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Are you a woman who battles insecurity or lack of self-esteem? Do you talk down to yourself and rarely give yourself praise and love?

Then these positive affirmations are for you because whoever you are, whatever your life circumstance or your current situation, you are worthy of joy, happiness and inner peace (link to my favorite guided meditation).

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A note to my male readers: If you have read this blog any length of time, you know that I always speak to all my readers. The stuff here applies to all. But today’s message of positive affirmations for women is especially for my female readers. I ask you to read and please share this with the special women in your life!

Stop the Insanity. Embrace your Feminine Power Today.

Do you live in a state of inner turmoil?

Do you wake up with worry and stress in the morning?

And most of all, do you dislike the woman you are?

As a young woman, I immigrated to Turkey for three years then to the US. I studied and worked mainly in a male dominated workplace for over a decade. And I have to admit that I struggled with self-confidence a lot.

Over the years, I became the very thing that I dreaded: a victim of my circumstance, a product of my negative thinking, an image of insecurity and confusion, a woman in a constant state of stress and comparison to my male counterparts.

I lived and breathed this inner struggle between who I was and whom I thought I was supposed to be.

It was torture. I hated who I had become as a result of low confidence and deep down, I didn’t even like the person I was trying so hard to become.

Here is a fact I learned too late:

You become what you think and what you believe. Your thoughts therefore create your entire reality.

But did you know that we as women create every bit of this agony? Nobody, not even the worst boss, the aloof spouse, the oppressive parent or some stranger from your past is to blame for your problems.

How could they be when you are a responsible, fabulous and smart woman, charting your own course and making your own decisions? How could you rightfully blame anyone when no one can force you to think a single bad thought or live a single sad day?

Everything is within your reach: happiness, joy, confidence, success and inner peace. I know you may want to argue: “Yeah but …” Resist the urge -that’s an old habit that has held you back for too long.

Instead, throw out the excuses and start fresh today.

Start fresh with positive thinking and positive believing using a powerful tool called affirmations. These are mantras, phrases and concepts that you repeat daily or multiple times a day to bring you back to your center, to help ground you, and to remind you that you are beautiful as you are and everything in your life will turn out perfectly.

Here are 50 positive affirmations you can start applying to your life today. Print them and post them on your mirror or save them to your notepad and refer to them whenever you feel the cycle of downward spiral happening.

20 Affirmations on Aging Gracefully as a Woman

  1. I am the perfect age today.
  2. I embrace my age with joy and pride.
  3. I grow wiser and stronger as I age.
  4. Today is a perfect day to be [your age].
  5. I celebrate getting older every day.
  6. I age gracefully and live fully.
  7. I love my wrinkles and I adore the grey hair.
  8. I discover new joys of living at every age.
  9. I would rather be this very exact age as I am today.
  10. I appreciate life more today than I did yesterday.
  11. I grow more beautiful and less fussy as I grow older.
  12. I step into this new decade with confidence and excitement.
  13. I spend my time living the present moment than longing for the past.
  14. Age is a state of mind and mine is in one happy state.
  15. I discover true joys of being a woman through age and experience.
  16. I grow comfortable in my own skin as I grow older.
  17. I feel more beautiful now than I did last year or last decade.
  18. I was born at exactly the right time in history.
  19. I love and celebrate each birthday more so than the last.
  20. Aging is a privilege few get to enjoy and I am lucky to grow old and wise.

30 Affirmations on Body and Self-Image for a Woman

  1. I love my face and all my features.
  2. I am at peace with my body and form.
  3. I lovingly take care of my body.
  4. I love living in this exquisite female body.
  5. I love my curves.
  6. I am sexy and attractive just as I am.
  7. I wear my confidence as well as I wear my makeup.
  8. I love my sleepy face and messy hair in the morning as much as I love it any other time.
  9. I appreciate the female cycles that my body experiences.
  10. I enjoy my body during sex and intimacy.
  11. I move my body with intention and love.
  12. I hold my head up high and wear a smile all the time.
  13. I love the exact size of my breasts just as Mother Nature intended them.
  14. I am the perfect height for me.
  15. I love the shape of my hands and the size of my feet.
  16. I wear my hair however it pleases me and I adore every strand.
  17. I like my thighs and my buttocks and take care of them with exercise and healthy eating.
  18. I am responsible for what I do with my body and I only do what’s best.
  19. I choose to treat my body with care, love, kindness and respect.
  20. I push my body to its limits and marvel at the many ways it can bend, stretch, pose, move and breathe.
  21. I am enjoying a lifelong dance with my body.
  22. I create my image every day with love and kindness towards me.
  23. I look radiant by wearing a smile.
  24. I delight in taking care of my body when it needs healing and recovery.
  25. I channel love and energy to everyone around me.
  26. I listen to my body’s needs with respect and kindness.
  27. I am patient with myself and worthy of all the waiting.
  28. I move at the perfect pace.
  29. I continued to be amazed by my body.
  30. I fill my body with confidence daily.

You can change the way you feel. You can live the life you want.

Here’s another secret for you. I call it a secret because nobody taught me about it when I needed it most, so it was not so obvious to me and maybe you feel the same:

The moment you decide to change the way you feel, boom, magic, you do!

We actually control the way we feel. Imagine that! Why don’t they teach us this stuff in grade school? I could use it more than math lessons, that’s for sure.

So decide to change the way you feel today and you can then change the life you live. You can start shining your positive energy more brightly, you can feel what’s going right in your life, and you can begin to feel confident and worthy of happiness, joy and inner peace.

It takes some work and effort. Do these daily affirmations. Repeat them before work, repeat them during your morning routine, say them on your way to work and as you say them, believe them. Just choose to believe them. You are creating your reality every minute you believe a positive affirmation over a negative thought.

If you have more affirmations to share for women, share them below in the comments. And don’t forget to grab your 21-step confidence building course below before you leave:

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How to Pack Light for a Long Trip and Still Look Stylish http://www.prolificliving.com/pack-light-long-trip/ http://www.prolificliving.com/pack-light-long-trip/#comments Mon, 07 Apr 2014 14:00:15 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=39191 Complete How-To Video on Packing Light for a 5+ Week International Trip without Checking In Luggage Light Packing is Not Magic. Light packing is not magic. It is a skill you can learn. Why bother, you wonder? Because of this: If you want to thoroughly enjoy your travels, if you want to focus on what […]

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Complete How-To Video on Packing Light for a 5+ Week International Trip without Checking In Luggage

Light Packing is Not Magic.

Light packing is not magic. It is a skill you can learn.

Why bother, you wonder?

Because of this: If you want to thoroughly enjoy your travels, if you want to focus on what matters on your trips and not have worries of lost luggage or break your back carrying stuff you’ll never use, if (and only if) you get the most out of your travel experience for which you are paying dearly, then packing light is essential.

Do you want to know how to pack light for a long trip as a woman and still look stylish and extremely good for photos and special occasions when you are traveling for a month or longer?

Packing light and traveling like a pro is a skill that you can learn like any other, and I’ve had to learn this from years of traveling the world and from doing it wrong before getting it right. So in this video, I show you the following in a step-by-step process:

1. How to think about your packing and your travel needs.
2. How to set aside everything you need beforehand.
3. How to create your wardrobe in your mind first.
4. How to choose the best luggage and bags to best protect your stuff.
5. How to roll your clothes instead of folding them for maximum space usage.
6. How to organize all of your essentials in a clean and hygienic way.
7. How to take all of your makeup and toiletries without going overboard.
8. How to feel good and confident about not checking in luggage. Ever.

If you want to learn how to travel like a pro, and how to see the world on a tight budget and in style, then check out the comprehensive list of my travel hacks and my best kept secrets for sweet national and international traveling in my book, Travel with Confidence.

Highlights of Specific Packing Suggestions

Here are some of the references I made in the video:

1. Lucy for excellent long-lasting stretchy travel pants.
2. Patagonia or eBags for best MLC: Maximum Legal Carryon luggage.
3. UniQlo for durable, affordable neutral color tops and stylish vest.
4. Baggallini for rain-proof, expandable purse and jewelry organizing bags.
5. Katmandu for high-quality rain jacket.
6. Ecco for excellent, extremely comfortable walking shoes.
7. Sherpani Verve for laptop messenger bag.

The Packing Light Challenge. Are You In?

I’ll close with a packing light challenge for you. Next time you take a trip longer than a week, challenge yourself to take a third less than what you would normally take and absolutely do not check luggage. Use the tips here and your own wonderful best judgement to pack light. What excuses challenges might you face? Share in the comments.

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30 Small Acts of Kindness You Could Be Doing Today http://www.prolificliving.com/small-acts-of-kindness/ http://www.prolificliving.com/small-acts-of-kindness/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 12:13:45 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=39149 The road to inner peace is paved with kindness. Pure, loving, sweet kindness. That’s good news because we can all travel this road since kindness is something we are all born with. You knew that, didn’t you? You are born with kindness. You don’t have to learn kindness here on earth, you bring it to […]

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The road to inner peace is paved with kindness. Pure, loving, sweet kindness. That’s good news because we can all travel this road since kindness is something we are all born with.

You knew that, didn’t you?
You are born with kindness.

You don’t have to learn kindness here on earth, you bring it to earth with you. It is a part of your soul, your nature, and your true self.

Kindness is who you are at your happiest and most balanced place, but you have to take care not to lose who you are in the often fast-paced comparison-frenzy world that we live in.

You have to take care not to unlearn your greatest ability – to be kind to yourself and to others.

Or worse, to eventually trade kindness for tendencies that leave you empty and unhappy such as greed, impatience, ungratefulness or self-righteousness.

It sounds so obvious not to do such a terrible thing when you see it spelled out like that, but we are human beings and it turns out that logic or sensibility are not always our chosen course of action.

So we get derailed, distracted and divide our attention. We forget the simplicity of life. We forget even how to stay happy, the simplest thing of all. Surely, it’s not unthinkable to forget our true self now and again and to lose our loving kindness.

Have you been lost or derailed from the path of kindness?

Here’s my confession so you don’t feel alone: Yes I most certainly have, way more than once!

I lose my center, I lose my grounding and sometimes, I fall down (actually both in literal and in figurative sense!).

Seriously, I forget how simple it is to be in a constant state of happiness and joy, and I have to remind myself how to return home over and over and over again.

Home. Where the heart is and where kindness resides in abundance.

At your core, you seek inner peace because that is your nature, and no matter how far removed you may get from it during your journey of life, you will always long for it because that is where your true self resides: With inner peace.

When you lose your way, find it back through small acts of kindness.

If you want to be kind, just be. If you want to show an act of kindness to a friend or a strange, just do. Don’t overthink it, analyze it, and kill the very spirit of it. Don’t plan it, anticipate it and second guess it.

Don’t reduce your acts of kindness later by making light of them.

Getting comfortable with kindness takes some practice, if you are not used to it. I grew up in an extremely kind family and warm culture. Kindness runs in my blood if I am at all related to my maternal grandmother. I am very comfortable with kindness, I just get in a hurry and forget to do more of it.

What about you? If you feel awkward about being kind, if you’ve had little practice in it in your life, and if nobody has been a role model or an example for you to follow, it is okay. You are allowed to feel weird or awkward about it, but here’s the message to remember:

FACT: Kindness is in your nature. Kindness is who you are. Kindness is what you were meant to give and receive.

So believe this to be true (because it is) and then take tiny steps to incorporate small acts of kindness into your life. This will transform you over time.

Here are 30 small acts of kindness that you can start showing someone – including yourself – tomorrow. Some take you about a second or two to do, most may not even require an exchange of words, and all of them are within your lovely capable reach:

10 Small Acts of Kindness You Could Be Doing for Yourself:

1. Look in the mirror in the morning and say: “I love you! Yes, you, I love you!”
2. Stop the next negative thought in your head and say the opposite out loud.
3. Tell yourself you are doing your best and you are oh so proud of yourself.
4. Do the one thing you said you’d do for yourself: Take the bath! Buy the shoes! Go to yoga! You deserve it.
5. Turn the voice of guilt into love. You’ll learn the lesson all the same.
6. Do the weight loss with compassion. You are beautiful and important, no matter how much you weigh.
7. Accept the last mistake and get on with it. You’re all the wiser for it.
8. Treat yourself and don’t apologize for it. Whatever the treat may be.
9. Remind yourself that you are magnificent and special.
10. Think only the best thoughts about yourself.

10 Small Acts of Kindness You Could Be Doing for a Friend or Family:

1. Listen to their story with utter interest and compassion.
2. Text and tell them you are thinking about them.
3. Offer to help them with something before they ask.
4. Give away one of your favorite books with a personal note.
5. Send them a thank-you note (or email!). Choose your own reason.
6. Encourage them to do something they want to do but are scared.
7. Drop your defenses and take any criticism with a kind smile.
8. Ask about what matters to them and show sincere interest in learning.
9. Be a pillar of support when they need help.
10. Give without expecting in return or giving reasons.

10 Small Acts of Kindness You Could Be Doing for a Stranger:

1. Share your smile. Make eye contact and share your smile with the next person you see.
2. Say hello with a smile to the next person you buy something from.
3. Donate a book to your local library. If you have more, give more.
4. Tell the delivery person, the postal service rep or the trash service guys that you appreciate what they do.
5. Thank the next army officer you cross paths with.
6. Compliment an over-worked checkout person next time you shop.
7. Tell the produce manager at your store that they do a great job.
8. Tip the barista or the server more than the usual amount.
9. Support and thank a street musician with some change.
10. Let the driver in a hurry to go past you with a smile.

