Welcome back to Episode #4 of the Smart, Opinionated and Fabulous podcast. In this episode, we talk how you can say no and feel good about it and how you can get to yes on something that you really want. What are some of the root causes that compel us to say yes all the time to the demands in our relationships? What are some of the reasons that we give up before getting to yes on something that really matters to us? We explore these fun topics with you today with our own stories and give you plenty of strategies to tackle each one in your life.
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Your Every Other Wednesday Show Notes:
1. What is the one reason we end up saying yes all the time to our family and friends and even to our bosses and how to stop it. Why it’s a mistake to say yes all the time in your career.
2. How you should learn to set expectations even with your own family and friends so that you develop new habits and stay true to yourself.
3. A personal story by Aileen at a California gas station and how she would treat that same situation today. Plus simple, effective and practical tips that you can put to use right now on how to say no professionally.
4. How to manage that ultimate feeling of guilt brought on by family members when you feel like saying no and how exactly to respond to that.
5. Learning to put boundaries on other people’s expectations, special tips from Aileen on how to talk to the boss, and the main reason you should not fear getting fired. Plus a quote from Offices Space.
6. Aileen shares why saying no was so difficult for her and what it has done for her to learn to do this now in her new career and relationships, and how you can learn through practice to do the same.
7. Resources that we mentioned as an extension to this conversation:
- The power of positive confrontation by Barbara Patcher
- Civilized assertiveness for women by Judith McClure
- Handling verbal confrontation by Robert Jerard
- Getting to Yes by Roger Fischer & William Ury
8. Our secrets on getting to yes when you get no response or a “maybe” or an initial “no” from the person that you are asking for. Aileen gives practical tips on the verbiage front and Farnoosh gives practical how-to on using practice and persistence on getting to that yes.
9. The real secret to changing the initial “maybe” and “no” to a “yes” by going back and using this single one tactic that Farnoosh shares here from her corporate experience. Trust her, it works!
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