Elimination: Clearing the Path to Your Success

Elimination is the greatest hidden secret to unleashing your energy and clearing the path to your success.

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It turns out, as I’ve learned through my usual string of mistakes, that adding often does not add much at all. It’s in subtracting – in removing, in eliminating – that we get closer to our real place in this world , clearer on our purpose, and closer to our own full potential of being and doing our absolute best and brightest.

In the last year, I have subtracted a lucrative corporate career that stopped serving me years ago, my beautiful long gorgeous hair that was just getting in the way of my freedom, and a number of relationships that were just not making me happy anymore. (And yes, don’t forget, the element of happiness matters in relationships!)

I have shocked people, surprised my family, and raised a lot of eyebrows with these drastic decisions but fun as that was, that’s not why I did them.

You do things because they matter to you and because your own happiness rides on that card and the world’s reaction is, well, what it is. That’s none of your business. YOU are your business and your happiness and freedom is at stake here so it’s serious business too.

I want to tell you how this elimination process can help free you like a bird out of its golden cage. I want to convince you that it can open doors for you. I want to show you how it can give you eyes to see and hands to touch those dear things that you crave and yet find inaccessibly far.

Every single time that I subtracted, that I shed something, that I left something that was perceived to be valuable or important or “precious” on the table and walked away and said, “thank you but this won’t work for me anymore. So thanks but no thanks!” I felt stronger, I felt happier, and I felt lighter. I felt clarity, I felt momentum, I felt in charge of my time and in control of my life.

It. Felt. Right. Every single time. What bigger proof do you need? Listen to your feelings!

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These intense feelings run through my body and pump my heart every single day, these delicious feelings of freedom and strength that I had not known could exist on this plane.

You can have them too. You decide by asking yourself, what is it costing you not to have these feelings of strength and freedom?

You know, for me, I was just so sick of being in the backseat, meandering and wondering and wasting time while being swayed by the heavy weight of decisions that I had made years ago, decisions that did nothing for me now.

We change, we evolve, we grow, and we find our place so why not adjust your life on every single level to that new direction of your life so that it is in full synchronicity? Every time you don’t do that, you are taking away energy from your forward momentum, and that’s why you can’t reach your goals. If every part of you — your body, your mind, your heart and your spirit — is pointed in the same direction and moving in the right path, the path of your goals and dreams, then it is just a matter of time before you get there, but when a part of you is pulling you this way and another is pulling you that way, when your energy is scattered and things get in the way, start subtracting!

If you have outgrown a friendship and still continue it just-because, you are taking energy away that could be put into driving you closer to your goals. Eliminate it.

If you are stuck in your career, and stay there, all stuck and unhappy, how can you possible move forward toward your dream career? Leave it. Find something better. You won’t regret it.

Great things happen when you move, when you change, when you act, when you do something about the situation. Wishful thinking is for dreamers and I have no fluff or daydreaming here on this blog. I have real stuff, real practical wisdom that I’ve lived and practice daily.

Do something about everything in your life and it is impossible not to see your strength become unified and your energy gather about you in amazing ways. It will become impossible NOT to reach your goals when you have eliminated the things that get in the way.

Sometimes, a drastic decision can give you a kick-start. Mine was simple: I decided I was doing things that did not make me ridiculously happy and satisfied.

So I went on my own strike and decided to reserve my time and my life for things and people that bring me so much intense joy and happiness that I have to pinch myself every minute of the day because how is it possible to be so happy with working so hard and giving up so much ….

And yet I have never, ever, been happier, not in my laziest days in the paradise of Hawaii or in my greatest travels around the world even though I am a fanatic traveler and a huge travel junkie.

What I am trying to say is this:

Happiness happens right there in your heart and it starts with the right mindset, which leads to decisions that lead to actions. Actions such as elimination of the wrong things.

You do not even need to leave your doorstep to have this intense happiness, this inner peace and this freedom that I am talking about.