Your turn: Care to share a small act of kindness that has made someone smile, including yourself? Tell me about it in the comments.

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10 Addictions You Must Give Up to Be Free of Pain http://www.prolificliving.com/addictions-give-up/ http://www.prolificliving.com/addictions-give-up/#comments Tue, 18 Mar 2014 00:07:00 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=39070 Your addiction, your choice. Why do people get addicted to smoking, drugs, violence or junk food? Why do they turn to habits that slowly but surely kill them? Is it possible that they lose control of their senses and that outside factors such as peer pressure – which is driven largely by morons of society […]

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Your addiction, your choice.

Why do people get addicted to smoking, drugs, violence or junk food? Why do they turn to habits that slowly but surely kill them?

Is it possible that they lose control of their senses and that outside factors such as peer pressure – which is driven largely by morons of society – is in charge of their actions?

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Is it remotely possible that a smoking or drug abuse or junk food addiction is not through a fault of your own and that some inexplicable force from the universe twisted your arm to smoke that joint or to get hooked on junk food or drink yourself to a wretched existence?

Of course not.

You have control of your senses and you are responsible for your actions, but that’s neither sexy nor cool now is it? Somehow, somewhere, stupid – ridiculous, disgusting, dumb, foolish, idiotic, ignorant, boneheaded – became the new sexy and cool, and smart got ousted for being dull and boring.

I hope you didn’t fall into that sad trap.

But if you did, you can turn things around.

This is not a statement to inspire you. This is a fact.

You want proof?

We see countless examples of ordinary people everyday who transform themselves from the depths of horrible addictions (that they got themselves into) and turn things completely around. They start fresh. They forgive their past. They move on clean and ready to live life free of addiction.

If they can, so can you. If that’s what you want.

But first, do you want to be free of pain?

Falling into an addiction is a terrible thing, but if you are in it already, you have got to give up your addictions if you want to be free of pain. There is no other way to escape the pain.

But do you want to be free of pain? That is the first question you should ask yourself.

Some people, it turns out, enjoy to be in pain. They get to complain about it and have an excuse to ooze sympathy from friends and family all day long. They get to be a victim, full of drama and need for attention.

They also get to waste their entire lives.

So do you want to be in pain or are you ready to be free of pain? It is but a choice. Your Choice. All you have to do is say it.

“I am ready to be free of pain.”

Not once but a hundred times. Say it until you can’t say or think the opposite.

Listen, falling into an addiction is sad, but it is the consequences of deliberate actions that a willing human being takes. For your addictions, that human being is you and for mine, it’s me.

By the same token, the reverse actions can be taken to a better pain-free place.

You can tell yourself all day long: “I’m weak! I can’t quit [the-addiction]. I’m not as strong as those other people!” but that is a broken record, darling and a lie and an excuse, and even you probably don’t believe it as much as you’d like.

Addictions are an escape into a fantasy world, and you can choose brilliantly wonderful addictions that can give you that escape and better without harming your body, without killing yourself slowly and without hurting your family to pieces because they will feel sorry and they will blame themselves for your failings.

How to Be Free of Pain? 10 Addictions to Give Up

Here are 10 addictions that plague your mind, your body, and your soul to a darkness that it does not need or deserve. Addictions that harm you in more ways you can count the longer you continue them. Addictions that rip your heart and your family and your career apart. Addictions that in the end can kill you. You want to know how to be free of pain? Give them up and claim your life back.

I’ve divided these addictions into 2 categories. The first set affects the physical body and brain and the second set affects the heart and the mind:

5 addictions that harm the physical body and brain:

1. Alcohol
2. Smoking
3. Drugs
4. Junk food
5. Violence

5 addictions that harm the heart and the mind:

1. Resorting to negative self-talk, self-sabotage and self-hatred.
2. Blaming the world for your problems.
3. Complaining about everything to everyone.
4. Berating and belittling others, strangers or loved-ones.
5. Holding on to the victim mindset.

Asking for Help is a Sign of Courage

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. That’s your addiction talking, and it is never ever the sound of truth.

Asking for help when you need it is a true sign of courage, and it’s the very first step. You don’t have to know the next 27 steps in the process. You just need to take one step forward now.

So simplify your goals. Complexity always robs you of taking any action. Simplify by taking one single tiny step in the right direction but take that step with conviction. Don’t be wishy-washy about it. Ask for help and mean it. Ask for help and show your gratitude by doing what it is that the helper suggests.

Ask for help and watch your world fill with love and support and compassion from people that you thought have abandoned you. They haven’t. It’s YOU that abandoned them through your addiction, and it’s you that has to decide to come back.

So come back already. The rest of your life is waiting to happen, and you can make it the very best of your life.

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Failing at Your Goals? Simplify Your Success Formula http://www.prolificliving.com/simplify-success-formula/ http://www.prolificliving.com/simplify-success-formula/#comments Mon, 10 Mar 2014 17:00:05 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=39032 It’s not you. But it takes you to change it. You set your goal with all the right intentions. You are determined, serious and give them your best shot. You don’t lack for smarts. You are a hard worker and doing all the right things, but you still fail at achieving those goals. Why? Why […]

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It’s not you. But it takes you to change it.

You set your goal with all the right intentions. You are determined, serious and give them your best shot. You don’t lack for smarts. You are a hard worker and doing all the right things, but you still fail at achieving those goals.

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Why? Why then do you fail at your goals when you are (yes you ARE) smart and driven and have good intentions?

  • You want to leave your dead-end job and your horrid boss for better opportunities, but you just can’t take the leap.
  • You want to get out of a bad relationship that is destroying your self-esteem and robbing you of so much happiness, but you just can’t pull the plug.
  • You want to put an end to your bad eating habits and start living healthy once and for all, but you keep repeating the old patterns without much success.

It’s so hard not to want to give up and forget the whole thing and harder still to keep up your pretenses when the rest of your world watches on.

For what it’s worth, I Know How You Feel. Which is precisely why I can’t let you give up on yourself.

When I first started became obsessed with the goal of having my own business, and earning my living outside of the corporate structure, I was clueless. It’s easier to admit it now than it was then. I was determined, hard-working, brilliant in my own way but still clueless as to how to achieve this goal.

What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. ~Henry David Thoreau

The turning point for me happened when I finally stopped getting so wrapped up in my goals and making the goal such a big part of my identity and self-worth. Only then I was able to relax and gained an impartial angle to see the flaws in my approach which made it very difficult to achieve my goals.

Your achievements do not define you. You are already a person of success, a person of value and worth.

Your achievements just show you what you are capable of, and how you can best serve the world.

So you are failing at your goals? You keep trying and nothing works? Fine. You are not a lesser person for it. Now let’s get on with a new approach that helps you achieve your goals.

Simplify it with this 4-step success formula

As much as I appreciate that my goals – and whether I achieve them or not – do not define me, and respect that boundary so it doesn’t mess with my happiness, I am madly obsessed about achieving my goals too.

So over the years, I’ve refined my goal setting approach with this success formula. The steps are in the right order and this applies to all types of goals, as long as you stick to the formula.

Step 1: Create a healthy distance between your goals and your self-worth.

The worst thing you can do, which keeps you from achieving your goals, is connecting your identity and self-worth to your goals and getting wrapped up in your goals so much that you can’t think or see clearly anymore.

Case in point: Ever been head over heels in love? Were you thinking clearly then? Aha! Me neither!

Associating your self-worth to the end results of your goals is bad no matter which way you lean. Just because you are a super achiever does not mean you are a better person or a person of higher self-worth. The same is true if you are an under-achiever.

Create a healthy distance between your goals and your self-worth. This way you can set your emotions free so you can think more clearly about your goals.

Step 2: Re-evaluate your goal and this time, do it in private.

You know how some people set goals with group consensus? Don’t be one of them. This is not a democracy. You don’t need majority vote of friends or family to do whatever it is YOU – and yes YOU and YOU alone want to achieve in your life.

In other words, drop stupid goals. Pick up true goals.

If all your goals are true, then this one doesn’t apply to you, super, let’s move on!

Step 3: Adopt a new approach to your goal if the previous one failed.

Stop going about your goal the same way, expecting different results. You’ve heard this many times but it bears repeating because human behavior needs reinforcement of useful logic.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. ~Albert Einstein

So learn from the failure without giving up on the goal by examining the approach now. How did you go about achieving your goal?

Step 4: Get vested in the process and get measured on the progress.

Have you done all first 3 steps? Only then are you ready for step 4.

I have a mastermind friend who is driven, super smart and a big-time achiever but he refuses to commit to dates. He can’t stand deadlines. He is committed to the process instead, not focused on end results.

So forget the achievement part for now and shift your focus to 2 critical (and more interesting) areas:

1. The process – the series of actions and steps that you take towards your goal.
2. The progress – the accomplishments you have at each milestone, a measure of improvement that shows you are moving forward.

Combining the process and progress with a focus on affirmations and meditation that reminds you about what you are doing RIGHT.

A little proof behind this success formula.

Here’s one crazy goal I accomplished using this process: Meeting a 6-week deadline on my first book deal with a traditional publisher. Now I want to hear about your goals and help you get past whatever is holding you back so you create your own breakthroughs in goal setting.

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35 Things You Do that Wastes Your Time http://www.prolificliving.com/stop-wasting-time/ http://www.prolificliving.com/stop-wasting-time/#comments Mon, 03 Mar 2014 12:43:05 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38996 Why You Should Stop Wasting Time If you want to get things done, if you are driven and motivated with big dreams and plans, if you are not looking to just cruise through life but instead, chart your course, move with intention and go places, then you have to watch where your time goes. Wasting […]

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Why You Should Stop Wasting Time

If you want to get things done, if you are driven and motivated with big dreams and plans, if you are not looking to just cruise through life but instead, chart your course, move with intention and go places, then you have to watch where your time goes. Wasting time is not an option for you.

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A little confession: I can only write this post because I have wasted countless hours that I will never get back. But if I didn’t, I couldn’t write this post. The silver lining in all things.

You get 86,400 seconds every day. And guess what? You are ultimately in charge of what you do with those seconds. Whether you use them well or waste them, there are consequences. Nobody knows the battle that you are fighting, or the road that you are taking, but it is your life and nobody controls your mind, your heart and therefore your actions, other than you. You are not living in prison and no matter what your circumstances, you can change them, as long as you believe so.

Positive believing has to happen first to let you out of your own cage, the cage of fear. If you feel like a victim, you will act and behave as one.

And those 86,400 seconds, they go fast. The older you get, the faster time goes, which is very unfair if you ask me (I realize nobody is asking me but just sayin’) because it’s in our maturity and wisdom that we have important things to do, not in our childhoods where time seemed to go by oh so slowly. Either way, the time passes and you age, whether you like it or not.

“It’s called middle age, little brother, and it comes for us all.” Mycroft, Sherlock’s older brother on Sherlock Holmes, the British TV series.

So before you let your hours and days drift away into a myriad of little things, wake up to the real purpose of your life. You do not get a second chance. This Is It!

Check in with yourself to make absolutely positively 100% certain that those days, hours and minutes are put to your true needs and core desires. Even if you handed the control keys over to someone or something else (fear perhaps?) to tell you what to do and when to do it, you can take back control.

The worst cage of all is the one you put yourself in, and from first hand experience, I say don’t do it. Get back in charge! Don’t make a fuss, just get back in charge of your life. It’s yours and you can decide what goes and what stays.

35 Small Things You Do that Waste a Huge Chunk of Time

Getting back in charge is not a leap. It happens in tiny steps. Here are 35 small things that sneak up on you and steal away your energy and waste a huge chunk of your time before you realize it:

  1. Saying a “quick” hi to someone during a run or a walk.
  2. Answering a “quick” question at work for a random co-worker.
  3. Procrastinating by making excuses. It makes you dread the task you delay and makes you feel guilty.
  4. Watching a ‘little’ TV to decompress, and turning it off reluctantly 2 hours later.
  5. Going out to a crowded restaurant to eat instead of cooking at home.
  6. Consuming alcohol which then debilitates your ability to think clearly. Hence a giant waste of time.
  7. Worrying about all the stuff that can go wrong.
  8. Telling someone else about all your worries.
  9. Complaining about something you can neither change nor control.
  10. Reading magazines. 99% of the magazines anyway.
  11. Watching commercials, infomercials, advertisements.
  12. Popping by YouTube and getting sucked into something totally irrelevant.
  13. Watching random videos that scroll across your feed about someone’s child or cat or
  14. Checking Facebook or Twitter ‘real quick’.
  15. Chasing small money when you are running a small business with a big vision.
  16. Asking everyone’s opinion about something you have already decided you are going to do.
  17. Watching bad movies on an airplane just to pass the time.
  18. Going out to run errands in the middle of rush-hour.
  19. Hanging out with people you don’t enjoy just to pretend you have friends.
  20. Finishing a book that you hate just because you started it. Let it go. There’s a million books that could touch your soul.
  21. Trying to change someone’s mind. Their opinion is none of your business. (Unless it’s your child of 18 years or younger.)
  22. Saying yes to everything at work because you don’t know any better.
  23. Listening to spam comments, stupid reviewers and crazy people trying to bring you down.
  24. Watching depressing movies when you know they give you nightmares and bring down your spirits.
  25. Reading trashy books and thus wasting your brain power.
  26. Staying in a relationship when it is obviously bad for you. Stop hurting yourself.
  27. Chasing potential clients that obviously do not want to work with you.
  28. Explaining your unconventional lifestyle to people who don’t care or want to argue with you.
  29. Over-indulging in a big meal which zaps all your energy and renders the rest of afternoon or evening useless.
  30. Attending parties, social events, and especially baby showers out of obligation, not desire or love.
  31. Shopping and going to the mall only to pass the time when you don’t need anything special.
  32. Going out on a Friday night just to be cool among friends when you’d rather work on your business or read that book.
  33. Being selfless and wondering why you feel so rotten when you put your own desires last.
  34. Engaging with anyone who likes to gossip and judge and resent the whole world for their own reasons.
  35. Doing favors or spending time with anyone who is not grateful for and respectful to you.

