
Experience – that most brutal of teachers, but you learn, my god! do you learn!
~ C.S. Lewis
They say we learn best from our own mistakes, and there is some truth to that, yes, but if you could save time and effort and a few tears and avoid certain mistakes, would you not want to do it, especially if I promise that you could still make plenty of other mistakes on your own?
Today, I want to encourage you to take heed from the mistakes in my first-year of self-employment, especially coming into it from years of being a corporate employee. What shifts in mindset do you need to cultivate? What smart habits in working by yourself and for yourself do you need to develop? What things do you need to pay attention to and what should you avoid? What activities should you invest your time in? What tools and systems should you put in place? And more.
The world of self-employment can take on many shapes and it requires some patience. Mine comes to you from the perspective of running an online business mainly from home but also from the road traveling the world on a few lucky occasions. I mainly speak around the experience of, building relationships and connecting with customers, clients, peers and business partners mainly through the web, while combining that with in-person conferences and meet-ups. Your model may be different or similar, no matter, there are still common threads in our paths and here are my mistakes in high hopes of saving you time, money and those tears!
First and foremost, before you even come into this space of self-employment, I urge you to decide the answer to these questions in advance:
How are you going to think about what you can offer the world? You are the one that decides this. Is it big or small? Is it worthy or not? Is it going to make a difference or just a few bucks? Is this just a little hobby or a real business? Are you building just a website or a company? You decide this in your heart of hearts. Not your marketplace. Not your customers. Not your industry peers. Not your family. Certainly not your ego. Bless them all for being there but these decisions, you make on your own and then, you commit to them. You hold your answers sacred and move ahead with the act of pursuing that in which your heart now fully believes.
Now on to those mistakes I want you to avoid, because nothing is more invaluable to a self-employed superstar than the smart and efficient use of his or her time. And I’ll warn you -I have lots of recommendations here for you, including affiliate programs and my own products, all which I unconditionally love, use and trust.
1. Invest in yourself through a coach or a mentor: I did this in my corporate career but not at the beginning of my self-employment path. It is one of the main reasons I now offer my coaching program, because I believe in the value of working with someone who has been there and done that and can now impart that knowledge in such a way that you can find useful and applicable to your situation. This is an investment that you make back at least 2 if not 3 fold!
2. Educate yourself but don’t drown in learning: I love learning, especially when it’s something that I am passionately interested in, but you have got to strike the right balance between learning and doing. You do not want to become a learning junkie that never implements. You don’t need to read every ebook out there on success factors. You need to learn the ropes, understand the landscape and then APPLY your knowledge.
3. Don’t waste time on the small techie stuff: “Excuse me, God, but I want all those hours back, please!” Oh yes, the countless hours I spent tweaking a stupid plugin or a website theme. It was way too much of my time for too little reward. Focus on what matters when it comes to your website, your product design, your plugins and widgets and bells and whistles, and make sure to only invest enough time to make what matters work, and get the right aesthetics in place without becoming borderline obsessive!
4. Invest in good audio equipment: Audio quality matters! I don’t know about you but to me, crappy audio means unprofessional and uncaring and it speaks volumes about the creator. I don’t listen to podcasts with poor audio quality and I get very angry when someone’s product has seriously low audio quality. Don’t skimp on audio. Invest in good sound quality for all your audio work from interviews to products to podcasts to many more. Check out Richer Sounds for great equipment.
5. Start an email list on Day 1: This is advice that you hear from every internet marketer and I would listen. Most of us regret not having started our email lists for lead generation on Day 1. This goes for you in just about every model of business. I love Aweber and am a huge and loud advocate for them, and love to let you know how it works and save you time with quick killer tips if you want to sign up through me.
6. Don’t fool around with your SEO (Search Engine Optimization): Unless you are doing business on the moon, you will be using Google and you would like for Google to know about your existence so it can be a nice little player and tell all your customers and clients about your said existence. So please, don’t fool around with SEO. Sign up for the *BEST* tools. If you are running a blog, I am a huge advocate of Thesis and Scribe, and those are my affiliate links and I will get you started with my time-saving tips if you sign up with them through me.
7. Upgrade that internet service: I remember fighting about this one with my tech support guy, my brother, and he put his foot down on how we needed to have decent hosting service. These are the things that build your foundation and you should not skimp here. I’ve used several companies. Bluehost does an excellent job, and go for a decent service – not minimum connectivity – that is worthy of your website users.