Doing things just out of routine and habit will bring you to this point of standstill, this “meh”, this “blah” feeling, this totally-the-opposite-of-what-life-should-be-and-can-be mediocre feeling of just living day to day, going to places, doing things and being with people, without feeling the enthusiasm, the excitement, the rage of happiness and the delicious smell of your own freedom.

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So, now that you are all pumped up to subtract away, here are 8 places to start with 8 tips that I offer you from the bottom of my heart. It’s not easy at first, I know, i do, but it gets really easy really fast after that first smell of freedom and inner peace.

Here’s the top 8 things to eliminate right away:

  1. Bad thoughts – You are your thoughts and if you knew the power of those thoughts, you’d never think a negative one. I heard that somewhere. And it bears a lot of truth.
  2. Bad foods – You know whether you are eating it or not and you know what you need to do. Enough said.
  3. Bad health habits- Anything goes here, alcohol consumption, substance abuse, smoking, sloth, overeating, oversleeping, you name it.
  4. Bad relationships – Or any relationship that doesn’t get you all excited and thrilled to be in the presence of this other person.
  5. Bad job or career – The kind that zaps the life and energy out of you before lunchtime, the kind that nauseates you, the kind that you do just to get a paycheck but can barely stand. That!
  6. Bad news or information – Stuff you read, watch or otherwise consume. There is awareness and being in the know and obsessing over information that takes up precious time and resources away.
  7. Bad self-image – Which is tied so much to poor self-care. Those awful thoughts around your appearance to the world, most of which is made up. Our imagination can be a terrible thing.
  8. Bad perspective – Your perception of the world will become reality. When you realize how powerful this is, you will choose the best perspective and let go of all the bad ones.

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Over to you: What have you eliminated in your life? What have you subtracted in all the weight that you carry on your shoulders? What has it done for you? Tell me in the comments and let’s carry less and get further through smart elimination!

  • http://suziecheel.com Suzie Cheel

    “Happiness happens right there in your heart ” and sometimes we really have to listen very closely to those messages the heart and our intuition give us that will help us to eliminate what doesn’t juice us and make us feel good as well as raising out vibes.
    Thanks for the inspiration on a day where i am am doing some pausing and reevaluating
    namaste
    Suzie

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Suzie, how lovely to see you and how nice of you to share your lovely thoughts. It’s powerful when we can finally tap into that happiness, isn’t it? I hope your day has picked up a lot since then and hope we talk soon. Sending you heaps of invigoration!

  • Jeanie Witcraft

    They say that when one door closes another one opens, yeah? Well, I got stuck in the Hallway of Depression, marked by the Path of Inaction, Scattered Purpose, and Failure to Integrate.

    I sent out a call for reflection to my trusted, wiser-than-self friends, as you know. :) The overwhelming consensus is to care for self first, and craft a business thoughtfully which will support my life, dreams, and bigger goals via money exchanges. The cure for this depression is Action. No more excuses, whining, or complaining. There’s a trio of questions I’m pondering now:

    “What do I want from life?” / “What will I give up to get these things?” / “What am I willing to pay attention to consistently?”

    It is in the answer to these 3 questions that I will find my thing worth fighting and/or dying for, if need be. :)

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Jeanie, we’ve been talking on and off about this stuff with you and I am hoping fiercely that you are no longer in that hallway. Yes to caring for yourself first and yes to all the other stuff too but also maybe, focusing on what you will be becoming not so much the stuck place you are? I mean, if you constantly tell yourself that you are moving in the right direction, that is IS going to happen, that you are on the right path AND infuse that with practical tools and how-to, I think you will find more inner peace? But what do I know? I just care about you deeply. And those 3 questions are a great place to start. :)

  • http://www.dare2dream-dare2do.com Jacki

    Something has clicked for me recently, and it is much easier for me to shed the bad perspective. This is true even in trying or disappointing times. I would love to shed the bad job, and am taking steps to do so, and I think the “taking steps” is what is really helping with the perspective. I may not have left the job yet, but knowing that I am moving forward to do so, and not just letting it happen, gives me a bit more confidence to move forward with shedding others negatives.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi dear Jackie, how lovely of you to share your perspective …. And you WILL shed the bad job. You have to be in the right place and have the right timing that works for you – My coaching practice is now mainly revolving around helping people move out of a bad job and the timing is very personal, and so long as you are working towards an exit actively, then you will get there precisely when you need to get there. Here’s to smart elimination for both of us in the coming months! :) Thanks again for stopping by!