Is it REALLY a Waste of Time?

A little clarification about the list: You may consider any activity above as joyful and exciting. It may be important to you. It may have meaning in your life and with your family and traditions and culture. You may be doing it with purpose and intention and a clear mind rather than the force of an old habit you can’t shake. If that’s how you feel, it is NOT a waste of your time.

A waste of time comes with a loud indicator: Just see how you feel after an activity. Are you energized or drained by it? Are you happy or resentful for it? You know the feeling when you’ve wasted your time. I find all of these a giant waste of my time, but if you don’t, well that’s why we have the comment section, so tell me what you think.

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Stop Worrying and Start Doing http://www.prolificliving.com/stop-worrying-start-doing/ http://www.prolificliving.com/stop-worrying-start-doing/#comments Mon, 24 Feb 2014 12:00:33 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38955 The real cost of worry in your life. The difference between you and the successful person you admire so much is not that they are smarter than you or they were born with a creativity gene or a genius bone in their body. Nope. Sorry! You are just as smart and just as creative and […]

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The real cost of worry in your life.

The difference between you and the successful person you admire so much is not that they are smarter than you or they were born with a creativity gene or a genius bone in their body. Nope. Sorry! You are just as smart and just as creative and just as much of a genius as they are.

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The difference most certainly isn’t about them having an easier path than you either so please don’t fool yourself with those lies. They have crossed over the same set of challenges, obstacles, problems and painful headaches. Their timing may be different but that’s about it.

The main difference is the lens through which you see your life and your opportunities – or rather, your endless list of “problems”. Let me explain about the beast that holds you back from what you are really capable of doing.

Worry.

It goes most by this name but it is also known as stress, anxiety, overwhelm, “I don’t know, therefore I can’t!” syndrome, followed generally by a large dose of self-pity and self-inflicted pain, which ironically creates even more – you guessed it – worry!

Worry. And the inconvenient definition.

Don’t kid yourself! Worry is not “thinking” or “planning” or “being realistic”. Worry doesn’t help you move your business forward or get closer to your goals or discipline your child better. Worry also doesn’t make you into a responsible concerned adult.

Worry is a complete waste of energy and time about something that is not happening and likely won’t happen.

But here’s the twist: the more you worry, the less you do what matters, and the more likely that those things you worry about come to be.

Do you see the beast in cyclical action?

Allow me to illustrate with examples, because, I was quite an expert at doing all of these.

You worry that you don’t know how to run your business? Instead, learn what you need to know step by step starting today and seek the help that you  need instead of going it alone.

You worry that you are not good enough to write the book or shoot the blog post or change your career or decide your own course of life? Instead, believe the opposite, do it anyway. If it turns out to be a smashing success, great and f it turns out to be a giant mistake, you’ll be glad for the experience.

You worry about how doing something will turn out while the success figure you admire so much is already doing it, come what may, success or failure.

You give power to your worries by listening to them and they shut out their worries to give power to their desires and dreams instead.

You worry that it may be hard and you are afraid of hard things, while the success figure couldn’t care less about easy or hard. They set out to learn whatever it is they need to know because they know the power of learning.

All the time you waste worrying is far better spent learning.

The hard stuff gets easier with learning, while it becomes more insurmountable with worry.

Here’s how hard vs. worry play out in reality.

The irony: Hard is not going to break you but worry will.

Hard is going to make you stronger but worry will ride on your back and weigh you down and zap your energy and bring down your spirits. Tell me I’m wrong, huh?

Hard is going to make you better and finer for every challenge that lays ahead. Worry is going to make you far less ready and far more anxious for everything else.

In fact, a lot of worry – also known as despair – can even paralyze you from pursuing anything else in your life because you can’t get it together to move past this current stage.

Okay great. You get it. Worry = really, really bad. What now?

Well, I won’t just say “stop worrying!”. It makes light of the situation, and the situation is anything but. Worry is a big problem, I do get that. Remember that stupid song “Don’t worry, be happy!” – my reaction was always: ” Whatever pal! You don’t get it! I’ve got things to worry about!”

But I will say this. It’s not as hard as you may think to cure your worry wart. Let’s look at eradicating the root of worry so you don’t allow it to take hold from the very start.

As a past queen of worry and anxiety, I admit this is not an immediate shift … as in you won’t stop worrying at the end of this blog post but you will know how to stop it going forward if you should so desire.

Why? Because worry is a deeply ingrained habit, so naturally it takes a conscious effort to shift the patterns of your mind from flowing immediately to their familiar state of worry.

Let’s talk about shifting these patterns with a practical approach instead.

The antidote of despair and how to harness it.

The antidote of despair is action because worry is the absence of action.

So the only way to reverse worry by taking clear, methodical and consistent action in the direction of your goals.

Simple? Yes. Easy? No. Does it work? You bet!

It has worked for me every single time. Instead of worry, which paralyzes my productivity, I stop myself, and analyze the worry and then blatantly ignore it so I can do what I need to do.

You feel overweight? Go for a walk. Cut down your portions. Start juicing (that’s how I lost weight!) Do something consistently for a while. Measure results.

You feel alone? Schedule time with a friend. Get on Skype with your community. Ask for advice from a mentor. Take a class to meet new people.

You feel overwhelmed in your business? Hire a coach. Join a mastermind. Evaluate what is working and what is not. Decide where you need help and invest in yourself.

So your job is to take immediate measured methodical action. Start doing so you stop worrying.

Every single step towards the problem, the challenge, the hardship counts as action.

If you do not take action, worry has power over you. The choice is yours. It really is that simple but it’s not to say it’s easy. It’s so very hard and by now, you know all about hard. Hard makes you better, finer, stronger and savvier for your future. Easy is over-rated and makes for a boring life.

Next time a worry pops into your head and starts to make its way into your speech, stop it in its tracks. Evaluate the right next step you need to take that gives you power and makes you feel in control. Then take the step after that and the one after.

Soon, you will feel in charge, worry will fade into the background and over time, you yourself will become the success figure that you admire.

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14 Things that Fear Doesn’t Want You to Know http://www.prolificliving.com/things-about-fear/ http://www.prolificliving.com/things-about-fear/#comments Mon, 17 Feb 2014 09:00:37 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38897 Everything you want is on the other side of fear but … Everything you want is on the other side of fear but how do you get to this perfectly magical fairyland? Don’t you just love it when a personal development blog or feel-good book tells you to “get over your fear” or to “overcome” […]

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Everything you want is on the other side of fear but …

Everything you want is on the other side of fear but how do you get to this perfectly magical fairyland?

Don’t you just love it when a personal development blog or feel-good book tells you to “get over your fear” or to “overcome” it using their 3-step process so you can get on with your life?

Then you blame yourself for not being able to do just that because it all sounds so darn easy?

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You already know fear is holding you back, you already want to get rid of it for good and while we are at it, it’d also be nice to have enough courage to last for the rest of your days.

But you don’t understand why, despite all that you do, the same stupid fear shows up without fail and still manages to stop you from taking your next big step in life.

Listen, you are smart and savvy. You don’t need me or others to tell you that fear is holding you back from your best life on earth. But let’s talk about why your strategy fails.

The plan to destroy fear fails every single time because fear is indestructible.

Fear is a necessary emotion to the human condition. You cannot eliminate fear from your being. You need fear to send you necessary signals such as when you are in danger or in an unsafe situation or about to make a giant mistake. Fear can be a really good thing for those circumstances.

Plus fear is a primal condition of all living beings and it’s not going anywhere, no matter how determined you may get. If you want to destroy fear, you will need to destroy a part of your human nature. Best to leave it be.

The Real Problem with Fear

The problem is that fear has spread to areas of your life where it has no business interfering.

Fear has no business being in your head when you are about to go into a job interview or about to go ask for a raise and an overdue promotion from your boss, or about to announce to your parents that you have chosen to marry your lover, no matter what they say.

Most of all, fear has no business stepping between you and your dreams.

You are not in any danger in these situations. You are perfectly safe. No lions are coming to get you and nobody is going to hurt you. You see, fear has no business, no permission, and no right getting in your head when life’s amazing opportunities come knocking at your door and expect you to show up.

This is precisely what you need to address between you and your fear. You need to get back in charge because fear has overstepped its boundaries.
The only reason fear can get away with this is because you accept this irrationality. But how did this happen?

Over the years, fear found subtle ways to convince you that you should be afraid of not just lions and dark alleys and criminals, you should also be afraid of traveling abroad or leaving your house after dark because oh look at all the terrible news happening in the world.

Fear managed to convince you that you should naturally be afraid of dreaming because dreamers are losers and you need to stay modest and realistic to make it in this world. Fear also managed to convince you to be afraid – very afraid – of making any changes in your career even if you are miserable at your job because you deserve the misery and after all, this is as good as it gets, are you so ungrateful for what you have to dare ask for more?

Over the years, fear has lied to you and stolen your power.

It started with little lies but then they got bigger. When fear saw you buying the lies, it made you its hostage, and put you in its prison. Then it realized that you might escape as all prisoners wish to do so at first, so it made you feel comfortable with your prison. It made your prison your ‘home’ so you never even dream of leaving it.

Today, I want you to say “Enough already!” to fear. I want to help you leave that prison and it could be the hardest thing you have ever done, because prisoners learn to love their cages.

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14 Things that Fear Does Not Want You to Know

You see? It’s not about destroying fear. It’s about putting it in its place, where it can serve you but stay out of your business so you can create the life of your dreams.

How do you take charge? Start by learning 14 facts fear does not want you to know:

  1. You can do anything you set your mind to.
  2. It is not too late to make major changes in your life.
  3. You deserve to move in the direction of your desires.
  4. Nobody is more qualified to decide for you than yourself.
  5. Your past failures do not dictate a damn thing about your future.
  6. You are stronger than you believe.
  7. The only thing getting in your way is yourself, and that is good news.
  8. You can change your life and the lives of others for the better.
  9. Your work in this world matters so make it what you want.
  10. You have earned the right to be happy, you do not need to feel bad about it.
  11. Nobody is judging your abilities as harshly as you.
  12. The world needs you and you owe it to the world to share your gifts.
  13. You are destined to be someone’s hero and role model so don’t let them down.
  14. You are capable of far more than you have done in the past, so dream big for tomorrow.

Put these truths to work by phrasing them in terms of positive affirmations next time fear grips you by the throat and starts whispering another lie in your ears. With practice, your will to live life on your terms will get a lot strong than your fear. Over time, you will get out of that prison and create the best years of your life without limitations, without insecurities and most of all, without fear.

Your turn: Do you think fear imprisons you? Can you think of one instance where you got out of that prison and did something you were scared to do? Share in the comments below.

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8 Things to Know before You Do What You Love http://www.prolificliving.com/do-what-you-love/ http://www.prolificliving.com/do-what-you-love/#comments Mon, 10 Feb 2014 19:26:11 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38841 Do What You Love but without the Wrong Assumptions please. Do what you love and love what you do. Such a cliche. Such a new age mantra. Such a lofty goal for the ordinary one. Such a … fancy lie? What do you think when you hear the words “Do What You Love” in your […]

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Do What You Love but without the Wrong Assumptions please.

Do what you love and love what you do. Such a cliche. Such a new age mantra. Such a lofty goal for the ordinary one. Such a … fancy lie?

What do you think when you hear the words “Do What You Love” in your career, your profession and for your life’s work?

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There is no argument that it’s a feel-good advice. Do what you love. And it makes rational sense too. I mean, you wouldn’t want to do what you hate, would you? (We will just disregard the millions of people that do precisely what they hate on a daily basis or hate what they do, however you want to look at it.)

Having gone through this painful process first hand (because I wasn’t so brilliant to always do what I love, only as of recent years), I’d say the first problem is that we don’t believe we have a choice. We think we are stuck with the first path we chose moons ago based on circumstance or a parent’s advice or opportunity, and there is no changing course. Ever. (Ah but there is).

Assumptions are terrible things that keep us stuck, here are the first four about Do What You Love advice:

First wrong assumption: You believe that “do what you love” and “do what makes you money” are mutually exclusive. Meaning, you can have one or the other but not both.

Not true. Life isn’t so black and white and your lot in life is yours to decide. There is an intersection between something you love that also makes you money – I have stumbled on it but not by accident. This “serendipity” happens a lot more than you think and it can be a methodical well-thought-out planning process (I teach this in my Smart Exit Blueprint course all the time!).

Second wrong assumption: If you don’t know what you love from a young age like those self-assured kids that knew their life purpose at 14, then you are doomed.

Seriously, you have to get over this one fast. Julia Cameron, the author of “The Artist’s Way”, has a great response to those who say to her, “Do you know how old I will be if I start writing my book now?”, to which she responds, “The same age you will be if you don’t!”

If you didn’t pick what you loved in college or in the decade or three that followed, so what? Stop thinking your time for doing what you love has passed! That’s just your opinion, and a wrong one too. You can just as easily decide your time is now and make things happen.

Starting today, get old with your passion, not without it.

Third wrong assumption: You confuse “do what you love” with a state of being constantly in love and happy with your life.

Again, not true. Being in love and happy with your life is important and it happens a whole lot more and on a much deeper level when you are doing something you love and something that matters to you. But you will have days when life is hard, when things won’t go your way, and when nothing makes sense.

Because even doing what you love comes with doing some of what you don’t love, just as the person you adore has parts that you may not adore. Do you think twice about loving this person? Probably not. Well, neither will you think twice about giving up doing what you love even if it won’t be a walk in the park.

Fourth wrong assumption: Doing what you love has to sound cool to the whole world, and be completely life changing, and create a fortune of course.

Where do we get these awful ideas? You decide what is cool because this is about what you love – not what your neighbor or mother or best friend loves but hey, I totally get it. I remember being more interested in having a cool-sounding passion than the one aligned to my heart’s desires. That assumption stole away a few precious years. Don’t let that happen to you!

8 Things to Know before You Sign Up for “Do What You Love!”

So you want to do more of what you love and less of what you hate? Great! Now we are talking. Here’s 8 things to know before you sign up:

1. It’s not an all-or-nothing deal:

You can do what you love once a year, once a month or twice a day. It can be a random affair, a hobby, a side-hustle or a full-blown business. You Decide.

2. It is about understanding your core desires:

Doing what you love aligns to your desires. It expands your core desires and builds on them, rather than be in conflict. Know your core desires. If you desire freedom above all things, having a job and a boss would be in conflict with that desire. If you desire structure and direction and minimal risk, being a part of the right organization is in alignment with that desire.

3. It is okay to do it your way, not how others do it:

So what if John Smith the super duper entrepreneur moved to Asia to start his own business? Or if Jane Wright quit her job and started backpacking to write her book? Good for them and that may or may not be your way. Find Your Own Way. Don’t be a copycat. Learn from them but do your thing your way.

4. It needs to support and enhance your lifestyle:

If your lifestyle is not what you want and doing what you love will create that lifestyle, great. If your lifestyle is where you wish, then beware how doing what you love affects it. Ultimately, doing what you love needs to support your desired lifestyle, not limit or debilitate it.

5. It has nothing to do with easy and everything to do with happiness:

Doing what you love might be the hardest thing you have ever done. Often it is. If living an easy life is a core desire (see #2), then doing what you love for a living might pose an issue. Pursue the ‘easy path’ instead.

Little known fact: Working harder than you ever have at something you love creates happiness. Hard work at the right thing is the sweetest reward of all.

6. It is critical to know your why:

Why do what you love anyway? For some, it’s about filling an emptiness inside, a calling. For some, it’s about escaping their current hell, and yet for some, it’s about having fun and creating something unique, and for a few of us, it’s the only path to true wealth. Everyone is right. Nobody is wrong. As long as nobody is imposing their why on YOU!

What you need to do is figure out why – exactly why – you want to do what you love. Do this by asking yourself questions relentlessly until you get some clarity. (And if you need help, call me up because that’s what I love doing in my coaching calls!)

7. It could take a very long time to get “there”:

That’s right. Doing what you love itself may be fast if you have clarity on what it is you want to do, but turning it into a business and a means to a living can take time. You may choose to wait, or invest to expedite, or forget the whole thing. Just know that in most cases, this stuff takes time.

8. It can be an uphill battle with family, friends, and support systems:

Doing what you love is not exactly as exciting to your parents or your friends as it is to you. So please do yourself a favor and decide first if their opinion will weigh in your decision. The more honest you can be here with yourself, the less regrets wait to greet you down the road.

This is not a democracy. People don’t get to vote on what you love.

Your entire circle of friends and family and extended relatives do not need to “understand” or vote on what you love. Only you do. Rise to the occasion then. Stop playing small or being shy or humble here. Be the king, the queen, the god or the goddess, the peaceful warrior, the leader, the ultimate decision maker and guiding light of your life.

Decide what you love, steer clear of wrong assumptions along the way, figure out if you want to do what you love for an afternoon or for a living but for the love of whatever/whomever you love, make these heart-centered decisions on your own. Then go announce it to the world, and embrace all the reactions, whatever they may be.

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7 Innocent Habits that Kill Your Productivity http://www.prolificliving.com/habits-kill-productivity/ http://www.prolificliving.com/habits-kill-productivity/#comments Mon, 03 Feb 2014 19:56:45 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38807 The 3 elements of a super productive day I know your intentions are good. That’s not the problem. You want to be super productive, you want to get lots of work done, and you want to move ahead. You want to be successful and happy. Setting a good intention is essential to massive productivity but […]

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The 3 elements of a super productive day

I know your intentions are good. That’s not the problem.

You want to be super productive, you want to get lots of work done, and you want to move ahead. You want to be successful and happy.

Setting a good intention is essential to massive productivity but if your innocent little habits are tearing your intentions inch by inch, then you need a new plan of attack. Let’s build that together today.

I believe this is the 3-pronged make-up of a super productive day:

1. A strong heart-felt intention to set the stage.

Example: My intention is to feel grounded and confident about my work, to make progress in my book, and to serve my ideal client.

2. A detailed plan of what to accomplish.

Example: Today’s plan is:

1. Write 2000 words for my book.
2. Do the consult and book the client.
3. Write up 2 newsletters and schedule them out.

3. A clarity on what not to do in the process.

Example: [Drawing a blank?]

The intention and the plan are pretty self-explanatory – if you are not doing them, I really think they can be useful so give them a try. But they are not complete without the third element: the clarity on what not to do in the process of doing #1 and #2.

It’s not the big stuff that kills our productivity, it’s the small stuff. See, we are not robots. We cannot expect our mind to regroup and refocus on the task at hand immediately after getting interrupted by something else. It’s just not how it works.

Logic may tell you that writing 1000 words should only take you 20 minutes if your average writing speed is 50 words per minute. But is that true? Have you tried writing 1000 words in 20 minutes? Can you then do 3000 in 1 hour? You may just be able to knock out a 50,000-word book in less than a week!

By that logic, we are all slacking off at a ridiculous rate.

Not really!! That’s not how life works and you are not a robot but you can still write a lot of words  - I wrote 5000+ words per day to meet the publisher deadline my little darling, The Healthy Juicer’s Bible. It’s a peak performance level that is achievable.

However, first you have got to account for all the external factors that interrupt the flow of natural productivity, because you and I are not operating in a vacuum. Life happens around us and inside us (our bodies, our minds) all day long.

Some of it, you cannot control so let those be and react as best as you can. But what about the stuff you can do something about?

Let’s focus on what’s within your power, mainly the innocent little habits that sneak up on you and move you further and further away from your true productivity.

7 innocent habits that kill your productivity inch by inch

How many hours, days and even years have you lost to these habits that have killed your productivity? What if you could make a shift, create momentum, and triple your productivity with small changes in your habits?

I believe you can. Let’s crush those little habits that do such enormous damage.

1. The craving to listen to your mind tricks:

The mind tricks that say “You are tired, you are not ready, this is too hard, this is silly, why am I doing this, let’s do something else, I’m bored, I’m frustrated.” Listen to them come and let them go. Do not act on them. They are perfectly disguised lies!

2. The urge to get a drink or a snack or run to the loo:

Yes of course you can drink and eat and be productive, but beware of when your emotions want to interrupt the flow of productivity. Make sure there is also a physical need to address.

3. The need to start up chatter or conversation with someone:

You get excited, you get down, and you need to talk it out and be heard. The desire to constantly be in conversation with the world around us – physical or online. Ignore it until the work is done.

4. The routine of staring into space or out the window:

I’m thinking, we tell ourselves, but a lot of the staring is just that – staring. We zone out sure, but is it directly useful to the productivity or just a little habit? Beware!

5. The habit of overloading your computer and phone:

Do you need all those apps and gadgets and tools? Simplify, and simplify some more. Go down to the essentials if you want to maximize your throughput.

6. The presumed hunger for distraction:

You think you might just starve if you don’t have at least one distraction. Whatever your current addiction – okay I admit, mine is Instagram, care to follow me? - you have to keep it in check or else it will take over your productivity and your life. Enough said.

7. The resistance to productivity above a threshold:

Ah the best for last. This is our resistance to success, to breaking our own boundaries, this is when we stand up firmly in our own way and say, “No way you can go this way! You are not prepared to succeed that high, to go that far, to win that much!” And to that, you must have a firm confident answer, because you are meant for so much more. Stop putting so many limits and boundaries in your way. Be on your own side, will you?

Okay now you know the habits. What next?

Being aware of the habits is only the first step to overcoming their power. Habits form your comfort zones and you are not going to stop any of these just by reading this blog post.

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So what can you do? Build the opposite habit of each. Here’s my suggestions for the 3 opposite habits you need to build t start counteracting the force of your harmful innocent habits.

1. Keeping your vision and dream within sight at all times.

Where is your vision? Only in your head? Not enough! Bring it into your workspace. I use my big board to write out and even draw my vision. Put your vision in a place that you can see it frequently.

2. Learning deep concentration and focus through an unrelated task to your work.

I use yoga and meditation to improve my concentration. What do you do? Use any form of grounding, focusing, and physically challenging exercise to improve your concentration muscles.

3. Building confidence and getting comfortable with success.

Without confidence, productivity cannot stand a chance and you cannot show up in the world with all your gifts. Build your confidence, don’t tear it down, build yourself, don’t root against you, and get super comfortable with success, because it’s going to come and get you only when you are ready for it.

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10 Proven Ways to Make Change Easier http://www.prolificliving.com/make-change-easier/ http://www.prolificliving.com/make-change-easier/#comments Mon, 27 Jan 2014 18:37:56 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38757 Why is All Change Such a Pain? Why is change so difficult and how can you make smarter better faster change in your life? I write about this today because change is still not easy for me and I struggle with it so. But I am so much better at it now and since progress […]

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Why is All Change Such a Pain?

Why is change so difficult and how can you make smarter better faster change in your life?

I write about this today because change is still not easy for me and I struggle with it so. But I am so much better at it now and since progress is everything in life, I talk about what has worked well and give you 10 proven ways to make change easier for you.

Just for good measure, I repeat: Change is a pain! A giant ugly bear that none of us like to face, but we CAN make it easier!

Anyone who says otherwise is a good liar or a superhuman. I am interested in them today. I am interested in you and me and our natural abilities – or inability – to deal effectively with change. Any change and all change, as small as switching from caffeine to decaf for one day or as challenging as going on a complaint-free challenge for a month – is hard.

Because change pushes you outside of your zone of familiarity, a place we love to dwell, toward a place of unknown and uncertainty and while that may sound sexy and cool to our ego, our brain does not care – it wants the comfort and the familiar.

We resist change, we hate it, we put it off indefinitely. We may talk a big game over a drink or at the height of our excitement, but when it’s showtime, we still would rather sit down and preferably not even move. We would rather watch someone else do it and feel sorry for ourselves – because that’s easier. But what makes change so difficult?

This is why you stay in a miserable job because switching to a better, more promising and higher paying job is, well, uncomfortable. Better sure in every sense of the word for you, your health and your finances but your brain only cares about keeping you in the comfort zone. So you stay until the pain of being where you are becomes too great to bear. (By the way, I mean “you” in a generic sense here but if you are doing this, do stop and get out fast!)

My personal battle with change right now – mostly for your amusement while also to prove a point:

I am on a mission to get lighter.

Yes, of course I mean lose weight but I can’t stand the phrase so get lighter it is. Why? Well that’s obvious, isn’t it? I am working on picking up my body with my hands to do all sorts of crazy stuff in my Ashtanga yoga practice.

Math suggests that the less I have to pick up, the quicker that radical goal comes into sight. I decided to trust my husband’s currently effective method and use MyFitnessPal (love the app!) to track every calorie that goes into my mouth. This has been a colossal challenge and I hate it on many levels.

First observation: I cannot believe just how much I used to eat!!!!
Second observation: I cannot believe just how hard it is to eat a little less than what you want. Your body’s needs and your mind’s desires for food are not the same thing so your wants are tricking you into believing you need more, whereas we know for a fact most of us are overfed and could use some moderation in this department.

The real shocker: I am not new to weight-loss. I am fit, health-conscious, and determined. I write health books that helps thousands of people with juicing and smoothies. And I’ve done extensive detox and cleanses with juice fasts. But counting calories has pushed a button so deep, so sensitive, and so personal. I am fighting a change that has touched on my emotional, psychological and physical nerves.

The Facts: The truth is that it has been so good for me. Portion control is the most proven method to losing weight and combined with basic knowledge of what’s good, you can easily make the right choices on how to use up your allotted calories.

10 Ways to Make Change Easier in Your Life

Here are 10 practical proven ways to make change easier, and what to do when you are in the throes of change to help you take that next step, and the next one and all the ones that follow:

1. Express the change in a brand new way:

The words you use both in talking to yourself or to others are extremely powerful. They reinforce a good or a bad thread of thoughts that then influences your reality. So watch what you say to yourself. For instance, don’t say “I am trying to say lose weight, it’s so hard!” Say I am getting healthier and taking better care of my body, and I can totally do this!

2. Ask the right question:

You know the question-asking mode you go in when you are desperate: “How did I get myself into this change?”, “What was I thinking?”, “How can I get through this?” Instead, ask a different question that forces you to come up with a different answer: “What good can come of this change?”, “How will my life be better with this change?” Ask what’s working. Answer those questions then.