8. Attend conferences and meet-ups with purpose: Everything should be done with purpose but especially when you are forking out money to go to a conference. You will see heaps of opportunities to attend conferences and meet-ups. Be selective and ask yourself why you want to attend a particular event, what do you get out of it, what intention drives you there and what does it do for your overall mission and business?
9. Stay vigilantly healthy and active: Self-care does not take time from you. It gives time back and you need your health on this journey. Please don’t become a lazy entrepreneur in the name of “too much work”! I have gone through both phases, and there are times when it’s nearly impossible to get the workout in with deadlines and launches but you can do something – you can eat well, you can reduce stress with meditation, you can do 10 minutes, right? I created my 10 Minute Invigorator to keep the self-employed spirit alive and breathing. Watch Day 1 with me for FREE here.
10. Position yourself right in your marketplace: This one was not easy for me. From the very beginning, ask yourself who is your target market and what does your ideal customer avatar look like? Imagine them. Picture them coming to you and serve them. Position your services and your gifts in such a way that it is perfect for them. And forget about people who fall outside your marketplace. You are not God. You are not serving every moving and breathing thing. So relax and save your best for your ideal clients and customers.
11. Don’t undercharge for your services: This is the hardest lesson for the first-time entrepreneur, to know how to package and price, and most of us under price just to be on the “safe” side. The problem is that the psychology of buying does not work that well and you are doing no one a service by under-charging. If you feel you can deliver the value and the ROI to your clients, then you need to be fairly compensated and they need to make an investment that they find worthy of their time. Find the right pricing for your offerings.
12. Spend your listening time wisely: There are many ways to continue your learning and education while away from the computer, and audio products are the best way to do that. Tap into the amazing resources of audio online, either free or paid programs, podcasts, interviews, and even take your favorite YouTube speeches and turn them into audio using a quick plugin and just listen while in the car, in workouts, or running errands. Keep your mind sharp and active!
13. Don’t seek out family or friends for business support: One of the worst advice you will hear is to go out and tell all your family and friends about your burgeoning business. Please refrain! This one I would avoid like the plague. Why would people who know you buy your stuff? The only reason is that they feel bad and awkward about not doing so, or they don’t and it hurts your feelings or they buy under pressure and it makes them feel uncomfortable. Please, leave them be! Let them stay family and friends and go out and find strangers who are your ideal clients and customers and then make new friends while doing real business.
14. Put smart and efficient systems in place: This includes everything from your back-end workflow to your website to your check-out process and your accounting and books. You need to be on top of your systems and you need to make it very easy for your customers to pay you and to do business with you. I love Freshbooks, advocate them highly, and can’t say enough about how much they have saved me time and money!
15. Don’t get upset about refunds or unsubscribes: In fact, every time I get them now, I celebrate. I feel so fortunate to have people who recognize that my stuff, brilliant as they may be to me and my fans, are not right for them, and so they politely opt out and I appreciate it greatly. We need to do business only with those with whom we are meant to engage and when you connect with someone well, it is a priceless experience, so focus your efforts on reaching out to your ideal clients.
16. Stand for something in your writing and fully express it: Whatever model your business, you will do some writing. You may do a lot in some cases. Writing is the basis of all wealth. Writing is essential to your success. When you write, stand for something, don’t be full of air and fluff, don’t agree with everyone for the sake of being liked or popular. And please use your best skills – check out my Writing Manifesto as a reference. Look into Stephen King’s On Writing for a killer resource. Be original, be authentic, be uniquely you in your expressions of ideas and opinions.
17. Don’t chase your every idea: This is a toughie. I know you will have many ideas and they will drive you crazy unless you chase them around right then and there but this will not be a smart way to process your idea or to use your time. I recognize the value in every idea and the potential it can have, so instead of chasing all your ideas as they come to you, I recommend that you create an Idea Locker – this can be a digital place you store ideas or a notebook – and write them down as they come to you but then develop a process to go through them. Here’s a 3-step process for Idea Recognition, Capture and Organization for more detail.
18. Join a Mastermind group: I believe in the power of a single human being and I know we can achieve great things on our own. More minds is not necessarily better at all. I am not naive about that one. However, more smart minds that can mingle and interact with yours and push yours, now that is the power of a great mastermind group and if you can become a part of the RIGHT one for you, then I highly recommend it.
19. Read voraciously: I don’t yet read a book a week but I read a lot. I read on business topics that interest me and are directly applicable. I read books on spirituality and positive thinking. I read novels. I read because it keeps my brain sharp and young, and it helps my writing tremendously. During the periods that I stopped reading, I know that both suffered. Integrate reading into your DNA!
20. Learn to say no and learn this one fast: I saved the best one for last. Learning to say no politely, professionally and sincerely to opportunities and invitations etc. will not only expedite your growth and success, it will give you true confidence about whom you are meant to serve and how you are meant to spend your time. It will give you the momentum to give a resounding yes to everything else that is right and true for you.
Alright, my darling readers, this post has run much longer than my intention and I still had to hold back many more mistakes for a future post. Care to share your thoughts or tell me your experience with us in running a business of your own?
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Hi farnoosh; another excellent post. you could have said learning to say no twice. smile and for those who haven’t realized it yet, most of the times you will have to say no it will be to things that your heart wishes you could say yes to. I often have to turn down clients because they are looking for someone who can finance their purchases or they need someone who can handle transactions for equipment that is headed outside the u s and the seller must be able to handle packing for shipment, arranging transportation, overseeing installation, and instructing them on proper operation. someday i hope to be able to, but for now I just have to tel them thanks but no thanks. take care, max
Hello dear Max, lovely to see you again. I want to tell you that you’ve done a remarkable job on your site – I just read your bio line. Well-done!
Ah I love it. Saying no TWICE. Do you know I just recorded Friday’s podcast and it’s all about saying no? I would love to know what you think about that when it comes out. Thank you for the smart input here, Max!
Hi Farnoosh; thanks for the kind words about my site. being visually impaired I am always worried that my site and the related blog may not be flashy enough for people who depend more on images than on the written words. So, hearing that you liked it is a great relief. I mean my friends and family all say its fine, but just maybe they would say that even if it wasn’t. smile I’m looking forward to friday. and of course, I’ll be back to comment. I enjoy your posts and your podcasts and your site is so easy to navigate with my screen reader. take care, max
Makes me VERY happy that you can navigate the site easily. That is a huge compliment to me. Flashy doesn’t last, Max. Go for what lasts and words make lasting impressions so create your art with your words, my dear!
Hi Farnoosh; yes, your site is easy to get around, and judging by your reply, you didn’t spend any special effort to make it that way. smile so, you must have some natural ability or instincts as to how to lay out a page. Its something i wish more people would think about. You probably won’t be surprised when I tell you how often i fill in a form only to find out at the end that they have a security question with no audio or non visual option. And I absolutely hate the audio captcha used by google. I mean who can understand those numbers in the middle of all that space noise. smile thanks for the great posts and friendly site. take care, max
A big shout out to you Farnoosh for collecting all of these tips into one amazing post.
My two cents: Have a clear intention about who you are and what you are here to do with your one precious life. Yes, you are indeed brilliant at about 1,000 things, but in all honesty you only LOVE to do about 5 of them.
Loved the reminder to take care of our bodies. I hear it a lot from clients, “I don’t have the time.” Later on, they say, “I wish I had made the time.” A very hard and sad lesson.
And YES to the good audio/video equipment. Why on earth would we want to distort the beautiful messages we are delivering to the world?
Thanks Farnoosh!
Robin, hello again!! Thank you so much for reading, and I love how your clients also validate the thing we both know: taking care of our bodies…. !!
I love the word intention – so everything you say resonates well with me. And boy, brutal truth on figuring out what to do, despite our brilliance at the multitude of things… no kidding!!
OH and thank heavens someone else agrees with me on audio quality! I cannot believe how some people overlook this and their message could have been SO good…. !!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I am loving having you as a new reader!
That #10 is a good one
Easier said than done right? lol
Excellent shares!
Tony, my darling, you know it! I am working on it, I am!! Thank you SO MUCH for being the most fabulous friend! Keep pushing me please.
You covered so much ground in this article. It was so well thought-out. In fact, anyone could make a case for all of them being the top priority. For me, I would say that the one I still must learn better is wasting time on small techie stuff. I am smiling though that I have embraced many of the actions that you recommend.
One thing I would echo and expand is to start using your email list ASAP. Send good education, motivation, resources and other useful assistance. It benefits your followers AND helps you better achieve #10 & #16 because you learn more about yourself.
I do wonder what your thoughts are on how important joint venture relationships are. These are folks who don’t necessarily fall into the Mastermind group although they could. Excellent article!
Leon, my dear friend, would you believe that just today, I had to decline a partnership with a JV? It was just not a good fit at least at this time, and I was very humbled that they had picked me but I am focusing on other types of partnerships. For me, that model hasn’t presented itself as a compelling one yet, and for me, it has to be really good because I am very selective right now.
OK glad we agree on email list too, that one is huge! And you do a phenomenal job with that, so I would say you are on track.
So happy to see you here today. Keep rocking the world with your encouragement, dear Leon!
Great post. I’d also add, “Start small and grow.” If I could do things over there are about 100 mistakes I’d avoid. Trying to grow too fast was probably the biggest one of all.
Dear Andrew, great advice, and I guess you probably will get some backhanded compliments on that one but I do hear you – there is pain associated with success just as there is with failure and you have GOT to be prepared for it! Thank you so much and may you grow at precisely the rate you need and may it surpass your biggest ambitions
! Thanks again for stopping by!
Farnoosh,
Thank you for sharing your hard won learning with us! I’m sure these lessons will help us cut through a mile of unnecessary activity and angst. I resonated strongly with your introductory point (know what you are offering) and your last “mistake” related to learning to say no! Well done!
Dear Sandra, you are so so welcome, and I am sure we have shared some of these lessons, even though our blogging journeys have diverged…. Great to see you here. I hope that your blog is going in the exact direction that you want. Are you planning on turning it into a business or perhaps, you have already done so? I’d love to know what you have been exploring as of late.
I might reply in a post! I will let you know when I write it. Love to you, Sandra
Yay for number 20! It’s a great one! Also, I would add: If it’s not a “Hell, Yes,” it’s a “Hell No.” Works for me.
Thanks dear Z, that takes out any and all blurry lines if I had any
! I just did podcast Episode 45 today and it’s all about saying no too. I think for now, I got it out of my system
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OK I agree with quite a lot of this – but I’m sorry I’m going to call you out on saying SEO Scribe and Thesis are the best SEO products out there. They are not. Thesis was the first WordPress Framework – unfortunately its never really moved on. In fact if you are on Thesis that pretty much means that, unless you are a programmer, you will need to hire technical help. I’m pretty good technically, but I had to abandon Thesis because it was unbelieveably complex. There are plenty of much better places to start – in fact the beginner would do worse than just using the free default 2012 theme from WordPress. I personally use Catalyst and have for years – because it actually does what Thesis has only claimed to do, for years.
Now SEO Scribe. I’m afraid I’m even more passionate on this one – you don’t need it! Here’s how you do on-page SEO – use the term you want to rank for in your title – in your first paragraph in your last paragraph. That’s it. Write naturally and if you are keen use the term in the “description” of any images you use on the post. Put relevant links on your sidebar. That’s it – maybe I undercharge – but if you Google “seo scribe alternatives” I think you’ll find my articles on the subject (results 1 and 2 usually) – outranking a whole bunch of “experts”.
An awful lot of SEO is based on making it all seem very “hard” for the average person- its not, so please don’t encourage this dependency by promoting this particularly worthless tool.
Dear Lissie, thanks for your input. We can agree to disagree. Now my readers have extra perspective between the 2 of us to help them choose their best themes and platforms and SEO tools.
Fabulous list … for me the main one is to treat your business as a BUSINESS not a hobby – all too often people think that because social media is fun that they can fool around when it comes to their online business activities …
Great tips as always Farnoosh! Love that you are really celebrating your first year
Hello dear Ameena,
! That’s where people just confuse things. Same as working from home – it’s hard to set boundaries sometimes because you are not always up for a cuppa tea and an hour long chat
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No Kidding, right? Social media is heaps of fun, no kidding, but my gosh is it not a game
Lovely seeing you here – makes my celebrations so much more fun!
Hello dear Ameena,
! That’s where people just confuse things. Same as working from home – it’s hard to set boundaries sometimes because you are not always up for a cuppa tea and an hour long chat!
No Kidding, right? Social media is heaps of fun, no kidding, but my gosh is it not a game
Lovely seeing you here – makes my celebrations so much more fun!
Hi Farnoosh,
In looking at you list, I have made every single one of those mistakes. It is funny that even after reading about the pitfalls of other entrepreneurs, I still made those mistakes. I am wondering if some of it is just the price of admission to having you own business.
#10 and #14 are what I am currently working on right now. I haven’t yet found the right audience and my business is not as efficient as I want it to be.
I am going to print this list and post it next to my computer because these are mistakes I don’t want to be making again.
Hi dear Lisa, welcome here. So glad that you are here, and believe me, I am still working through some of these too. You WILL find the right marketplace, if I can do anything to help you let me know. And I am humbled that you want to print this out. Go for it. It’s all yours and may it help you tremendously in your business. Here’s to great success!
Hi Farnoosh,
Thank you for your support and offer to help. I may take you up on it.
There is a lot of good information in this article–information that I need to keep me working in the “right” way.
