Episode 41: Eliminating What’s Not Working

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Welcome back to Episode #41 of The Daily Interaction podcast. Today’s topic is on Eliminating What’s Not Working of The Daily Interaction podcast.

Can you take a moment to scan your interactions and communications and see what’s not working – what is something that you keep doing that’s not serving you well anymore and before you add anything new, can you eliminate that thing which is getting in the way? That is the topic today and I am so excited to share this concept with you because you can put it to use right away.

Elimination of that which does not serve me anymore has been one of the areas that I am focusing on in my communications and I bring it to you today in a practical and actionable way. It is something you can put to use right away because you don’t need anything new. This works with what you already have and do and removes what’s not working and in the process, you enhance your way of doing the same thing with leaps and bounds. Plus you gain tremendous confidence in the process!

In this podcast episode, I share with you the simple, quick and yet powerful ways that you can change the way you do things by simply removing what is not working. Just like I should not add new clothes to my closet before removing what I’m not wearing, I know that I should learn to remove what is not serving me well in my interactions and communications with the world BEFORE adding NEW things on top!

This will seem subtle to you at first but not only does it have a large impact on outcomes, it will make you feel lighter, more aligned to who you really are and how you want to be perceived in your interactions with the world around you. So get ready with a cuppa tea and take a listen!

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Your Weekly Friday Show Notes:

1. Why it is so important to eliminate before you add and how I came across this new concept as part of my self-improvement journey and why you might be under-estimating the power of elimination.

2. My own biggest task on what I need to eliminate in my dealings with my own family. What is yours?

3. An exercise to scan your words and phrases – your common reactions in the world around you – and think about whether that is the best way to handle something. Is it working?

4. How to be exactly as you are, with all of your essence and your ways of doing things intact, and still experience something remarkably noticeable in your improved interactions.

5. Understanding the total effect and the full scale of what you say and do and portray (with your body language) and how to become aware of it and then tweak it with the smallest act of elimination.

6. The example of how you can totally change the perception in the way you come across in the smallest and barely noticeable acts, especially when you are being watched, and what exactly to do to shift that around.

7. How to change poor thought patterns and old beliefs by asking this one single powerful question: “Is it true?” and by examining the true answer rather than the old assumptions.

8. Food and closet analogies – for this one, you must take a listen to the podcast as I can’t do it justice!

9. The importance of enjoying the “empty space” and how to work through this discomfort so that it become comfortable and how to begin to apply the elimination process slowly but effectively to your communications and even to your life.

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  • http://LifeinZD.com Z Egloff

    Hi Farnoosh!

    I love the timing of this post! I recently received an email from a friend, commenting on a meeting we’d both recently attended. She noted that all of us were talking over each other at the meeting. The minute I read this, I knew that I had been one of the “talker-overs.”

    Her email was an important reminder of the importance of silence in communications. It was also a reminder of something I want to eliminate in my life – my habit of interrupting others!!

    For me, the elimation of this habit speaks to the concept of “empty space” you discussed. Am I willing to allow this empty space in my communications with others? Am I willing to see that perhaps this empty space isn’t empty after all, but is full of deeper and more profound connections?

    Thank you for another great podcast!

    Cheers,

    Z

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Z, so happy to see you here again. And that’s something I work on constantly. I used to be terrible at it – I was so anxious to hear my own thoughts….. but now I exercise a lot more respect, and still not close to where I wanna be so I hear you I hear you! :) First step: Awareness…..!
      And it’s nice to hear you relate to the empty space too… I wasn’t sure I conveyed that well. Thanks for the kind thoughts here! So glad to have you as a listener. Any topics that you want me to explore with the podcast, just let me know.

  • http://www.learningwithleslie.com Leslie Samuel

    This is a totally useless comment, but I just gotta say – I love the way you say the word “stupid”. LOL!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Leslie, you are something else :)! Making me wonder now how I say words…. My hubby says I have “the most adorable” accent, which only worries me because I want to be CLEAR and well-understood….(I am digressing a bit here)…. it takes a lifetime if not longer to change an accent, did you know that? Anyway, comment away anytime. Love seeing you pop up!

      • http://www.learningwithleslie.com Leslie Samuel

        Oh trust me, I know. I’m the islander. Btw, don’t try to change your accent. It’s sexy ;)

        • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

          Love your accent and I think we’re both stuck with what we got. Sexy you say…. ditto on yours Leslie :)!

  • http://stevewhitetoday.com/blog/ Steve White

    It’s surprising how often we do things, often out of habit, without realizing how much it’s cluttering our ability to communicate effectively. Sometimes, as Z pointed out, it’s only brought to our attention when others clue us in. However, by stepping back and taking stock of the phrases and words we use it’s likely that we would all find at least one thing (if not several) that is worth eliminating.

    Great topic – as usual!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Steve, habits are so strong, they are so deeply conditioned into who we are. We can ALL use things to eliminate. Thank you for taking the exercise to heart and if you want to share more, I am all ears.

  • http://10stepstofindingyourhappyplace.blogspot.com/ Galen Pearl

    My autistic son loves DVDs so much that he has shelves and shelves of them. There is no more room, but he continues to accumulate them. So we came up with a plan. He has to put five DVDs in a storage box before he can bring a new one home. Eventually, he will be able to let go of the storage box and we can get rid of them!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Dear Galen, what a kind sweet mother you are! You know, my hubby used to love collecting DVDs, before we went totally digital but even so, he had hundreds of DVDs. One day, he decided to discard the DVD/CD covers, and put them all organized in these large album-like books that have CD inserts and we became so much more organized…. I bet your son is learning valuable lessons too! Thanks for sharing!!

  • http://www.rhysgifford.com Rhys Gifford

    I actually stumbled across this site from Leslie, whom I follow. It’s safe to say I will now be following you too :) Great stuff keep up the good work

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      So very glad to have you here, Rhys! :)

  • Charlene

    Love this podcast and listened to it twice and now I know what I will be working on to eliminate:
    I’m too old
    I’m not quick/smart/savvy enough.
    Thanks for all you share!

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Thank you Charlene, thanks so much, and welcome!! Those are good phrases to eliminate, no doubt.
      Did you know that I am right now running a contest for 1-year anniversary of the podcast. Love to have you participate: Episode 50 Contest. There is cash prize too!