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3. Break it down to tiny steps:

You don’t swallow your meal in one giant bite, do you? No matter how well you prepare, you will choke if you do. So do the same with change. Break it down. Take small tiny steps. You won’t get promoted overnight. You will however get recognized more every week, and build momentum toward your promotion if you follow my 21 lessons or any other effective way to advance at your job.

4. Use the power of social pressure:

If you want to be healthy, you need to understand how healthy people eat, exercise and live. You can only be one of them if your behavior becomes one of theirs. Use the power of social pressure in a good way for once. This is not high school anymore, thank god, this is real life and you have choices, but since social pressure works so well, exploit it to support your change.

5. Get your support system together:

Without my husband, this whole “getting lighter” mission would be badly compromised. He is my support system for this change and you need yours for your change. Don’t be a superhero. It’s perfectly fine and a show of courage to ask for help when you need it.

6. Normalize your reaction:

At first, you may freak out about your resistance to change. Sorry, you’re not unique there. Not at all alone and in fact, perfectly normal. Since this is not a talent show, this is good news. Normalize it then. Your emotional reaction is normal so stick to it and carry on with the change. You are going through the process just as expected.

7. Talk to someone who’s done it:

Focusing on the positive can be helpful but what’s really helpful is connecting with another human being who has gone through the exact change as you. When I talk to my ex-colleagues at corporate, and they express their frustrations to me, I know they know I was there with them and I broke out of it, and it affirms that they can do the same: break out of a bad job and start anew. So talk to that someone.

8. Eliminate influence in the opposite direction:

Enough getting the bad kinda influence. Whether it comes from your friends or the stuff you read or watch, be vigilant about identifying it and dropping it fast. You need all the help to make changes. Don’t encourage magnets that pull you in the opposite direction.

9. Adjust your expectations:

Don’t expect to pull miracles. This does not mean you are shooting low or are not ambitious enough. This means you prefer steady progress forward. You prefer to get to your goals rather than burn out along the way. You are smart. So make your expectations match. I’m not trying to lose 2 pounds a week, I have lower but firmer expectations.

10. Glorify all progress, large and small:

I don’t care how small your progress, whatever it is that moved the scale an inch or centimeter in the right direction counts. So celebrate it. Glorify it. Make a big deal out of it. We undervalue the importance of small steady progress. So next time you are measuring yourself and judging how far or not so far you have come, please do yourself a favor: make a big deal out of every ounce of progress. It does wonders to propel you forward.

Here’s to ways to make change easier in your life, because the only certainty is that there will be change. Might as well be well-prepared for it so you can play a bigger role in your own life movie.

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Want More Success and Happiness? 14 Things You Must Do Less http://www.prolificliving.com/want-success-happiness-do-less/ http://www.prolificliving.com/want-success-happiness-do-less/#comments Mon, 20 Jan 2014 13:00:41 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38639 What do you mean less is more? You’ve heard it. Less is more. I first heard this counter-intuitive phrase in reference to fancy restaurants. You know, the ones which serve you up a teeny tiny portion of elaborate food on a fancy plate with a shocking price tag. Less is more. Less is more attractive, […]

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What do you mean less is more?

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You’ve heard it. Less is more.

I first heard this counter-intuitive phrase in reference to fancy restaurants. You know, the ones which serve you up a teeny tiny portion of elaborate food on a fancy plate with a shocking price tag. Less is more. Less is more attractive, more desirable, and creates a higher sense of scarcity and desire, they insisted.

That made no sense to me. Less is less. More is more. What kind of wacky marketing are they using to sell this message? And who would be foolish enough to believe it?

Now I finally get it. Less is more and it’s not just with eating less (although it doesn’t have to come with the price tag of a 5-star restaurant either!).

Less is more in many areas of our lives because over-indulgence, as you may have found out through sweet experience, is not the way to either success or happiness.

The lure of over-indulgence and mindless accumulation

Over-indulgence and mindless accumulation are the surest way to confusion, frustration and even misery. Sweet, tempting and desirable as they seem on the surface, they are not a way to a happy heart for the long-term.

They can give you a momentary sense of delight or pleasure but that evaporates after a day or a week, and you come crashing down fast from their empty promise of happiness.

And if you are not careful, your lows will lure you into going back for more. Maybe you didn’t get quite enough: maybe you didn’t eat quite grandiosely enough, drink quite heavily enough, work quite hard enough or spend quite extravagantly enough.

And maybe that’s why you are not quite yet happy enough.

So, you talk yourself into doing just a little more - buy more, eat more, work more, drink more – then maybe the magic will happen. But no matter how much you do, you feel further from the promise land.

Your inner voice screams at you about how insane this all is, and to stop, to slow down, to be more intentional and less anxious. But that’s neither interesting nor sexy because you have lofty goals and doing less is sure to yield in average results.

Well, I don’t care about average any more than you do so I would never dispense any advice that would give you an average anything in your life. Average is boring and uninteresting, I agree but more is not the answer to, well, more.

The problem with more: More does not necessarily result in better, higher and happier anything. More is a reaction we have to not knowing the real answer. And when we don’t know any better, we do more of what is familiar in hopes that it all “adds up”.

I know it’s counter-intuitive but some facts of life are just so:

Eat less to feel better.
Drink less to enjoy life more.
Work less to get promoted and get a raise.
Spend less to have more.

And you may need to do more of certain other things (fodder for another blog post, hmmm!) in order to reach your goals and dreams, but today, let us focus on less and here’s why.

Your mind and your heart are your treasure boxes. You can’t add new wonderful things into your treasure box until you take out or do less of what’s not working.

Today we empty the box. We look inside. We clean it out and get it ready. We become both conscious and intentional of what goes into the box and we prepare the box for a great treasure hunt ahead.

14 Things to Do Less to Get More Success and Joy in Life Now

1. Eat less: I was shocked by how much I eat, thanks to calorie tracking with MyFitnessPal. Mindless eating, emotional eating and social eating can lead to those extra pounds that make you curse the scale down the road and go on a radical diet in reaction. Just eat less. Research has shown that you are far healthier if you stop eating before you are really full. Try it for a week. You’ll feel, shall I say, more satisfied, not to mention healthier?

2. Buy less. Ever since I fell into an accidental minimalist, I feel more content. Me! The over-consumer, materialistic, stuff-loving gal. I haven’t gone into radical extremes. I admit, I still buy stuff I don’t need but want, and I am not ashamed of it. But I am very intentional about my purchases. Buy with a clear mind and never on an impulse.

3. Watch less TV. I didn’t say watch no TV (or telly). Watch just a little less. Give your mind a chance to consume higher quality of information (and entertainment). Watch less mindless TV. If there are 3 TV shows that bring you joy, watch them, but if you turn on the TV because you are bored, do less of that.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday. ~Mary Schmich

4. Worry less. Become very aware of your worry and train yourself to do less, far far less of this. Worry makes you feel as though you are doing something useful but you are only taking time away from the real useful stuff. Use guided meditation to change the habit. It’s helped me tremendously.

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5. Judge less. We never, ever, have enough information to judge someone else for what they (probably) did. But the energy, the emotion, the time it takes to judge might just be better used toward that dream project you have shelved or the book you haven’t cracked open or the important stuff in your life that needs your attention. Let others be. Judge less.

6. Be busy less. Busy isn’t respectable anymore. Drop “I’m busy!” as a response to everything. Be more authentic and more honest. Are you really busy or filling up your time with “stuff”? Do you want to be doing what you are doing? Take a closer look. Be less busy.

7. Work less. That’s right. Chances are you are working hard enough but doing less of what really matters to get ahead. This myth alone is what fueled me to create my free program for every careerist who wants to enjoy a successful career without – I repeat, without - handing their soul over to workaholism.

8. Be negative less. The negative thoughts in your head are killing you. Learn to identify them. Believe that they are telling you lies to keep you from living a happy life. People are not bad. The world isn’t against you. You are not unlucky or unfortunate. When you change your thoughts, you can begin to change your life.

A little kingdom I possess, where thoughts and feelings dwell; And very hard the task I find of governing it well. – Louisa May Alcott

9. Drink alcohol less. Yes, I can appreciate the (very) occasional glass of wine too, but drinking causes more problems than your health (or your finances!) deserve. You can still have a grand time with friends over a glass of sparkling water. You can still feel the high of life and be sociable. Drink less alcohol and be more alert for life.

10. Compare less: Compare yourself less to anyone out there and make it a rule that you can only compare yourself to your previous self. Are you better than yesterday? If not, strive for better tomorrow. That’s the only way comparison serves you well. The rest just steals your joy.

11. Gossip less: This is not only a number one career suicide at the workplace, it is a cheap way of feeling good about yourself by putting others down. Gossip is for small minds and it’s a habit that you need to consciously break. Lift others up in their absence as you would want them to do for you.

12. Make excuses less. Excuses are your fear speaking in the place of your power. Excuses are not the real you. Excuses that you “can’t” do something or it’s “too hard” or “too late” are blocking you, keeping you stuck. Don’t put up with that. Procrastinate less and do what matters to you because you can. No excuses.

13. Have a bad attitude less. Life doesn’t always go our way. My way of handling it used to be to show off a poor attitude. The less things went my way, the worse my attitude would get. Oh this was a hard habit to break but an essential one. Accept what happens. It’s not happen “to you” so much as it’s just happening. And there’s always – ALWAYS – a silver lining. Your job is to find it.

14. Give your power away less. You have inside you the power to achieve all that you desire. Most of us go through life denying its existence or trading it for fear, for shame, for guilt or for excuses. Do less of that. A whole lot less. Believe more that there is this power inside you, hide it less and feed it more love and energy. You will meet a new you before you know it.

That’s all I got for you, my darling! Love to hear your thoughts on “less is more” in the comments.

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How to Never Compare Yourself to Someone Else Again http://www.prolificliving.com/never-compare-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/never-compare-yourself/#comments Mon, 13 Jan 2014 13:00:11 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38483 The negative committee is back in session again and it says … Do you willingly allow the poison of comparison to ruin your happiness? Do you let it walk all over your joy and make you feel small and insignificant? If you are not sure what I mean, here’s how it usually goes. You are […]

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The negative committee is back in session again and it says …

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Do you willingly allow the poison of comparison to ruin your happiness?
Do you let it walk all over your joy and make you feel small and insignificant?

If you are not sure what I mean, here’s how it usually goes. You are having a perfectly fine day when suddenly the negative committee hearings go into session in your mind, and suddenly you hear yourself think thoughts such as:

He started after me at the same job and he is already promoted twice! What am I doing so wrong?

My friend from high school is already a published author and I’m still struggling what to write about! What’s the point?

Their first business is already making millions and I’ve failed at all my 3 businesses. I’m such a loser!

She is born lucky – she can eat whatever she wants and never gain a pound, and I’m starving myself and overweight. God is this unfair!

And on and on you go with your made-up stories and your irrational reasonings until there is no trace of that initial happy feeling and you are left with resentment and anger toward yourself.

Comparing yourself to someone else is a surefire way to kill all joy and happiness, a cycle that you don’t deserve because of one simple reason: It’s not true.

So today, tell your negative committee meeting to just shut up and then keep reading so you never again fall victim of comparing yourself to someone else.

Okay I might as well confess it.

First of all, you are not alone in this. I do it too.

You don’t believe me? Okay. I’ll swallow my pride and share my negative committee with you. Gulp. Here goes.

Lately, my comparison obsession is around yoga. I’ve been doing yoga for years, but my commitment waned many times because I focused on a million other things including the miserable job I needed to exit and the business I dreamt of starting. I never advanced that far in my yoga.

Now I watch my Instagram feed of these gorgeous perfect yoginis with a tinge of envy and a bitterness of regret. My negative committee screams in my ears:

It’s too late for you. You missed your window. You would break your back if you bent that far. You will never strike that pose honey.

Those thoughts are self-destructive to every chance my yoga journey would have in the future. I know that, but telling them to shut up is only the first step in recovery. There are more steps to understanding and stopping the comparison game.

Because yoga is no different than life. When your mind has given up on you, all hope is lost. You might as well declare defeat and sit by the side lines and watch others embrace your dreams.

Is that really what you want? If so, stop reading now. I’ve got nothing else to say to you.

Why do we compare ourselves to others?

I tell you why. We see their ‘finished product’ and take a look at our own ‘unfinished’ one and we lose heart. Comparison happens in that instant. We compare and feel disheartened because it’s easier to feel that way than doing the work. It’s easier to feel self-pity than committing to the consistent daily work that these others have put in to get to the place we want to get.

Most of us are drawn to an unhappy state of existence because it attracts more sympathy from the world than a cheery successful state. “Oh I just can’t do it! I am not good enough! It’s too hard!” we cry to the world and they say in response, “I am so sorry but we do understand! It is hard! You really can’t do it!”

We have a support group to commiserate with because they too have given up. So they give us approval not to do it too – the dream is too big, just let it go, watch others instead and live vicariously through them, would you?

So we continue to sulk and compare and sulk some more.

Happiness, success and joy can be scary, scary stuff if you have never given yourself permission to feel them and live them first hand, but come on, is it worth throwing away a lifetime of opportunity for a little fear and anxiety and want of some approval?

The answer is a resounding NO!
It Is Not Worth It!

Sure, it takes a bit of courage but so what? Dig deep and you will pull out an ocean of courage. You will astound yourself with how courageous you really can be.

Make your dream matter. Make it urgent. Make it important. If the person you compare yourself to has managed to do it, there is proof and this proof can serve as inspiration. This proof can lift your spirits instead of bringing you crashing to the earth.