  • Jennifer

    Farnoosh,

    Thanks for this post. It affirmed everything I’ve begun to believe about how less is more in many areas of life. I’ve already subtracted a few things (job, physical items, etc.) and the relief of the burden of those things has compelled me to find other areas in my life to subtract that which is either harmful or just not meaningful. My next step the second thing you sugggest, bad food. It’ll be hard but so worth it. Thanks for being an example of how to eliminate things to live a better life.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      You are so sweet, and so very welcome, Jennifer. It starts with physical stuff and then it moves to the mental and emotional stuff, and it is a wonderful feeling to eliminate what doesn’t work. Food: a big one, and always a work in progress, you know? Just don’t be too harsh on yourself, and do it slowly … and find good food that you can just fall in love with and crave. Yum! Now I am hungry ;)! Thanks for stopping by.

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  • http://metal-merchants.co.uk Keith

    I like the points that you make about subtracting the divisive and sapping elements of your life. Throughout my life I start on a path like this looking for harmony from within, but find that after a while I tend to get distracted and I find that I’m no longer doing it.

    I need to increase my concentration levels to enhance my wellbeing, and stick to a new exercise regime as a start to a healthier lifestyle. One small step, but it’s a start.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Keith, it does bring harmony too – what a great word. And don’t worry, we all get distracted. It is a work in progress all the time. Good luck and one small step at a time will get you there, I know it will. It’s a GREAT start. Thank you for stopping by and come back anytime, Keith!

  • http://www.mommy-labs.com Rashmie @ Mommy Labs

    Farnoosh,
    Stopping by here after a long time. Didn’t visit all these days not because I had subtracted your blog and writings but because I was trying to subtract a few things that were eating up my space – in mind and time!
    Really, can you believe that I have been going through such thoughts, too, and more so recently. it’s not easy in my society to subtract the baggage – of relationships especially! The obligations run deep and impact many people and families so it’s hard to not keep going around with the baggage.
    And yet, I am so done with some of that baggage. I wish to live lighter!
    Your article has come at a perfect time to lend some more courage to me. :)
    And, your clarity of thoughts and deeds are really admiring! Many hugs, friend. I’ve missed you and have missed reading your thought-provoking writings.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Absolutely delighted to see you here, my dear Rashmie. Oh I hear you on the baggage, I do. Cultural pressures. The hardest of all. But you only know your own limit and while I am certain your limit is much much higher than mine, I think you are close to reaching it at this point …. I wish you the very best. I am sending you heaps of love and courage to do what FEELS right. Listen to your feelings, they know what they are talking about :)! Thank you for stopping by, Rashmie.

  • Cheziannhe

    Bad things should be eliminated and we are aware with it…Sometimes, when we think about bad thoughts, we are inviting bad vibes then…So it should really be eliminated…

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Cheziannhe, yes, I agree. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

    • http://www.theunboundedspirit.com Sofo @ The Unbounded Spirit

      Very well said. The Law of Attraction and Karma are always working.

  • http://theway2fullconsciousness.com veehcirra

    This is a really powerful post Farnoosh. You are so right, at times less is always more, especially when it comes to things that take energy from us. I love the quote you have shared, “You are your thoughts and if you knew the power of those thoughts, you’d never think a negative one.”. It’s a scary thought when it is said that way, makes me wonder and literally shudder.

    These past few days, I have definitely subtracted somethings in my life. I starting with my closet, then my phone book, then the people in my life…those who take energy from me. It’s shocking when we come to realize just how much baggage we have carry around with us. That we just need to let go. Very refreshing read. Thank you.