Interestingly, after I printed the article, one of my Facebook likers, unliked my blog and I found myself in a funk. In reality, I know that it is not a big deal and it narrows down my audience to those who really want to hear what I have to say, but I guess since I had just 12 likes, it felt monumental. I guess I need to work on #15 too. LOL.
Success to you too!
Dear Lisa, please tell me you are kidding!! You got into a funk because some stranger out there decided they no longer “liked” your page??? Noooooo!!! You have got to get used to it. People are fickle! Social media status means nothing if you don’t have inner confidence and true conviction in what you are doing, my dear! Here, sign up for my FREE 21-Step Confidence Building Series first, and chin up! This is JUST the beginning. Just focus on whom you are meant to serve, period and do hit me up if you want me to push you hard!
I know… it’s pretty sad–just too many things not going the way that I want them to.
That is why I thinking blogging and everything that comes with being successful at it is so good for me. It is inspiring me to grow in ways that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
I am sigining up for the course now!
Thanks again.
Have a good day.
Hi Farnoosh
Fabulous List!
Building a business can be a rollercoaster ride. There’s quite a few in that list of yours that I’ve fallen prey to along the journey.
Drowning in learning, not taking care of me, undercharging, & that two letter word that can be sooo difficult to say at times. But I will say that I’ve learned from every step…but sometimes I wish I could have shortcut the process
Hi dear Jackie, we have fallen prey to them together. Indeed!
I *know* you are doing better than yesterday every day, and that’s all that matters, as long as we are moving forward, it is a progress in the right direction. By the way, Jackie, what is that significance of the yellow devil woman on your profile? I’d love to know if it’s not prying too much.
Thanks Farnoosh. Not prying at all
That little devil represents our own internal desires and passions that we are taught to ignore to fit convention and follow the rules. Rules often set down by others, that squash our dreams.
I believe you should pay attention to that little devil, listen to those little whispers in your ear….they come from within and they are the future whisperings of things that could be…. if only you gave them breath.
She’s also very cute (don’t you think?)…and fits my personality and brand at Respectfully Disobedient.
Hope to see you swing by the site sometime
Hello Ms. Respectfully Disobedient,
I now realize that comes from your logo and so glad you nudged me to come “over”, Jackie, and I can’t agree more with you about that little devil.
Ah, what an education here, Farnoosh. I am still blogging for fun because I am comfortable with what I do, online and offline. But here are excellent points here for bloggers who are not running a business. Thanks so much. I enjoyed the read.
Love, Vidya
(Don’t know why I don’t get new blog post updates by email. I know I am subscribed.)
Dear Vidya, blogging for fun and hobby is great and certainly a wonderful world. Enjoy it! And as for the email updates, I send out exclusive stuff to my email list – my 21 Step Confidence Building Series, and in it, I incorporate select blog posts. I don’t always send out every blog post. (I know, it’s a radical decision….my RSS feed is up to date of course.)
Hi Farnoosh,
Nice!
what a great list! I kept reading and reading and thought: wow, another great advice
A few of your ideas I implemented already – learning from my own mistakes. The others I’ll consider carefully and order to become faster
Thanks, Andrea
Andrea, so happy to see you here…. glad to have you as a reader and we are ALWAYS learning. You and me both. Great to have your input! thank you.
Hi Farnoosh,
Thanks for that in-depth list. #10. Position yourself right in your marketplace is the toughest for me but I think I’m getting there slowly, took me months though!
Knowing what I can do is very different from knowing what I provide and knowing how those two match what people desire! Hence I have found that seeking the opinions of others unabashedly, even complete strangers, has helped.
Can an eye see itself? LOL definitely not. Being too immersed in our own craft can sometimes be our undoing in this regard.
Dear Silver, hi! I am so glad to hear your thoughts and #10 is not easy, don’t feel bad. Slow is also better than fast, I believe, because it really makes sure you know what you are doing. Love the question you posed – never heard that before – can an eye see itself? The only other thing that comes to mind is when I read you can’t see the frame when you are in it. Similar, no? Good luck dear Silver!
Very useful. The points 1,2,3 and 13 particularly are the common mistakes done.
Glad you think so Venkat!
Hi Farnoosh very well written easy to follow and concise post.
Through my experiences I would add listen to your own mind before you let others influence you sometimes you know what’s best over them. Saves time, money and stress
Thank you
Love your advice Julie-Ann: Listen to your OWN mind first. This one was implied but glad you said it so loudly. That’s been one of the best shifts in my own life. Thanks for sharing!!!!