3 quick ways to never compare yourself to someone else

We have established this much: Comparing blocks the flow of your creative energy and genius and makes you throw up your hands in desperation and say, “What’s the point?” Comparing is poison to your progress and your success.

Let’s add a note of compassion: this is normal and we are human beings. So it’s hard to just say never compare yourself to someone else. But because it’s so destructive, we need an escape route. A safe surefire escape route that brings us back into a state of productivity, happiness and balance.

Here’s what I have been doing that works brilliantly. Next time your negative committee starts feeding you false stories about the perfection of others, do these 3 things immediately:

1. Go ahead and trade places but do it fairly:

No matter how much you may think you dislike yourself, deep down you really do love yourself, and you wouldn’t trade who you are with anyone else in the world. This was a truth I did not easily accept for a long time and you may not either.

So the question here is would you really trade places with the person you compare yourself to?

This means you don’t just trade your “failure” for their success, but your everything – your personality, your experiences, your memories, your quirks, your family, your house – for their everything. You can’t have part of their picture, you see.

Do you really know what they are struggling with? What darkness they deal with every day? What problems they have to face? Are you really willing to give all of yourself up for a tiny snapshot of someone else’s life? I bet not.

2. Turn the negative feeling of jealousy into inspiration:

Take a good hard look at where this “other” person is. Do you want to get there or stay where you are? If yes, feel yourself get inspired, get excited, get curious. If you want it, work for it like they did. If you don’t know how they did it, find out, ask questions. But first, feel joy for them. See them as role model. Celebrate their success and do the work until you are ready to celebrate your own.

In fact, get so busy with doing the work yourself that you have no time whatsoever to compare yourself anymore.

3. Compare yourself freely to your own self:

As soon as you feel jealousy for someone else, turn the comparison onto yourself. The only healthy comparison you should allow is when you compare yourself with an earlier version of where you were.

Are you further along than you were last week or last month or last year? Are you happy with your progress? This method helps you notice that either you are moving along and should just keep going or makes you realize that you are not making progress. In that case, check to see if you are doing the work or the practice or the task today to get YOU closer to your desires.

The magic is to turn it around.

The magic is to turn it around, to take the focus away from others and back onto yourself, and to look inward and see where you could do things differently, with more authenticity, more enthusiasm, more guidance in the right direction, and more affirmation for your own hard work.

Something amazing starts to happen right around then. Your own journey becomes so intoxicating, so fun, so exiting and delicious that you won’t be minding the business of anyone but your very own. You will stop comparing yourself to anyone but your yesterday self for a better version of your tomorrow.

What do you think? How have you deal with the comparison game? What have you found to be useful? Let me know in the comments!

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The Happiness Lesson: Why We’ve Been Doing It All Wrong http://www.prolificliving.com/happiness-lesson/ http://www.prolificliving.com/happiness-lesson/#comments Mon, 06 Jan 2014 19:12:23 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38320 On resolutions, intentions and setting the tone of the new year It’s 2014. Happy new year! Are you excited? Are you going into the year by betting on yourself and seeing yourself as a winner? I have two questions for you: 1. What are your goals and your intentions this year? 2. What did you let […]

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On resolutions, intentions and setting the tone of the new year

It’s 2014. Happy new year! Are you excited? Are you going into the year by betting on yourself and seeing yourself as a winner?

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I have two questions for you:
1. What are your goals and your intentions this year?
2. What did you let go of last year so it doesn’t drag you in the new year?

It’s easy to mark endings in life. The challenge is to recognize and celebrate the beginnings. A new year is a beginning. Mark this beginning on your calendar, on your journal, and on your pure amazing heart. Choose to erase your past mistakes and start this year on a clean slate.

I don’t know if you make resolutions but I used to be very good at them. I would make long lists of what I want to accomplish in the new year and hastily write it down in a brand new journal before midnight stroke on Dec 31st.

Funny enough, I would always start the year with so much pressure to accomplish everything in the first month that it would be impossible to go through with all my self-made promises for any length of time.

This is not to say that resolutions are bad. They can be wonderful! And it’s not to say that you should not push yourself. You should always seek hills and mountains and leave the flat roads alone. The excitement is in the ascent and facing a new challenge every day as long as your heart is in it.

When your heart is in it, you can call it anything and it works. Call it your top 10 resolutions. Call it your top goals. Your one intention. Your inspiration. Your focus. Your word of the year. Just let it come from your heart and resonate with your deepest core values.

This begs the question: How well do you know yourself? Do you know what brings you alive? What makes you tick? What your life is about? Why you are here and what gifts you can offer your world?

If not, go discover that first.

This year, I am using a radical approach just to see what happens. Instead of a long list of goals and two pages of resolutions, I have one simple constant intention: To Be Happy.

And if you know me at all, you’d know that this is really a radical approach. I used to treat happiness as an aftermath, the result of doing x, y and z, the thing that happens after you do all the other stuff you need to do.

Sure, I wanted to be reasonably content during the process of said x, y and z, but happiness, joy and fulfillment, or that high on life feeling, well that had to be reserved for when I had accomplished the goals and climbed the mountains and fulfilled all the dreams.

The problem is that I had it backwards. You probably do too.

It’s possible to be happy first, then go conquer the world, and this way, it works out better in case – just in case – today is the only time we have on this sweet earth.

I had a dream the other night where I was having a conversation with a terminally ill man. He was younger than me, handsome and vibrant, with only 3 months left to live. I felt so sorry for him. When I expressed this, his reaction was, “Don’t worry about me! For all you know, you have less time than me, lady! So go on, start acting like you have 3 months!” What a forward reply! What a shocking presumption! Here I was showing him compassion and he was being such a smart-aleck.

Except there is an annoying truth in what he said. I stood there stunned and speechless, with nothing to say in return except a nod of agreement.

How on earth would I know how long I have?

Morbid thought? I now find it to be a life-affirming and grounding thought instead. Maybe it is all the perspective we need to really do seize the day, pursue the dream, start the business and stop giving our excuses power over us.

So yes, my intention for the new year is simple and clear: to be happy. Now. Today. In the middle of a project, in the throes of a problem, in the pending of a solution, in the waiting for the answer. I want to be happy just as happy when I hear or see how things turn out as I am in the very process of waiting.

How to put happiness before everything else.

To be happy in the now. In this moment. The one that just passed us by. And the next one and every one after.

Here’s what happens when you are happy first. You begin to feel good about yourself. You begin to get confident about who you are.

When you feel good about yourself, the minutia of life’s problems has less power over you. Your mind clears up. The fog lifts and you can think clearly. When you think clearly, you make progress on your goals and projects and all your problems.

When you are happy first, you do more of what you love, so you can continue the amazing cycle of happiness.

Be happy first, then …

… get the raise or promotion at work.
… start writing your book.
… plan the trip to Europe and go.
… get the puppy, the kitten or have kids.
… pay off your debt.
… get healthy and lose weight.
… do your yoga.
… enjoy your friends.
… go to the beach.
… take that dance class.
… repair your relationships.
… solve your challenges.
… become the person you wish to meet and fall in love with.

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Be happy first. Start with giving up complaining, loving who you are, getting real with yourself, taking life into your own lovely little hands, and keeping your power instead of giving it away to every fleeting emotion or negative thought that comes along.

Keep your happiness close and sacred. Stop exchanging present happiness for a future promise of one.

Be Happy First. It sounds simple. Maybe even too simple. Well, then I challenge you to do it with me. We’ll take this shortcut path to happiness together.

What do you think? Share your brilliant thoughts with me in the comments, tell me what you think of my 2014 intention, and tell me your own intentions.

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The Only 25 Affirmations You Need to Forgive Yourself http://www.prolificliving.com/forgive-yourself-affirmations/ http://www.prolificliving.com/forgive-yourself-affirmations/#comments Tue, 31 Dec 2013 14:57:00 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38198 Forgiving yourself is the most difficult, most humbling and most liberating experience you can gift yourself. Yes, all three at the same time! It takes serious effort to truly and completely forgive your own flaws and imperfections, get over your past mistakes, and let go of the time that was wasted on self-rage, self-pity and […]

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Forgiving yourself is the most difficult, most humbling and most liberating experience you can gift yourself. Yes, all three at the same time!

It takes serious effort to truly and completely forgive your own flaws and imperfections, get over your past mistakes, and let go of the time that was wasted on self-rage, self-pity and regret and for me, arriving at this point has taken a very long time.

Alas I am ready for it.

I am so tired of carrying the weight of should-have, could-have with me every day, and to look back with nostalgia and regret at the smarter choices I could have made or the opportunities I should have grabbed.

Can we please stop this insanity and come to peace with ourselves? Can we begin today with forgiving ourselves for whatever shame or bitterness or regret we’ve been carrying for far too long?

Let us believe we are worthy of more than we think we are.

Life happens. We have one chance to react. That reaction spawns off other events. We manage them the best we can.

Now it’s over and you are here in this moment in time. Why carry the burden to eternity when you can drop it by forgiving yourself?

The last few weeks, I’ve been writing doing what author Julia Cameron of The Artist’s Way calls The Morning Pages: A minimum of 750 words every morning. Let me tell you, it’s not the polished writing that goes in here. Instead, it’s the stream of consciousness that lets me get the words – whatever words – out of my head and into the pages.

Instead, I have had no trouble filling my morning pages with a flow of bitter angry self-berating rubbish.

Where is this coming from, I wonder? I thought I was doing pretty well. My subconscious disagrees. I have not yet let go of the past mistakes, of the blame, of the bitterness.

Apparently, I have not yet forgiven myself. Go figure!

Ah forgiveness. The beautiful and humbling process of distancing yourself from the anger, bitterness, frustration, hurt, guilt, shame that you feel about a situation or about a person, including yourself. The noble act of freeing yourself by rising above the negativity that desperately wants to pull you down.

This is liberation at its highest form and it is a form of being divine as a human being and becoming one with the true source of life, the true positive flowing energy of hope, love and positivity.

That’s my flowery albeit genuine description of forgiveness, take it or leave it but what I am about to say next is even MORE important so pay attention:

Forgiveness does not mean you are weak and you are letting others walk all over you. Forgiveness does not portray you as a loser, a quitter or a dummy. Absolutely positively NOT! Do I look like I would let anyone walk all over me? Do you? No way! No how!

Now that you understand what forgiveness is, you have to come to terms at how powerful it really is. You have to move beyond just saying the words and step into believing them. Forgiveness is powerful. You must believe that first or none of these affirmations will help you.

Coming to this point may take time, and the good news is that you can take all the time you need darling. When you are ready, and not a minute sooner, come back and read the 25 affirmations below to forgive yourself and let go of the past so you can move into the new year with hope, optimism and love.

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The 25 Affirmations to Forgive Your Past and Free Your Mind

Read these affirmations out loud the first time around and let the sound of your voice become natural and let the words ring true for you.

Repeat them everyday for a week. Put them in your phone or a notebook you carry, and say them while driving or washing the dishes or putting on your clothes for the day. Say them when you are alone and feel anger or regret or sadness.

And do yourself a favor: believe yourself worthy of these truths:

1. I lay down the heavy weight of doubt, shame, guilt and embarrassment.

2. I release the past so I can step into the future with pure intentions.

3. I am capable of moving beyond my mistakes.

4. I am able to heal from the hurt and pain of what I have caused.

5. I am worthy of all the compassion and kindness life offers me.

6. I forgive myself one day at a time until it’s complete.

7. I gently release the grip of anger and rage from my body.

8. I set my past free and forgive my participation in it.

9. I give up the hope of a different past by accepting my true past.

10. I trust my present and future decisions based on love and good intentions.

11. I trade my anger and rage for understanding and compassion.

12. I accept that I did the best I could at the time with what I knew.

13. I have the courage to heal and become whole again.

14. I will treat myself with respect and kindness from today forward.

15. I forgive others as I forgive myself: with ease, sincerity and loving compassion.

16. I take this small step toward greater growth.

17. I am willing to live with all of who I am.

18. I am capable of loving all of who I am.

19. I go with the flow that life brings me.

20. I grow more patient and understanding of others by forgiving myself.

21. I let go of all self-judgement and self-sabotage.

22. I melt into an ocean of love and forgiveness.

23. I grow stronger and better as I forgive myself to move on.

24. I forgive myself so that I can have inner peace again.

25. I can only share my gift with the world if I first forgive myself.

What if you do not believe in affirmations in the first place?

Right there with you honey! In the not too distant past, I did not believe in the power of affirmations. At All. I could not fathom how simple happy positive phrases can undo the suffering and pain that you go through.

But I stand corrected. They work and they are such a simple tweak that it’s worth at least trying, don’t you think? Today, I believe in them because I have experienced the power of healing from affirmations first hand.

Proof is a great thing for the logical mind! But here’s the rub: the desire for proof before believing is precisely what delays – or sometimes completely blocks – the healing. So don’t let proof or lack of it dictate your desire to forgive yourself.

Forgiven yourself much lately?

Your turn: I know, this is a vulnerable topic, but it makes it all the more important especially if it’s blocking your way to a better life. Have you had trouble forgiving yourself? Or do you have tips on how to forgive oneself better? Tell me your story in the comments below! 