    Your new avatar looks awesome :)

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      I am SO proud of you, so so proud, Veeh, for subtracting and feeling good about it. Great job because now you know the power that it holds and how much it can ADD to your life, and I hope you continue to feel good and move in the right direction to feel that refreshing lightness. Thank you, and I am glad you like the haircut. :) Lovely seeing you here.

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  • http://www.myaspergers.net Steve Borgman

    I’ve been eliminating the junk food and reducing the amount of TV in my life. And I’ve added a lot of walking and running out in nature. Those three changes have made a big difference in my personal growth.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi dear Steve, oh that’s a big one to eliminate …. good for you! Are you feeling better? I bet you can see the outside transformation happening slowly for you. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing, and for being here.

  • http://www.jobiety.com Kashif

    To me, elimination means wiping out clean your life’s writing board – so that you can write another, better story.

    Let go. Because, less is more.

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi Kashif, Lovely explanation – thanks for sharing – yes, less IS more. Gotta love the irony :)!

  • http://dave-lucas.blogspot.com Dave Lucas

    Added tip: Get rid of CLUTTER – if you don’t use it or won’t need it – throw it away or give it away.

    If it is something cool that you should be using WHAT ARE YOU SAVING IT FOR???

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      True, sometimes it’s a memento, sometimes it’s sentimental values, but generally, few things should make that list…. thanks Dave for sharing your advice here.

  • http://mylavidavegan.blogspot.com/ Drizel

    Hi Farnoosh

    I came to your wonderful writings by chance…or did I??? ;)
    I eliminated 20kg and saved myself from obesity:) I am now a raw vegan and things are looking up.
    I also want to get rid of my day job in hell, but I also believe each day at a time:)
    Thanks for sharing happyniss :)

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Dear Drizel, AMAZING. GOOD FOR YOU!!! You know, I have a lot of vegan and raw vegan recipes and blog posts here so feel free to do a search. Also, as far as your job goes, do you want free uncensored career tips from this corporate escapee (me?) If yes, join my career newslist and let’s find you an exit strategy: Smart Exit Blueprint. Thanks for sharing your joy – very happy for you.

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  • http:/livealifeofgratitude.blogspot.com G Angela

    Elimination, the timing is perfect dear friend, I have just got rid of my bike, which was not only troubling me but increasing my speed to accomplish a lot of things, just to give me the feeling of have done a lot – I gave up riding and have increased walking, feeling much lighter and less stressed.

    Eliminated some of the invitations/functions from extended families and friends, to create my own space to have enough time for myself.

    I need to eliminate bad food, in the process of working on it, taken small steps, limiting myself to simple food, and avoiding late dinner, started early dinner with my daughter, and getting enough sleep.

    I recently got rid of lot of clutter,which I gave away to those who needed it,
    I have got rid of reading everything that comes my way, now i am choosy and read only what i want to, and what empowers me.

    Thanks for sharing, you are very inspiring and i feel good to visit your blog !

    • http://www.ProlificLiving.com Farnoosh

      Hi there, Angela! bravo bravo and bravo AGAIN!!! As long as you are still exercising and staying active, because that’s very important, then why not give away the bike? I had one that I did give away years ago but I like indoor spinning classes a lot. Now real bravo on eliminating the social clutter :)! That takes courage, and then super bravo on eliminating bad foods. You are on a great roll here, Angela. You must feel remarkable. Be proud of yourself and come back to visit anytime. Love hearing about your success!

  • Amelia

    i agree, and this is precisely part of my process for the last 3 years now. With relationships, there is a fine balance between knowing when i am too hard on others with too high expectations, or when i truly don’t want to spend time with them. In this tiny college which I am not too fond of for the social superficiality, i have only found 2 or 3 i enjoy spending time with, and even then i only trust 2 of them. being an extrovert, & in high school used to tons of friends, i get energy from people. So clearing these relationships feel good and do give me more energy .. but at some point, i don’t quite know how to proceed, since I do need friendships & energy from people too ! And when i do give in & open up, and give much effort to a relationship, then i realize that the other person regards the friendship very lightly .. what are the words springing from your heart on this ? thanks for sharing, Farnoosh. (: