blocks your way and kills your enthusiasm in under 5 minutes. It persists like a bad rash and it fogs up your beautiful mission and your amazing cause quicker than a blink of an eye.

You fight it, you resist the temptation to fall for it, you’re all determined to defeat it this time. Nothing dares get in your way. This is your dream we are talking about right?

Until the monster wins again.

You resign quietly and take the usual escape route. Dejection and frustration show up right away to keep you company.

The monster of course is idea overwhelm and the escape is indecision.

The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision. ~Maimonides

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I have met hundreds – yes, hundreds – of entrepreneurs, creative souls, writers, bloggers, business owners since I started down this path of doing my own thing, and every single one of them could relate to idea overwhelm.

Idea overwhelm is both a gift and a curse, and if you’re going to be a freethinker, a true entrepreneur, a creative business mind, you’ll have to learn how to deal with it well.

A little-known fact: There is no such thing as the right or wrong idea in entrepreneurship.

This search for perfection is killing your dream.

Are you a victim of idea overwhelm and not know it?

Idea overwhelm is when you get too smart for your own good – yes, there is such a thing.

You think of everything you could be doing, every problem you could be solving, and every type of business you could be starting.

You want to get involved in one too many causes, start one too many projects, write one too many things, and learn way too much stuff at the same time – and you know this, but we need to hear what we already know more than what we don’t know – you get confused, overwhelmed, and then, very little actually gets done.

Indecision is when idea overwhelm gets to be too much. At first, when lots of ideas come to you, it’s a good thing, even a great thing, but sooner or later you have got to commit to one.

When you fail to do that, you continue to get distracted, and if the pattern continues – more new fresh ideas come to you, more distracted you get at the prospect of pursuing them – the harder it gets to commit to anything at all.

So your mind becomes less capable of making a decision, for fear of losing out on something better by committing to any one thing. So you stay in limbo, and that’s called indecision.

Indecision is an escape from the responsibility of making a decision. It is also the quickest way to KILL your entrepreneurial dreams.

Indecision is still a decision to do nothing – and ‘nothing’ will never lead you to what you want.

There is no one single RIGHT decision when it comes to pursuing your dreams, starting a business and making an impact on the world.

Sure, there are times when a right or wrong decision is more clear in life:

The right decision when you are in an abusive relationship: Leave. Now.

The right decision when you see a child being bullied: Intervene to stop it.

The right decision when you’re drunk and need to get home: Walk or get a cab.

But there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ between all your wonderful ideas when you are an entrepreneur. You are charting your own path and tapping into your creative genius and some decisions may be better than others, and you’ll only know for a fact that after you’ve taken action.

Action speaks loudest and teaches the best lessons for the entrepreneur than all the research data in the world.

You want to know the short answer on how to stop indecision? Take Action already!

I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. ~Michael Jordan

3 Non-Negotiable Truths of Successful Entrepreneurs

Do you know the 3 non-negotiable truths all successful entrepreneurs live by?

Truth #1. Successful entrepreneurs start one thing at a time and finish it. Completion is crucial.

They may start many things, but success only comes by finishing and seeing something through to the very end, that’s the only way to create success. Half-finished books or projects or products don’t exactly lead to success.

Truth #2. Successful entrepreneurs make loads of stupid awful costly ridiculous mistakes, but indecision is not one of them.

Have you met a successful entrepreneur you admire who felt wishy-washy about what to do next? Sooner or later, action becomes the ultimate driver if you want that success.

Consistent, daily action towards a singular goal. Without action, you don’t find out how things turn out. Indecision is the opposite of action.

You cannot predict how a product or a service or even a piece of art is going to turn out until you do it. First-hand action beats all prediction and research.

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Truth #3. Successful entrepreneurs see everything as a test and don’t let either failure or success get to them too much.

You can’t afford to get too attached to any one idea, brilliant as it may be. You are here to chart your own path, and to find out what’s the best way to hone in on your best big idea. You must take risks, be detached from failure, and don’t let success get to your head.

If you get too attached to any one idea, you won’t be able to see clearly and your emotions take over business decisions.

So you won’t be able to know when to abandon ship and when push further. Practice a healthy level of detachment and never call your ideas or projects your “baby”.

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How to Show Empathy: 4 Habits of Highly Empathic People http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-show-empathy/ http://www.prolificliving.com/how-to-show-empathy/#comments Thu, 02 Oct 2014 16:53:38 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=40861 I cried when I heard the news about Robin Williams. Not once, not twice, but many many times. I was so sad at the loss his family and friends would feel, so sad for the rest of us to not be able to experience his genius again on the stage or on the big screen. […]

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I cried when I heard the news about Robin Williams.

robin-williamsNot once, not twice, but many many times. I was so sad at the loss his family and friends would feel, so sad for the rest of us to not be able to experience his genius again on the stage or on the big screen. Robin Williams is no more. I didn’t like that one bit. Such tragic awful news.

Then a few days later, I was angry at Robin. Furious! Outraged! I would have conversations with him in my mind, screaming “How Could You Do This?”, “What were you thinking?”, “Are you out of your mind?” and “Well, are you happy now? Did you get what you wanted?”

I couldn’t stop thinking how selfish he was to end his own life without being considerate of others! How madly irresponsible! Because suicide is selfish. Suicide is inconsiderate. Suicide is the easy way out. Or so I thought.

Then – and I don’t know what prompted me to feel this way -I just got deeply curious. Sure, to me, it’s insanity to give up this life and I say that only from my point of view – even though I’ve experienced hardship, war, bombings in Iran, brushes with poverty, living in a terrorist country, immigrating to America with no money, culture shock, sickness in my family, and a lot more but never, ever have I contemplated that no life is better than life.