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31 Reasons You Are Better than You Think http://www.prolificliving.com/reasons-you-are-better/ http://www.prolificliving.com/reasons-you-are-better/#comments Mon, 09 Dec 2013 13:00:32 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38067 What Happens When You Stop the Self-sabotage I will allow life’s changes to make me better, not bitter. ~Unknown Where do we pick up this cycle of constantly beating ourselves up? Here I was evaluating how our company has done in 2013 with my business partner and hubby – our first year of working full-time […]

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What Happens When You Stop the Self-sabotage

I will allow life’s changes to make me better, not bitter. ~Unknown

Where do we pick up this cycle of constantly beating ourselves up? Here I was evaluating how our company has done in 2013 with my business partner and hubby – our first year of working full-time together – and in reality, it has been a phenomenal year, and I have worked my little behind off like no other time in my life.

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Our first traditionally published book, The Healthy Juicer’s Bible, hit the bookstores in March, I wrote and submitted a second book due out in March, I released a major career-transforming product for the struggling corporate employees, I expanded my coaching program, re-opened Smart Exit Blueprint, grew this little blog, learned how to work with my husband as a business partner, traveled the world from Africa to Turkey to Asia to Canada just to count the few highlights, and I deepened my Ashtanga yoga practice.

These accomplishments did not come to me then. Instead, all the should-have-could-have flooded to my head. I sat there, recounting ways I wasted time and wondering what else I could do better, faster and more efficiently. I can only see them now because my husband pointed them out, the undeniably positive spirit that he is.

So guess what? You are doing better – much, much better – than you think.

You have to stop sabotaging your own progress with the negative thoughts that make you wish for another story. You are exactly where you belong at this moment and you have to open your eyes and see it for what it is.

There is always room to grow, to get better, to raise the bar, to accomplish more, but only if you have made the time to realize you are better than you think and you are doing better than you give yourself credit.

31 Reasons You Are Much Better than You Think

I wrote these out in the form of affirmations so you can say them, memorize them and believe them because I may not know you, but I believe in you and know these apply to you.

1. You are smart, resourceful and brilliant.

2. You help anyone that needs you without a second thought.

3. You care about being a good person and living an honest life.

4. You are a kind, compassionate and grateful person.

5. You honor your core values and what’s important to you.

6. You invest in yourself and your own growth and development.

7. You have great hopes for your own future.

8. You are a responsible stand-up citizen of this world and of your country.

9. You are setting a great example for others in everything you do.

10. You believe in the goodness of humanity and have a pure heart.

11. You believe in the beauty of your dreams and plan to pursue them.

12. You have already taken the first step to pursue your dreams.

13. You bring useful and important ideas to life.

14. You put your knowledge and information to good use every day.

15. You affect the lives of those around you even if it seems like in small ways to you.

16. You don’t give up even if things go wrong and life beats you down.

17. You have a creative genius and you let yourself tap into it.

18. You take steps every day towards creating the life of your dreams.

19. You correct your mistakes without shame.

20. You look your fear in the face and don’t let it stop you.

21. You improve yourself with constructive feedback from caring outsiders.

22. You are humble and learn from life’s lesson and let it make you better.

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23. You are stronger and harder to break than you think.

24. You are surrounded by friends and family that care about you.

25. You are more generous than you realize.

26. You have worked hard in your life and earned your success.

27. You have not let life’s scars make you cynical or bitter.

28. You have a caring gentle soul and are a gift to so many around you.

29. You are an important asset to your community and your work.

30. You are building a life that will leave a beautiful legacy behind.

31. You are a much better person and the world is a better place because of you.

Stop shaking your head. It’s all true.

You may read some of these and shake your head, but I know that’s only because you are letting the self-sabotage get the best of you. Free yourself of the self-berating, let your true self breathe a little fresh air, and allow yourself to celebrate who you are.

When you do this, you open the doors to true abundance and your life will flood you with love, compassion, understanding, choices, options, and doors of opportunity.

How do I know? Because self-sabotage used to rule my kingdom. Not anymore. It’s time you reclaimed your power, darling! It’s waiting to show you just how brilliant you really and truly are!

Your turn: Do you stand up for yourself? Or do you berate yourself instead? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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Feeling Stuck? Here’s One Thing to Break You Loose http://www.prolificliving.com/invest-in-yourself/ http://www.prolificliving.com/invest-in-yourself/#comments Thu, 05 Dec 2013 18:39:16 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38029 The one thing to break you loose is … Going to college is an example of this one thing. Taking a course that will give you the skills to do your job better is another. Developing your talent with a tutor is yet another. Getting yourself a mentor is yet another. Joining a program that […]

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The one thing to break you loose is …

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Going to college is an example of this one thing. Taking a course that will give you the skills to do your job better is another. Developing your talent with a tutor is yet another. Getting yourself a mentor is yet another. Joining a program that will give you access to resources and a great support community is yet another. Hiring a coach is yet another.

Have you guessed it yet?

This one thing, one crucial and most overlooked thing that will open doors of sweet opportunity for you, expand your horizons, and unblock you in ways you have never imagined possible so you can reach those dreams you talk about, this one thing is called investing in yourself.

Let’s talk about this foreign concept today because nobody drills this into you as they most certainly should like brushing your teeth and saying please and thank you. No wonder it’s not half as obvious to most of us who are struggling day after day and year after year with the same problems, wondering why we can’t “catch a break” or rise above these awful nasty limits that hold us down so we can show the world what we are made of.

As if that’s not enough, investing in yourself gets all muddled up with spending money on yourself and being frivolous with your finances and heavens forbid, being selfish and self-centered, and nothing could be further from the truth.

Just why invest in yourself?

You can’t see the picture when you are in the frame. ~Les Brown

When you are the one going through hell, you cannot see the windows of heaven opening up to you.

It takes someone or something from the outside to show you and to open your eyes to all that lies before you. That’s your investment. It can be in the form of a savvy friend or a helpful mentor or an expensive coach. It can be a few words of wisdom from who’s been through it or an entire course or program that takes you step by step from hell to heaven.

But invest in yourself, you must if you mean to get out of hell!

If you are not investing in yourself, you can stop expecting miracles in your life right now. Miracles happen to those who take their success journey seriously. They are not a select chosen few and they do not carry a magic wand around. You can be one of them starting right now if that’s what you want. They just do one thing differently.

They invest in themselves.

Seriously. Regularly. With cold hard cash if they have it or with payment plans if they don’t or with any other means available to them because investing in themselves is as critical as eating and sleeping and having shelter. They get it.

Why?

Because they mean to rise above an ordinary life. They mean to leave behind the daily struggling and move on to making a difference, serving their world, recognizing their gifts and making stuff happen! They mean to create massive wealth and success for themselves and for others. They mean to see their dreams come to life, not just live in their heads.

And they do!

When I realized this, I started investing in myself through coaching programs, getting mentors, joining mastermind groups and networks, buying books and resources, and so much more. It wasn’t cheap but that’s not the point. It Pays Off!

Return on investment or ROI is not fancy finance lingo.

What do you think when you hear ROI? Do you see stock charts and spreadsheets with lots of numbers in your head?

Return on investment is what you get back after you put your money up. The idea is to get back your money and then some. So if you invest $1000 in a program, and want to get back twice the investment, you make $2000 as a result of what you learned in the program. And you are ahead already.

The way you measure the value of an investment is not how much it costs but what you get back. If you are investing $3000 in a career coach, you may get a raise and promotion that is going to pay back 10x over the life of the raise, and that came as a result of you investing. Again, you are ahead.

Because you would not have had the raise without the investment in all likelihood.

When you pass up on opportunities to invest, you pass up on all the sweet returns on your investment and you choose to continue to live with the problem or solve it on your own.

Positive thinking and affirmations alone are not enough.

All the positive thinking and power affirmations in this world alone won’t make you smarter, richer or help you advance in career or business. You must take action and invest in your growth and development regularly – not once but many, many times in the course of your life.

You need to have the right mindset for success, no doubt about it. I learned this the hard way and drive it home hard in my Smart Exit Blueprint course and coaching program before we get to the fun stuff. That’s where the positive thinking and power affirmations are key.

But you are not quite yet done, my dear. With the clarity that you gain from positive thinking and affirmations, you then need to come to terms with the actual limitations that are holding you back and take steps to fix it.

That’s the start of investing in yourself.

“But I don’t have the money to invest in myself!!”

The first argument against investing in yourself is that you don’t have any money and therein lies the irony.

You are in this situation because you haven’t invested in yourself over time, and neglected your growth and development. When you do this with one problem, it snowballs and life’s problems accumulate on top of another until they become unbearable.

Every successful wealthy person has faced this excuse and dropped it. You can too.

If you don’t have a lot of disposable income, then start small but start now.

You don’t have to take a $2000 training right off the bat but you can invest in a $300 program that will give you access to the right support community and the right structure to get you through your current struggle.

You can look at areas of your life where you may be squandering your money without even realizing it and close those leaks. You can start a “Invest in Me” fund and start saving your cash today. You can look for scholarships or sponsorships. You can negotiate your skills and talents where it applies.

You can do a lot to take steps into helping yourself and investing in yourself. Drop your excuses – they are fooling you into staying stuck – because investing in yourself can change the course of your future.

You invested in yourself but “It didn’t work!”

So you invested in a course, a coach or a program and you say “it didn’t work!”. You have lost faith in investing in yourself.

Alright. Let’s take a closer look before we blame the coach or the course or the program.

Did you do the work? All of it? With your very best effort and intentions?

Investing in yourself comes with doing work and taking action.

If you take a course, do the exercises. If you get a coach, do what they say. If you go to school, finish your homework. If you are training for a marathon, show up for practice.

When you receive the expert advice that you have dearly paid for, take action on it until you get results. Then and only then will investing in yourself work.

Yes one day it will be too late but today is not that day, is it?

It’s not easy for me to give you tough love but it’s been on my mind lately and I’ve seen too many people give up on their amazing bright potential because they continue to stay stuck!

Not investing in yourself is holding you back and I hate to see you wake up one day and realize that you could have lived a different life, and broken through those awful barriers, and created that successful business and the financial freedom that you dream about.

Because one day will be too late.

One day all the opportunities that are before you today won’t be there. Your time is finite and your window of opportunity will close someday.

And if you are so busy trying to figure out everything on your own, you won’t even see the window of opportunity staring you in the face and then coming to a close someday.

Don’t Let That Happen to You!

Don’t rob yourself of your own power, your own potential and your own brilliant future. Stop squandering your precious time! Invest in yourself today!

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23 Unexpected Lessons of a Complaint-Free Month http://www.prolificliving.com/lessons-complaint-free-month/ http://www.prolificliving.com/lessons-complaint-free-month/#comments Mon, 02 Dec 2013 18:57:52 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=38009 If you want a humbling experience, decide to give up complaining for a month. All complaining. To anyone and everyone including yourself. Can you do it? The complaint-free November started out just fine but it didn’t go quite as planned. Luckily, I was not alone. Our Facebook group (feel free to join IF you are up for it!) has […]

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If you want a humbling experience, decide to give up complaining for a month. All complaining. To anyone and everyone including yourself. Can you do it?

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The complaint-free November started out just fine but it didn’t go quite as planned. Luckily, I was not alone. Our Facebook group (feel free to join IF you are up for it!) has become a center for discussing the sneaky role of complaining in our lives and how to outsmart the darn thing. Be more grateful. Pause more before you react. Share your ups and downs with a support group. That’s the stuff we know, but what about the stuff we don’t know?

23 unexpected lessons from the complaint-free month

1. You may start over every day after a slip-up and still be making progress.

So I have to be honest. Every.single.day I have been starting back at day one. Living in China brings me to the 5th country we have lived in 5 years – and this has been the most challenging experience. And therein lies my strategy: always find something to be grateful for in every situation. ALWAYS. Be blessed. Awesome good vibes your way!
Monique O’Reilly

2. You get to see and laugh at your own drama and exaggerations.

It made me realise how much I often dramatise – linked to my complaining! Gratitude instead of complaining that is definitely the way to go and we can spread a bit of love at the same time!
Julie Stannard

3. You may need to tune out people and turn off the news just to get through the morning.

My new, personal pledges then are to continue working toward a complaint free life; to limit my news-watching (seeing enough to stay informed, but not so much that I am overwhelmed by the darkness of it all), and to avoid partaking in discussions revolving around the tragedy’s of others, unless it is to find a way to help.
Jean W. Berkompas

4. You will start catching yourself mid-way and switch to a positive thought.

Well, today I complained. Not even a little…but a lot. Then I caught myself complaining and I stopped. I practice unfolding, so I tend to be fine with and actually enjoy spontaneity.
Joy Holland

5. You find that gratitude for what is feels easier than complaining about what is not.

Beautiful things happen in your life when you distant yourself from all negativity.
Sibyl Chavis

6. You get surprised by how very very VERY much you have to be grateful for.

Here’s an idea for anyone that catches themselves complaining: Rather than being down on yourself, come up with two things you’re grateful for right away. That way you cancel out the complaint and put yourself back on a positive track!
Ralph Quintero

7. You realize driving is a lot more pleasant when you give others the benefit of a doubt.

8. You rope your family into the challenge and when they complain about it, you give them a big loving glare. Ah the sweet irony!

So — a couple of weeks ago, when I packed my son’s lunch, he came and said, “Mi, yesterday you forgot to put a spoon in my bag and it was…..” I looked at him and grinned… and he continued, “I found it was interesting to eat with my hand for a change”. I love that kid! What’s more, he’s trying to
convert his friends.
Vidya Sury

9. You notice that half of your problems weren’t problems at all and the other half you can handle better without complaining.

I have been doing one thing very religiously for the past 2 days, which is thanking people around me and finding at least one good thing about every single person I have been meeting and complimenting them.
Sujatha Amarnath

10. You start to pay attention to simple stuff that you never noticed before in the sea of the day’s grumbling.

11. You are shocked at the shift in perspective this little challenge is giving you.

I see how patience is a perfect antidote to complaining. It’s been so rainy since mid-October and one day I was SO cold that it was really hard. But then I think of all the people harmed by the weather in the Philippines and how could I possibly complain? When it’s rainy, it’s impossible to get our clothes dry and I don’t have a dryer right now. But then, the beautiful sun came out and I ran to do the laundry right away. The lesson is that sun comes to those who are patient and don’t complain.
Sandra Pawula

12. You learn that calling a feeling or emotion by the right name – I’m feeling anger, frustration, impatience… – actually eliminates the oncoming complaint.

I have seen a breakthrough! Calling a feeling or emotion by the right name as opposed to reacting has almost eliminated my complaints. A small incident hurt my feelings yesterday. Instead of complaining that the other person was being unfair, I acknowledged that it was “okay to be hurt” but asked myself gently to not stay stuck in that feeling the rest of the day. When we stop complaining, we are actually listening to our true feelings and being kinder to ourselves.
Kay Fudala

13. You feel more grounded and in control and life gets, dare we say, easier.

14. You love questioning your complaint – is it true? really true? – and laugh out loud at how it can’t possibly be.

15. You shift focus from what you did wrong to what you are doing right.

I realize complaining, for me, is focusing on what did not get done at work or what went wrong. So now I’m only talking about my accomplishments at home at the dinner table and not complaining of what I did not get done … I like it.
Charlene Krepel

16. You realize you are fabulous, perfect, and enough just as you are.

17. You prepare more so you are stressed less so you complain even less.

Then enroute home this evening as if by miracle (not!!) the penny dropped – I now realise that negativity and complaining (more so about others) is all due to one thing “PREPARATION” If we are prepared we’re on time stress free and less likely to think negatively. Lesson over. It has always amazed me that when you’re down in the dumps, nothing goes right plus you’ve no energy But as soon as you’re up beat, positive, inspired, the world and everyone around you seems to react differently.
Ena Ronayne

18. You realize just how ingrained this awful habit of complaining is and work hard to eradicate it.

Every day, every MOMENT, I feel that I must be a Watchman, on the wall, on my game, at the ready to catch myself before I stumble. And like so many of you, I find that I am surrounded – bombarded, even – by the media, by those around me that somehow seem to thrive on complaints to get them through the day. It’s akin to a virus, spreads like wildfire, and can becoming consuming. ”Complaint-free”. I sure wish it came easier. Or not. As with any great challenge comes great reward. And great satisfaction. And great personal development. And great character-building. And greater goodwill to others. How awesome is that?
Bruce Rodgers

19. You get less tired and have more energy when you give up the complaining.

20. You get sought after by others because you give off good healing energy.

21. You begin to like the sound of your voice and the flow of your thoughts.

22. You hear your true inner voice after you shut off the complaining mind and it’s so beautiful it blows your mind.

23. You fall in love all over again with yourself, your life, your family, your friends and even your awful mean horrid boss.

If you want to know what to do with the energy of complaining, check out these ways to channel the energy. To our own surprise, this no-complaining business transforms our life. The decision is up to us. If you have other observations from going complaint-free, well, share it ASAP please in the comments, and don’t forget to grab your confidence-building course below. Free. Helps with this challenge immensely!

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Blocking Your Creative Genius? How to Undo Your Harmful Ways http://www.prolificliving.com/unblock-creative-genius/ http://www.prolificliving.com/unblock-creative-genius/#comments Mon, 25 Nov 2013 17:38:40 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=37957 In The Artist’s Way, a necessary book to read for awakening your soul, author Julia Cameron says we all have a creative genius. You, me and the kid next door. Your Mom, my Dad, and even the geek who speaks in a computer language neither of us understand. A creative genius! All of us! Who […]

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In The Artist’s Way, a necessary book to read for awakening your soul, author Julia Cameron says we all have a creative genius. You, me and the kid next door. Your Mom, my Dad, and even the geek who speaks in a computer language neither of us understand.

A creative genius! All of us! Who knew?

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I certainly didn’t as a bored-out-of-my-mind corporate employee. I studied electrical engineering in college. I fixed broken networks for giant banks and service providers. I set up IP telephony systems for companies. I memorized computer languages and routing protocols (BGP or OSPF anyone? Yep. Didn’t think so!).

I was doing great though, moving up the corporate ladder, making sweet money, and building a fancy career … but I was aching for something inside and I had no earthly clue what but now I know, thanks to Julia Cameron: I was starving my creative genius.

Are you starving your creative genius?

She is right, you know? I found my own creative genius too, buried deep under a thousand layers of doubt, shame and insecurity, hanging on to dear life thanks to my harmful ways and hoping against hope that I would embrace and accept it one day. So I finally did.

After I quit my job in May 2011, I started writing and I haven’t stopped since. Writing was my first creativity outlet and it led to a company that has now freed both me and my husband from our cushy corporate jobs. Writing, the last thing someone such as me was supposed to do for a living and yet writing has created the very life of my dreams.

The problem is we think of creativity the totally wrong way.

Creativity is way bigger than the generic definition society throws at it. Creativity isn’t about drawing pretty pictures, doing arts and crafts or making jewelry. When you give creativity such a limited point of view, you harm your own creative genius. Creativity can also be about serious stuff and make an enormous difference in your life and the life of those you serve.

Your creative genius wants to create. So for heaven’s sake, get out of its way and let it create.

Want ideas? How about:

  • Create the life of your dreams.
  • Create a career you are passionate about.
  • Create a program that can make a difference.
  • Create a book that will change the way people think.
  • Create a speech that will move people into action.
  • Create a website that will inspire hopeless souls to believe again.
  • Create a message that heal someone from suffering.
  • Create a business that will pour wealth and joy into your life.

And if you hear your mind say “That’s nice and all but it’s way over the top and not practical and it won’t work for me!”, tell it shut up! Don’t fall for the trick this time.

That is the voice you must censor so you hear the one beneath it, whispering softly, “Yes, you can be creative sweetheart. I believe in you!”. I spent years in an awful dark place of not believing in myself and feeling trapped at a job that was supposed to be my “dream career”. Alas. The lost years are gone and yours will be too if you keep delaying your creative genius.

Your job does not define you!  Your problems do not define you. Even your college degree (or lack thereof!) does not define you. And your past mistakes most certainly do not define you.

This mad cycle of harmful thinking must be undone.

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You are more than the sum of your job and your problems and your boring little errands, darling.

You are a creative genius inside. It is what is inside that matters. Choose to shine a light on that gift, and watch it turn your whole life around. Stop bashing your dreams, start celebrating them.

Don’t believe it? Fine! Have it your way but not before I let you off the hook, we are going to play devil’s advocate. Let’s say you do not have any creative genius. At all. Okay?

Then why are you so unhappy and frustrated and annoyed with a boring job or in another wasteful dreadful work meeting?

Why are you itching to get out and do something else and be something more? Why not just settle and be “thankful you have a job” and do what you’re told?

It’s because your creative genius is dying to show you a better way, a kinder way, a happier way.

If you ignore it, you will regret it. Maybe not today or next week but in a few years, you will look back at your life and wish so badly you had believed in yourself today.

Believe in yourself today then.

Stop suppressing that creative genius already!

Whether or not you believe me (or Julia) does not change the reality that you have creative genius. It is as much a part of you as much as the blood running through your veins and the air pumping through your heart. What you do about it though, that is only up to you.

At least stop your harmful ways while you search for the reasons to believe. From this moment forward, vow to stop telling yourself harmful not-so-innocent lies such as:

  • “I am not that creative.”
  • “Creativity is just for artists!”
  • “I could never think of something like that.”
  • “I just don’t have the talent.”
  • “It is too late to get creative at this stage of my life.”
  • “Creativity doesn’t pay the bills. Let’s get real.”

You can only go on hating a thing for so long before the hate turns on you and starts harming you. Stop looking at the people around or listening to the media and feeding your soul with their negativity. Let others live their lives that way. Let them be negative and sarcastic and “realistic”.

You take action.

You do something about the job you hate.

You change the rules by which you play the game of life.

You start your own exit plan out of where you are to a place that makes it possible for you.

That is, if you haven’t given up on yourself yet!

Listen, if you are totally ready to start on an exit plan that will get you to a place where you can sleep better, have more money, enjoy your work, and not ever again dread a Monday morning in your life, take the Smart Exit Blueprint course.

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I have re-opened my course Smart Exit Blueprint course for limited seats. Take this course only if you still believe in yourself, and think yourself worthy of success, and deserving of breaking out of your rut, and of doing more with your career and your life.

The awesome students that have taken and are taking this course have changed their mindset, their thoughts and their opportunities forever by believing in their own creative genius.

Are you one of them?

Or have you given up on yourself? I hope not because that would be a terrible waste of a creative genius!


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12 Things You Should Be Doing In Your First Waking Hour http://www.prolificliving.com/start-day-right-first-waking-hour/ http://www.prolificliving.com/start-day-right-first-waking-hour/#comments Thu, 21 Nov 2013 11:00:05 +0000 http://www.prolificliving.com/?p=37920 Morning Routine, Anyone? Do you ever wonder why some days “get off” on the wrong foot? Why some days are not as productive as others? Why you are dragging through some days and floating through others? Simple. Morning routine! How your day turns out is directly related to the things you do and the thoughts […]

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Morning Routine, Anyone?

Do you ever wonder why some days “get off” on the wrong foot? Why some days are not as productive as others? Why you are dragging through some days and floating through others?

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Simple. Morning routine!

How your day turns out is directly related to the things you do and the thoughts you think in the first hour of the morning. That sets the course of your day, your mood, your energy, and your level of focus and concentration. If you want the day to be amazing and extraordinary, you have got to focus first on how you begin it, darling!

“Begin at the beginning,” the King said, very gravely, “and go on till you come to the end: then stop.” ~Lewis Carrol in “Alice in Wonderland”

Whether you are an early riser (which I used to be until the current phase of night owl took over my life), or rise close to mid morning, your first hour of coming back from the underworld – the sleep world – is critical. You have got to have a methodical plan of greeting the day.

The first hour sets the groundwork for the rest of day, just as the first week in a relationship sets the tone of the days and years to come.

So be careful what you do that first hour after waking up!

Do you have a morning routine? Does it stay the same or change depending on your days or routines or travel schedule? Are there certainly routines that you are disciplined about doing regardless? Do you notice a relationship between your morning routine and how your days turn out?

12 Things to Do In Your First Waking Hour

Here are the 12 things you should be doing in the first morning hour to maximize your focus, concentration, productivity and pure happiness for the rest of the day. It’s best if you do them in the right order. If you must skip any, just go on to the next one. Make this a part of your morning routine:

1. Say your morning affirmations - Before you get out of bed, say these 10 quick morning affirmations.

2. Hydrate your body – Sleep dehydrates us. Drink one glass of room temperature water right away after waking up. Add a slice of lemon if you like. Have it ready by your bedside.

3. Brush your teeth and tongue – Bacteria and bad breath need immediate attention. Use a good mouthwash or brush your teeth and tongue with toothpaste. Wash your face while you are at it!

4. Stretch your body - Stretching is love for your body. The more you stretch, the more you love that body. The less you stretch, …. ! I teach you simple moving and breathing techniques to do in 10 minutes in the 10 Minute Invigorator Program. Or you could do a long exercise or yoga routine.

5. Meditate - It’s easy to fall back asleep if you meditate right upon waking up, so I like to delay it to let the body wake up naturally with stretching, movement, exercise, yoga or whatever activity I choose. Then meditation can make you get grounded and balanced for the day without making you sleep (hopefully!). I love these guided meditation tracks the most!

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6. Warm up your voice - Before speaking, do some gentle voice exercises to warm up your pretty voice. Your vocal chords are still slowly waking up and you need to wake them slowly. YouTube is your friend here to learn some basics.

7. Make a fresh raw green juice or smoothie - If you want to be super loving to your body, make a fresh green juice such as spinach, celery, apple, lemon juice or a hydrating green smoothie. Let that be your first meal for the first 1-2 hours of the day. If you don’t do this, do #8.

8. Eat something light – Whoever came up with the idea of a huge breakfast? Nothing weighs you down like a heavy meal when your body is just waking up and your digestion system needs to kick in and eliminate the accumulated waste from the body rather than take in a thousand calories! Have a light breakfast. Very, very light. Eat again in a few hours.

9. Read something stimulating – I am in love with books. Books require your focus and attention and nothing kickstarts your brain like a short focused reading exercise. Always have books around, whether on your Kindle or in print. Reading on the iPad or iPhone is fine too but the LED light is not so good for the eyes early or late in the day.

10. Review your goals for the day – Whatever  tool or system you use to keep you on task, review your goals for the day. If you do not set goals for the day, start now. Every day, have at least 3 goals. Know them. Review them. Knock them out first thing if possible!

11. Drink loose-leaf tea – Yes, tea. With caffeine if you like, I am not a caffeine police. Loose-leaf high-quality tea steeped right is too good for you to bypass, and it will do wonders for your mood, health and digestion. Plus, tea promotes creativity!

12. Set an intention for the dayAn intention is not the same as a goal. A goal says you’ll write 2 blog posts and a newsletter. An intention says you’ll do everything with care, put your best into every task and bring your genius to work. Intention goes deeper than goals.

Every day is a gift, a dear chance to strive to become a better person, to do sweet things for others, and to be of service to the world but before you can do any of that, you’ve got to start your day right. Make these 12 morning starters a part of your daily routine.

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