Because there is always, ALWAYS, always a reason to have hope.

But that was me and my limited singular point of view. If I wanted to understand Robin Williams, I had to leave my own thinking behind.

So I did. I set aside all my preconceived notions of suicide and felt a space open for thinking clearly, for listening, for learning, for imagining the pain and suffering of someone else from their point of view not my own.

Because you know what? The truth is, I don’t know anything about suicide. I don’t know states of a mind that would attempt, think about or go through with such an act. I do not know anyone who has experienced it in a loved one.

So I let go of all judgements and then – and only then- was I able to see clearly.

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On suicide, hope and learning empathy

I began to picture Robin months, weeks, days, and especially hours prior to his suicide. What was going through his mind? What was so dark and so evil that was worth giving up his beautiful life, his beautiful family, his large circle of friends, his success, his genius, and his comedy for?

What demons were ruling his decisions and actions and most importantly, what was it like to live with those demons day in and day out for only God knows how long?

What stories could he be telling himself that made everything in life seem so desperate? What voices were talking to him that made him feel so isolated, so alone, so powerless?

And then I tried to imagine what that all must’ve felt like. Imagine having a thought that is so dark, so awful, that you decide to kill yourself so that you can be free from it but then also end your life over it?

What made him succumb to this awful burden and lose all hope of making a comeback?

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. ~Leo Buscaglia

Imagine a state of mind where you are a slave to an internal demon, and you completely forget that you control your actions, not your deranged thoughts. Imagine forgetting your power to act, to heal from wounds no matter how deep, to recover, to overcome difficulties, and hold on to faith and love and friendship and life.

Then I imagined what Robin’s final hours were like. What exactly did he do when he woke up that morning? Did he know he would die today?

Did he shower? Look at himself in the mirror and if so, what did he see? Did he eat? Did he look at his family album? Did he talk to himself? Was he scared? Did he cry or shout? Did he laugh at the madness of the world? Did he look forward to death, to being free of suffering through non-existence? Did he believe in God or heaven?

And my body shivered as I felt less than a tiny fraction – a drop in the ocean of pain and suffering that Robin must have been feeling and how enormously difficult everything must have been for him.

Now that is feeling empathy. Earlier, when I was wallowing in my own sadness and anger, I was being selfish, self-centered, and judgmental without very little actual knowledge.

Having empathy is not the same as endorsing or approving of someone’s actions. This does not mean I now endorse the act of suicide. Heavens NO! Robin needed desperate help and it is extremely unfortunate that he did not get it. But in all its irony, according to Robin himself in his role as a father in “The World’s Greatest Dad”, where his son accidentally commits suicide:

Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. ~Robin Williams in World’s Greatest Dad

Your problems are temporary. Suicide isn’t.

4 habits of highly empathic people that you can start doing right now

Empathic people live fuller and richer lives but how do you develop empathy?

Empathy is a skill just like any other and you can learn it and get good at it. I have outlined 4 ways you can start becoming more empathic but be forewarned: This is going to push you way out of your comfort zone. So start small, and do only one of these at a time and see how you feel.

When you can connect on a deeper level to another human being through empathy, you can be of higher service, you can help with your talents and skills and gifts in ways you wouldn’t be able to do on superficial levels alone.

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Here are four ways you can start becoming more empathic starting today:

1. Be fully present in every interaction and conversation

Total presence is the greatest gift you can give anyone, and the hardest skill you can develop. Being present means setting aside the noise and chatter in your mind as well as physically in your environment. It means facing the person speaking to you, hearing them – not the next thought in your own head as to what you will say. It means responding with your body – your eyes, your energy, your gestures, your presence. It means doing nothing else except being fully present.

Do this in the very next conversation with anyone you are having, including a family member or partner.

2. Come from a place of genuine curiosity

Practice genuine curiosity next time you connect with another person. Let’s say you meet a new person today and want to connect with them. Instead of just exchanging a few pleasantries about the weather, food or work, ask them about their big challenge in life right now? What do they struggle with? What’s it like to struggle with that or have that problem? Listen. Get curious. Ask them to tell you more.

You’re not there to solve their problem or to even give them advice. You’re there to be a curious engaged active listener. You are enabling them to be HEARD, perhaps you are the only one that is doing that for them. Practice this with at least one stranger and one close friend or family. Then how this act of engaging deeper with another makes YOU feel. Let how you feel guide you deeper into empathy for others.

3. Challenge your own opinions and judgements

Take the opposite side of the argument than you normally would and defend that position. Your beliefs and values drive your decisions in life. So what if you challenged them for a change?

This does not mean you’re tricking yourself to get on the opposing political campaign or take on a new religion or join a cult – no. It simply means you question your beliefs and see matters from the other point of view.

Here’s my vulnerable personal example: I used to believe that suicide is purely selfish and short-sighted. Now that I have questioned my belief, and felt true empathy for Robin Williams, I believe that suicide is a cry for help, an act of utter desperation, and that we need to be more aware mental illness and how to encourage those who suffer from it to get help.

4. Use the right language in a conversation

Listening deeply and completely is a wonderful skill to start with but so is knowing what to say – or not say – in response. Here are some phrases I find useful and genuine when someone – a friend or a client – is confiding in me. “I can’t imagine what that’s like. Please tell me more.” or “I’d love to help you. What would help you in this situation?” or “I hear you and can’t imagine what that’s like but can I just remind you that you are powerful and will get through this?”.

Stay clear of judging, deciding, pointing out flaws, and jumping to solving a problem. Practice the right words, the right phrases, and only say them if they come naturally to you.

If you forget everything else, remember what the Dalai Lama said about love: What is Love? Love is the lack of judgement. And that is the deepest and highest form of empathy.

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